To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

Does he do things like this a lot. He sounds quite nasty.

OP now we need to know what jam balls are as well!!

PHOTO of jam slags with jam balls please!

I've googled a jam slag and I can't find the jammy treat anywhere 😔 I want to know how to make it.

These comments are hilarious 😂 yeah leave him.. I'm sure the child's dad taking some of his party food is waaay more traumatic to a child than having parents go through a divorce anyway. LOL

And before anyone says having a selfish dad will do damage blah blah, we don't know this man is as evil as you all like to believe. All we know is that he took some sausages rolls and cakes to work.

Yeah I'd be annoyed and let it be known I was annoyed but I'm sure it can be forgotten about in a few days if he apologises and realises it was a stupid thing to do.

Same 😂😂

I’ll bet he stuffed his face AND took some to work since you say most of it’s gone. What a twat.

It's about respect for people's ability to plan. I don't get people who say "of course everyone should be able to eat all the food in the house, they live in the house too".

Someone - ideally both parents, but quite often only the female parent - has the responsibility of making sure the household has everything they need on a day-to-day basis. This is not only staples like milk, cereal, bread, but also any additional items required for special events so the household can offer appropriate hospitality to guests. If a greedy arse comes along and eats all the chicken so that the rest of the family is on plain pasta that night, then that's not ok.

A party is a family event at which the entire family - including the twat "D"H - offer their hospitality to their guests. It doesn't matter if he's not present at the event, the hospitality is being offered on his behalf to invited guests in celebration of his DC's birthday.

He should therefore show an interest in the planning of the event as it reflects on him too. At the very least, it is offensive that he has actively sabotaged it. It shows that he doesn't care about the smooth running of family life and doesn't really view it as being his responsibility. Instead, it is what he wants in the moment which is the most important thing.

Personally, I'd be similarly trashing his ability to plan and wasting his time. His keys wouldn't be where he left them, his food would be unexpectedly left out of the fridge and his laundry not dry. If he thinks it's ok to make extra work for others, I'd be throwing that right back at him.

DH - classic ManTwat behaviour

Jam Slags ✊🤝🙌

I have been to the shop for jam, and will be making an attempt at inventing jam harlots this afternoon. Watch this space.

No they really are not.

Men are not infants.....although some might act like childish ass-wipes.

Divorce him, obviously.

Marking my place for jam slag update.

He's refused to do that, though, when asked.

If I were you I would now order pizza's, macdonalds etc to be delivered and use his card to pay for the kids food.

I think I would call those jam titties.

🙂

And henceforth Jammie dodgers will be known as jammie twats in memory of the OPs responsibility dodging OH.

I've learnt quite a bit about baking from this thread... 'Jam slags'? Who knew?!

OP... what have you decided about replacing these things? Can you bake them again or will you get replacements from the shops?

In terms of your husband, yes, it was bloody obvious they were for his child's party, he's probably already eaten them which is why he won't can't bring them home. He doesn't want you to call him greedy and selfish (he is).

I would definitely speak to him about this to ask why - but also say that in future, if you've made something, he is to ask before he takes any of it. No excuses and crystal clear so that there is no doubt.

Twat the least he could have done was ask before he took them.

Yeah ok, that’s not scary at all.

@HappyGoLucky96

yeah I’m sure she’s got nothing better to do than piss out going to fucking Greggs cos her greedy and inconsiderate ate everything

Ick

ick

ick

Hard to feel attracted towards greedy men

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

You sound like someone I’d happily invite over and ask to look after my small children.

Actually on second thoughts you sound genuinely unhinged and badly in need of therapy.

I value my time and the effort I make on behalf of our family and our DC, and I expect other members of the family (at least the grown-up ones) to do so as well.

Intrigued by a recipe that makes exactly eight brownies. How big are they?

@HoldingTheDoor

I bet that poster doesn’t get mugged off on a daily basis like most women on here do though

I agree. This behaviour is so out of the norm for my partner and anyone I know it just seems awful and weird.