To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Come on! She's having a birthday party for a child then she makes sausage rolls etc. Who has to communicate that to another adult? It's completely obvious. You would have to be married to an absolute simpleton to need instruction not to eat them.

This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

If he’s got form for being an arse, I would have assumed he’d be an arse again tbh.

I would be raging but I also would have said to him to keep his hands off as they were for x.

He is a dick, I hope he came up with a resolution? What's a Jam Slag?

How often do you have that much home baking in your kitchen?

Because I can tell you, it would only be for a party here, not many women are making that many things so their partner can share it out at the water cooler.

I do sometimes do a batch of baking but whenever I do I always say “there are some sausage rolls in the kitchen if you want to take some to work” … I don’t make jam slags etc though, imo they’re obviously for kids.

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

(jam slags - like jam tarts but bigger with jam balls on top, my mum used to make them bless her)

Of course it's unreasonable. Even if he didn't know about the party, why would he think it's acceptable to take almost all of the baking for work? Did he not think his wife might want some for herself, even if he didn't know why she made it?

Maybe that's where the confusion came about, jam slags can't be for kids!

But no, that is just incredibly thoughtless. I hope he is at least incredibly apologetic after tealiseing he's made an awful mistake?

And no he’s refusing to bring them back saying he’s busy and can’t be carting sausage rolls backwards and forwards. He’s 100% done it on purpose.

@Birump ok but then what is a jam ball?!

This is a situation where we need pictures of slags.

He knew. He absolutely knew. What a dick.

Also, who else is off to Tesco this morning for some ready made pastry and a pot of jam? Jam slags for tea here tonight! Thanks for the inspiration OP and OP's mum.

Honestly if he's done this on purpose I would be done with him

When someone tells you who they are listen!

He's selfish and only cares about himself.

It might not have been obvious they were for the kids but surely it’s obvious they weren’t for him to take to work!

you say he’s done it on purpose, is he generally a horrible person??

What a fucking dickhead

Absolute fucking bastard

Not even funny this one bloody hell

I'm thinking something like this:

https://bakingwithgranny.co.uk/recipe/buns/rasp-buns/

Which was found by googling 'jam rock cakes' to be safe.

You need to bin him.

Seriously.

It was on purpose.

Just don't ever cook him dinner again

Like never

He can fuck right off

He clearly knew. How selfish and mean of him.

Is DS his child? Why the hell would he want to spoil a child's party? It sounds like he knew perfectly well they were for something

He’s trying to spoil your day. Don’t let him. It’s a special day for you and your child. Try and have a lovely time but your husband sounds exhausting and incredibly hard work. Well done preparing such a lovely spread and shame on him for sabotaging that.

Is his response out of character?

This is not someone you want to spend your life with

I'm absolutely raging on your behalf OP!
How much of it did the greedy bastard take?
No doubt scoffed half for breakfast - if not can you collect them from him? And replace with the saddest sandwich you can manage.

I genuinely could nit be in a relationship with someone like this.

It takes 5 seconds to say, 'Are these for anything special?'