To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

You’re about 30 hours too late.

He knew fine well he is an entitled asshole who just spoiled it for his own DS! Ass hat tbh! Man needs to get a grip and grow TF up…

Yes he knew and is acting dumb. I’d be really pissed off with him too

Is your not-so-dear-husband father to your child? In that case he really is a dick. Dump him.

@rinseandrepeat1 This is the recipe I use (from a kids’ baking book 🤣).
(n.b. These are not jam slags - just the exploding boob type buns)

I'd be telling him he needs to bring them back or find himself somewhere to sleep tonight.

Point out that you are happy to tell DS that Daddy took (stole) the treats meant for him and his friends...

Did he take all of it or just some sausage rolls? Depending how much he took will affect how much trouble he is in. Taking eight scotch eggs for example is plain greedy and crazy.

I would save a jam slag to shove up his selfish arse

I voted not unreasonable but… could that be a “in a rush, my brain wasn’t on kinda mistake?”

I mean, except if he “never” is considerate…a mistake is quick to happen. He might even have thought how a good lunch he was going to have! 🫣😵‍💫😵‍💫

Preferably straight out of the oven.

I beg to differ. In fact, I have peach jam in the fridge. It's quite a nice alternative to strawberry with croissant.

@Birump what happened in the end?

Sounds like you two don't communicate.

Do you not even talk about what is planned for your son's birthday?

You can easily save the day by going shop bought - because the kids won't notice.

But it's not about the saussage roll - It's about the fact that you and your husband are not communicating.

From the OP's second post:

plus I was speaking to him last night and he asked if I was buying party snacks for today and I said “no, I’m baking for it instead” so it was obvious!!

It is not a communication problem.

Christ you are happy go lucky aren’t you ?(not)

This thread was started yesterday. The playdate has been and gone. When you see a thread has loads of posts, it's a good idea to check the date and time of the OP and, as the post above has pointed out, also check for updates from the OP.

Your husband is an arsem you need to buy a boobytrapped lock box (like a medical safe on the inside with an outer box full of mousetraps or something sticky and unpleasant on the outside) for your baked goods in the future!

Of course he knew. What a selfish arsepiece.

Well exactly! Never assume my arse. I quite like to be able to assume that my other half won’t swipe the entirety of my fresh baking which is clearly not, at least not all, meant for him, without a dicky bird, and if I can’t assume that, I would conclude I’d married an arsewipe and get rid.

It was very obvious it wasn't for him. What a dick.

It really isn’t. It just isn’t. That’s just partially (or perhaps wholly, as she made them so you’re insinuating it was up to her to get the message across more clearly, right?) blaming OP. Which is way off the mark and unfair.

As a man, I’m going to provide some defence for my kind.

He’s a clueless asshole but appreciate you all using dick as a reference as it is the main difference between us.

Ah, a man came to speak. And he’s not clueless but thanks for your opinion. Goodness knows what the rest of us would have done without it.

I can't handle even the thought of peach jam! (My phone autocorrected to Outreach Joan 😂)

Oh clueless is he, even though she told him the night before she was baking for the party and I assume he knows it's his own son's fucking birthday.

But no, he must have been "la la la la la getting ready for my big important man job so all common sense has temporarily evaded me, ooh look sausage rolls, jam slags and other bits of classic children's party food! Must be for me and my man appetite and all my friends at work, I will not even shout "thankyou for the unexpected treats dear" upstairs before scooping the fucking lot and taking it to work."

GTF