To think it was obvious they were for the kids??

[Birump]

DS is having a little play date today, low key birthday “party” but DS doesn’t really do parties so it’s more of a gloried play date.
Yesterday I did some baking … 8 sausage rolls, 8 scotch eggs, 8 jam slags and 8 chocolate brownies.

Came down this morning and most of it is gone, I text DH asking if he’d touched the baking and he said yes, he’d taken it for work.

im fuming, isn’t it fucking obvious that they were for the kids for today?? He’s insisting that it was not obvious. This is not the first time he’s done something like this.

I don't even know how he could repair this to be honest. Why are so many men jealous of their kids?

I hope you show this thread to him once you've packed his bags OP.

Phoning the boss would make no sense whatsoever. Why the hell would he or she give a shit about OP’s baking? He’s a boss not a bloody nursery teacher! I suspect that she has oh about 500 things, that are more important to deal with than the OP’s petty domestic squabbles.

He was thinking with his stomach rather than his head.

He's trampled all over the OP's time and effort for their child and responded contemptuously that he's too busy to fix the mess he's made (the implication being that the OP's time is less important so she can just run around sorting everything out so their DC has a good day).

I'm afraid that is exactly the sort of combination that would make the red mist descend for me.. I'd want to make him suffer. If someone inconveniences me and doesn't give a damn, I'd want them to pay. Itching powder on shirt collars or the adult equivalent.

OP, does he have any hobbies? Is he into running? If so, maybe it's time for his running kit to go missing for a bit?

Does your mum call them slags as they look like boobies? Does she know you use the term 🤣🤣

You think there was any thinking other than "how can I fuck up my wife's day and kids party?" going on here. Quaint.

@mathsAIoptions

You think he took the baking to do that?

OP, message him back right now and tell him he brings it all back in perfect condition or he will regret it. If he has expensive alcohol it will all be poured down the sink - or whatever else will bother him.
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Everyone on the thread does, as well as the OP.
You might want to read it.

I presume a slag is a step beyond a tart? I can't say I would be thrilled if my kids came home from a party talking about jam slags...😬

Ok, does he have form for things like this? I'm curious when you say he's done it on purpose, why he would do this?

I'd be fuming, especially as you said most of it had been taken, it's not like he'd taken just one or two items.

Also I don't think jam slags are a thing - which is hilarious! Do you mean the jam thumbprint cookies?

Jam slags.

Yes, OP, I’d give the large jam tarts a new name … but seriously, if you are sure he has done this deliberately, then it would be war, as far as I’m concerned. Remind him that you’re in the house - with all his stuff.

Ugh. Tell him he’s a jam slag!! Seriously what an arse hole!

Does he have learning difficulties or something? Or is he just a nasty mean-spirited little arsehole?

Hope your DS has a lovely party regardless of his dad's behaviour. Jam slags is bloody brilliant. I might make it my new user name.

Why has he done it deliberately, @Birump ? To piss you off? As a control thing? I think he’d never have anything cooked by me again, no dinner, he can fuck right off, he’s unbelievably selfish and disrespectful.

He’s working, that’s probably helping to fund the party…

still a dick move though

Awful. Regardless of a party or not, DH would always check with me if I had plans for the baking / leftovers in the fridge before taking any.

Greediness is such an unattractive trait. Is he overweight?

Did he take them all…
that is annoying

Sorry, you're about 2 hrs too late. 😁 You could be JamSlagSlag (a slag for jam slags)?

@CrispieCake I like your idea!

Absolutely love the term jam slags haha!

In seriousness though he has done it deliberately because he can't stand you paying attention to someone else. Either he brings then back or you divorce.