To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

It’s gluttonous to take all of the baked goods.
He should have asked first.

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He is a dickhead
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They look like vulvas! Is that why they are called jam harlots? !

We used to have big play dates in the holidays sometimes. 🤷‍♀️

And the op did say it was an informal party, more like a play date than a party due to her child's preferences. This could also explain why it's more children than normal.

@Birump I hope you managed to sort out some replacement treats for your DS' birthday party today and that he had a lovely time!

I don't know what to say about your husband's behaviour. I can't imagine what possessed him to take the food for his own son's birthday gathering. It's such a spiteful, mean thing to do. Is it part of a bigger pattern?

My DH has a tendency to prioritise his own food needs over the children's e.g. he'll make himself lunch and not do anything extra for the kids. It's a terrible trait and I pull him up on it. He has wider food issues though, but that's neither here nor there.

Hopefully your DH will apologise and come home with something for DS to make up for it, but it doesn't sound too likely.

Your husband is a fool.

An entitled fool.

What kind of complete idiot would think his wife baked party food for him to bring to work? What has he done for anyone in the family recently that would cause him to believe someone would prepare so many treats for him? The answer is someone who believes the family owes him.

And a fool who is living a life completely separated from the life of his own child. How could he not realise the child was ha ING friends over for a birthday celebration and out two and two together?

You’ll be surprised how many actually do!
I always bake for my husband’s lunch!

Yes to this.

It's all very telling.

Is your DS his DS?

I'd lock him out.

You have a big problem here.

He had no problem carting the food one way.

This is much more serious than mere thoughtlessness.

Yes - this is jealousy.

Of his own child.

Locking him out's not a bad idea. Just tell him you have too much on - beauty sleep etc. - to come down and open the door for him.

Maybe he can magic a bed out of thin air in the same way that he expects you to be able to magically produce more party treats. And if he can't, well like him you don't much care, do you?

Are people hard of reading?

The OP literally told her H she was baking instead of buying party snacks (see 2nd paragraph)! He did it on purpose!!

You actually made them! I love you.

The jam harlots are wonderful and really made me laugh.

I think I need to make some for an event/party and just let one or two people know the name so we can have a private giggle.

This is called weaponised incompetence!

I would be a jam slag for your jam harlots

Why? Does he not have the capability to make his own lunch? Or does he do all the other cooking in return for your family?

If you know he’s done it on purpose, that’s so awful for you and your son OP. Is he your son’s dad? How could he even think about doing this to his own child and wife!

What?! Why is this relevant?

Is it ok to nick the birthday food of a child who is not your own?

Hope the party went ok after that op, definitely put the feet up this evening!!

Blimey. That escalated quickly! FFS @Theredoubtableskins you ok hun? For what it's worth I am divorced. But yes, you did find a way to make it my fault - well done!

@Persipan we all love your jam harlots, v. Waitrose level methinks.

fiftiesskin · Today 16:54
gardenmusic · Today 16:25

Is your DS his DS?
What?! Why is this relevant?

Is it ok to nick the birthday food of a child who is not your own?

Of course it's not OK, and unfortunately it can be very relevant. I am glad that you do not know this.

Hahaha, thar's funny , yes watching impatiently

The point is that the husband here will have looked at all the nice baking and resented that the OP has put this effort into something that IS NOT ABOUT HIM. He's taken the food to ensure it IS about him.