To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Very good!
Now, would it be alright if I took one for my husband?
I don't have kids or like sweet stuff much,
and he's a very decent old gentleman with a sweet tooth 😂

"Not the first time he's done something like this". Urgh. Horrible, selfish, entitled, arrogant arse.

Any normal person would check and ask if it's OK to have any of the food.

What other examples of selfish behaviour does he exhibit OP?

Did he take 48 items of baking all for himself? If so, he's a greedy bastard.

I bet he knew full well it was all for the party but fancied what he saw and reckoned you would just magic up more. This looks very much like one of those planned incompetence tricks.

I like it- a slag being one step up from a tart, perhaps? 😊
Hope you get it sorted in time OP, I too would be furious and he'd have to do a lot to redeem himself.

...and I need a picture of the slags please! 😁

Is he generally jealous when you pay your son attention or specifically spend time doing something that benefits him?

What a dick. Imagine doing that to your own kid. He'll he playing the big man at work, so kind of him to bring in baking for everyone....

Even if it wasn’t obvious: he should have asked instead of taking most of them for himself.

Why?

Is he always this nasty?

Rude, and probably an element of jealousy there. Also very disrespectful to you, he should have checked with you. But then again , he knew what the answer would have been, so he just took them.

I bet he is the type who would go crazy if you showed him such little respect, and no doubt did very little towards the party.

Firstly, when you're a parent you really don't get to 'not really do birthdays' for your own child. I'd be telling him I don't give a flying fuck what he does for his own birthday he helps out and makes his child's day special. Birthdays for young kids aren't optional. They're the kind of occasion that will stick with a child for better or worse. He is being a dick in the first place not to be joining in your efforts.

Secondly, there are no words for the selfishness of taking your baking.

What positives does this man bring to your's and more importantly your son's life OP?

Previously poster but just remembered from the film 'Amadeus' the Nipples of Venus cakes.
Cake inuendo is not new.
So hoping your ds has a lovely day.

Maybe the boy is 8-years-old, so having eight of each item is just symbolic.

This.
He knew.
He was greedy.
He didn't care about the party, his child, or you. He only cared for himself and his own wants.
He was probably jealous that you would bake for someone else (his child) but not for him. His thought process went something like "she has baked for someone else but not me - that's not fair, I want my share, I'm going to take what I want and serve her right".

OP - you know if this sounds true.

@Birump
Do jam slags look like this picture?

I'd be fucking fuming!!!

What's a jam slag btw?!

Taken it for work?? 😤 I'd be raging. Eaten one or two not great but fine. We had an uninvited onetime friend call to the private house after a funeral and fill her tupperware (!) with the lovely baking people had dropped in. Didn't touch the shop bought mind and couldn't understand the offence taken! He'll have to get the oven on if they've been eaten in work!

I googled - thought it must be a nice pastry I'd never heard of. Just got pictures of rocks.

I just googled what a jam slag is
The only thing that came up was jam slag mushroom and your thread 😄
If you’ve made any more can we have a picture and recipe. If you’ve got the time with all the extra cooking OP

😂

I just despair at these threads. Yet another useless dad that has not contributed anything to his child's party. Firstly why is he not at the party? I know you have downplayed it but surely your own child's birthday party is important? And then he's eaten the home baked treats. Does he actually have much input with his child on a normal basis? Or is he just a selfish tw#t?

Read this to DH, who can be a thoughtless dck (but he’s my thoughtless dck)… and he thought, quote ‘what a moron’. No excuses. Hope you managed to rebake/replace the items and make it a lovely birthday play date for DS, but DH was a twat.

I want a jam slag

I’m assuming it’s not this 😂😂

What kind of complete idiot would think his wife baked party food for him to bring to work?

This is a good point, actually…..

I am the person who does all the meal planning, shopping and cooking in our house. I’m generally a decent cook and I try to make nice family meals, so everyone is happy with that arrangement. Therefore, everyone will ask me before eating anything that isn’t “bog standard” in case it’s an ingredient for a recipe. Not because I’m some sort of control freak about food, but because it might have been earmarked for tomorrow’s dinner. (So a banana, a packet of pasta, some cereal? All fair game. A packet of smoked salmon or chicken thighs? Someone would ask me if it was okay to eat it before they snaffled it for lunch. Because that’s just courteous. There’s no way anyone could see specially baked treats, all in 8s, and think it’s just general food for general consumption and not something special. I agree with the posters saying he’d done it on purpose…..