To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

I'd really appreciate a jam slag photo

Really? In my experience men who literally steal candy from little children don't pay for parties. It's the women who put away their extra income to buy "bits for the kids" while their husbands fund their own hobbies.

Sorry OP.

I have a 19 yo DS who can be very self absorbed at times. If I do a big bake, he will always ask if he can have one and not just help himself, as they may be for visitors or a work birthday or something.

I assume your DH also knew that a member of his own family was having a birthday party?

I'd tell him to bring them back, or get himself to the shop for replacements.

Firstly, it’s odd that your DS is celebrating his birthday and your DH won’t be there - he doesn’t sound like a very involved dad tbh (and I say this as a solo parent with no dad around).

Secondly, he needs to bring the food back asap - end of. This is non-negotiable.

Is there a massive back story OP? Posts like this makes me glad I’m done with that sh*%.

OP, he sounds like a man who needs to be ‘incentivised’ to do the right thing - I.e. threatened. He brings it back - or he will seriously regret it.

I’d photo myself pouring his best alcohol for the sink and tell him he knows what to do to prevent the rest of it going the same way.

Yes, exactly -I’ve got a DS24 - he always asks what he can have/take when I’ve baked.

I dont care how inconvenient it was i would go and get them from his work.

What an arsehole.

How selfish of him!
Yanbu.

@Birump what was his excuse for taking the food? how much did he take? he is a horrible dad to do that to his childs party food when he knew perfectly well why it was there!!

As much as what the dad did was wrong … your assumption statement is harsh - it’s not odd that the child is celebrating without dad, not all jobs are mon to fri 9-5, there may be no way to have a party where everyone can be there. Also Secondly, he needs to bring the food back asap - end of. This is non-negotiable., great in theory, but not many can just walk out of their job to run back home! Clearly dad was a complete dick, but your response is just daft.

It sounds very nice, although Idk what a jam slag is.
Your husband couldn't resist and took the stuff.
I understand you are fuming, however,
I understand your husband also. Mine would be very unhappy to just look at food I prepared.
Yes, he's significantly older and we are child free.
I'd be happy if I could come up with stuff like this and he'd enjoyed it.
I understand that's not the point.
Possibly getting him involved in the preparation and making enough stuff for adults also
could be a solution.

That’s another option, yes - if I went down this route he’d know that I’m going to proclaim why I’m here very loudly if there’s a reception desk or site office etc

You’re right - that’s not the point. There is no excuse for what he’s done - he’s tried to sabotage the child’s party.

Very harsh responses, though.
Surely this can be rectified - possibly by the DH
buying and bringing home some stuff...

Are they? Because I have not yet met a single man who is the way you say all men are.

Of course they're harsh responses! OP thought she had done the party/playdate preparation and now she needs to find time (and money) to do it all over again. Her husband is now at work. Not everybody can just drop everything and nip home during the working day. For all we know he is a surgeon or a police officer or a firefighter or a retail manager on the busiest day of the working week (the last was the reason my Dad worked virtually every Saturday of the year).

My 7yo asks if he can have some when there are any cupcakes/cakes lying about.

I'm not sure why this is such an unrealistic expectation for an adult male. To exercise a modicum of self-control.

These are clearly the tossers who ate their flatmates' food when living in flatshares/uni accommodation because "it was around" and "they felt like some". It's not acceptable at age 18, it's not acceptable at 30 and it won't be acceptable at age 70.

I think the responses would be less harsh if there were any evidence whatsoever that OP's husband was interested in rectifying the problem - rather than the complete lack of accountability he's shown so far.

omg I would kill him.

Or, if he really won't bring them back, I'd be tempted to storm his place of work and wrestle them off him.

What a knob!

Not the point of the thread I know but if you’re using the word jam slag rather than jam tart because you think it sounds nicer trust me it doesn’t. Tart isn’t much better but slag is a horrible word. It could have been worse though it could have been jam slut.

Now to the point. YADNBU. He knows it’s his sons birthday I assume. It surely doesn’t take Einstein of even someone with no intelligence but a bit of common sense to realise that the food was for your little ones birthdays. Why would you be baking him a 32 lunch platter for him to gobble up on his own.

I'd be fuming too. What a selfish miscreant!

Is it because they’re even tartier than a tart, so a slag? 😂

This opens up a whole new world of jammy treats… a jam hussy, a jam whore, a jam harlot 😂

It’s only a sausage roll I wouldn’t mind

You think he has done it on purpose?

Does he usually enjoy making things difficult for you OP?

Joy-sponge bordering on the nasty. (husband not OP)

Your DH was a twat. But I'm now mainly following for resolution re: "jam slags"