To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

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DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

😳. No! That's sacrilege!

I put a note next to something if it's for saving for something special, I thought that was a pretty standard thing to do.

I've learned never to assume in relationships, miscommunication is easy.

Self entitled.

'I put a note next to something if it's for saving for something special, I thought that was a pretty standard thing to do.
I've learned never to assume in relationships, miscommunication is easy.'

He knew. It was not miscommunication.
He took it anyway, and lied about it. Whatever his reason, it was not ignorance.

Thisoldheartofmine · Today 09:28

I had no idea until I just googled that St Dalofour doesn't contain sugar...

It does, fructose and glucose from the dates! It's just not refined sucrose.

Even if he did take them thinking they weren't for any occasion, as soon as you told him he should've brought them straight back, that's what any decent person would do. How could he eat them now, knowing they were for his son? What a twat.

Your DH is a complete and utter twat.
(I hope you had enough ingredients to make some more 🌺)

Yes, "They're for the little one's birthday." should have received the answer, "God, I'm sorry! I'll get them back as soon as I can."

He's not just being mean to his son, he's being hugely disrespectful to you.

Honestly, this would be the end of the marriage for me. I'm completely serious.

This kind of selfish, casually cruel, entitled and ungrateful behaviour towards you and your kids says everything about what kind of a person he is and what he brings to your life.

Another day,Another greedy Husband.

I can’t imagine being married to a man who is so stupid that he needs a note to tell him that party food baked in the day of his child’s party is for the party and not for his snacks at work.

communication works both ways - I would expect the man to have the basic level of intelligence to communicate a question before taking it.

i would be shocked if my partner assumed I was so thick and greedy that I would take party food to work on the day of a party.

I know.

Who is raising these "men" ?? And why are there so many of them?

Agree. His contempt for all of them is overwhelming.

if it were me there wouldn’t be a next time because I’d boot his ass out. LTB.

Who said the kids will eat all that? There are neighbours, relatives, this poor sod of a husband who is not entitled to take a ruddy sausage roll for his lunch. I hate meanness, cant' stand it. I also hate meanness in every guise - oh, I don't like food wasted, can I finish off your portion? Oh, this will cause obesity. Yeah, right, of course one birthday party will cause obesity and you care about other children's obesity?

If it’s not too far away i’d have driven over there(or got a taxi on his dime etc) and got them back. Or asked a family/friend to stop in collect if that wasn’t possible. Hopefully it would embarrass him as too.

On the face of it, particularly as you claim he did it on purpose, I would find this hard to get passed. It seems such an unkind thing to do if he knew they were for your childs birthday/playdate.

But, it is bizarre to just make 8 of everything. If I am baking something I rarely do, I am filling the oven and making my time and effort count by making batches for the whole family to enjoy for the days following.

So what happened after your husband crawled home, OP? Any apology? Did you replenish the slags?

It's pretty messed up if he did it deliberately. Is he even apologetic at all? If, as you say, he took the stuff you've baked for a kids party on purpose, what was the purpose? Just because he fancied treating his colleagues to the fruits of your labour and he didn't care about the consequences? Because he wanted to piss you off? Because he wanted to ruin the party? All of those are concerning. If he has this mindset, this can't be the first time he's done something like this. How is he generally? Tbh, he really does not sound like good partner.

I don't think OP is coming back

Man I HATE an unresolved thread. 😠

@ArnottL if someone is eating something not cos they want it, they are actually full they just don’t like waste then actually it is a waste. Ones stomach is not a dustbin.
oh and the husband took shit loads of the baking leaving not enough for the kids party. Pure greed and yes that kind of behaviour can lead to obesity

LTGB

(leave the greedy bastard)

Your DH is a CF, can you go and pick them up just so that he doesn’t get to eat them?

Sorry I don't. I just Googled to find a pic that looked similar