To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

This not normal behaviour from a DH

Far from it

Exactly. Why would OP have just randomly decided to bake a selection of treats for him to take to work. It's obviously ridiculous.

He's a prick.

How far away is he? Refusing to bring them back is a dick move, it's your kids birthday FFS.

I have a very greedy 20 year old. Plus a sharpie pen. If someone specifically is saving food we right on its container..then there's no way he can pleed innocence

What a horrible man.

Never cook for him again.

I hope he gets fucking indigestion.

Ah, exploding boob buns! Yeah, I've made something similar. It was all a bit CSI.

I absolutely did Google jam slags but didn't find anything like that. (Or, indeed, anything like that. 😂)

Well, if jam slags already exist I will just have to invent jam harlots...

Has he any redeeming qualities?

Exactly this. He’s a dick. He absolutely should have checked. My partner would be upset if I didn’t make enough for him to have some too! But he always checks he can have some if I have baked something before taking anything, and especially if a party were coming up soon!

He’s a dick and he knew.

But this thread is quickly descending into the usual ‘men need to be told every little basic detail about the home life to understand, it’s not totally his fault’. Imagine having such low standards for men you excuse one who takes food from his own child’s party under the guise of ‘how would he know’. How would he not know ffs.

Dickhead. Don’t cook anything else for him tonight.

Yep, with these details added, he's got no sausage leg to stand on.

You often bake, but when you do, you tell him what he can have - so he can't plead that defence.
You told him they were for the play date - he can't defend himself there.
The fact he's refusing to bring them back or fix it - that's astounding.

I don't know what you want from the future?
More of this?
Or something else?

He's not going to change is he?
So..

He knew what he was doing and he feels guilty or doesn't care so he's refusing to bring them back. What a spiteful man. All he had to do was ask if they were for anything (rather than you tell him). It's just manners and consideration. And he's done to a child.

Does your DS like pizza? I'd get delivery pizzas for all the children that your DH can pay for.

Honestly I’d tell him to bring them all back or not bring any of himself back today. Absolutely crossed a line.

What an absolute prick. Some men just can't help making something about them when their wife is giving attention to someone else. Of course he knew.

I googled it too 🤣… Are you sure they were called jam slags - you didn’t miss hear and she thought it was so funny continued calling them that 🤣

What an asshole. I'd never cook a thing for him again. Hed starve before I made him something

What a horrible selfish man. He knew and he's decided his lunch is more important than his own child's birthday party and respecting his child and his wife's hard work.

You should make the next food you think he's going to take without asking (knowing it's for your child) unpalatable with hot chilli's or something like that.

Does your DS like pizza? I'd get delivery pizzas for all the children that your DH can pay for

Yes, that would be a start. Plus a serious conversation with him about thinking about everyone in the household and not just himself and how he should be the one to solve the problem when it was him that fucked up.

He's ruined his own kids party out of jealousy I think. He knew they were for DS, he felt jealous of the love and fact he had done fuck all. Bin

I’ve just messaged her to ask if she made the name up herself as clearly I’m missing something 😂

This. With bells on.

Any normal person would have just asked before taking a load of baking that someone else had done. I would be so fucking furious in your shoes. Out of interest, what was his response when you told him that he had fucked over your ds by stealing his party food? And what was his proposed solution?

I'd ask him if he was fucking serious.
What a fucking arse.
This just shows how little he thinks about you and DS.

It might not have been a purposeful act of depriving kids of party food, but the fact it didn't even enter his head that not everything in the house is for him shows his entitlement.

I mean, it's of a piece with tarts, so I can absolutely imagine it being a regional play on the idea that I just hadn't heard of (which is why I googled it).