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DP called me a middle class racist

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Whoswhoof · 31/05/2024 20:02

Just now. Discussing the upcoming election. Both always voted labour. I said I’m voting Tory in the upcoming GE for a multitude of reasons, some of which come under the bracket of gender identity, kids sex ed, general tightening of illegal immigration, not taxing private schools. I explained you kind of just have to vote for the party that most aligns with your beliefs as you’re never going to agree with all of them (I don’t agree with a lot of Tory policies, but the ones that are important to me are relevant)

DP then jokes “So you’re a middle class racist now!” Then says only joking. DP will be voting labour.

Aibu to think this is quite out of order?

edited for typo!

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EasternStandard · 01/06/2024 18:02

MrsSunshine2b · 01/06/2024 17:55

Labour have suggested a points based system and more staff to deal with the backlog which has been allowed to balloon under the Tories.
https://labour.org.uk/updates/stories/labours-immigration-and-border-policy-stop-small-boats/#:~:text=Labour's%20plan%20for%20immigration,works%20for%20workers%20and%20businesses.

They won’t be able to ‘smash the gangs’

No chance. Do people know what that would take?

Glipsy · 01/06/2024 18:08

If the economy and public services hadn’t been so poked by the current government, people wouldn’t be susceptible to scare tactics about immigrants.

it is a very famous political ploy, when everyone’s noticed that things have gone to shit say it’s them forriners stealing your houses and getting free taxis and that’s why you can’t get a GP.

it’s not. It’s really not. It’s that the tories have diverted vast amounts of cash to rich people and underfunded the public.

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:08

Clearly not, the one thing Labour supporters seem to have is iron clad naivety, perhaps they genuinely don’t know about the serious crime squad and massive networks operating via illegal immigration. They are laughing at the U.K. authorities already - if Labour get in it will be a great day for them, a soft touch government without a plan - perfect.

Mummy2024 · 01/06/2024 18:09

Fresharmpits · 01/06/2024 14:36

Ah, I've just read that your partner is white. Maybe then, your children look quite white, too? I wonder whether that has any bearing on your position, your stake in the world in terms of race equality, why private schools fees etc might be more relevant to you. You might not experience much of the racism dark skinned people experience, and you might not have much insight into raising black children or think very much about the future of the country from a black perspective.

A friend of mine says this is an issue she faces all the time. "People telling her she's not black enough to be one of them"

To me this is just as much racism from black people to mixed race people as black people face with white people tbh

therealcookiemonster · 01/06/2024 18:11

Whoswhoof · 01/06/2024 17:14

We are a teeny TINY island. Why here? If not for economic reasons?

if you don't understand why asylum seekers may want to come here, you wont find your answers with facts but rather try to find some empathy in your heart.

I actually feel sick reading some of your responses. they are repulsive

EasternStandard · 01/06/2024 18:11

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:08

Clearly not, the one thing Labour supporters seem to have is iron clad naivety, perhaps they genuinely don’t know about the serious crime squad and massive networks operating via illegal immigration. They are laughing at the U.K. authorities already - if Labour get in it will be a great day for them, a soft touch government without a plan - perfect.

I don’t know if Labour actually believe they can or just think the electorate will buy that they can

Either way a lack of insight into the reality of trafficking networks is on their side

But yeh as other countries act we’ll become more attractive

Mummy2024 · 01/06/2024 18:13

inamarina · 01/06/2024 16:38

Or are you happy to have a Tory government forever as long as you can feel satisfied you’re a morally superior person?

That’s exactly how it’s coming across, isn’t it? Quite baffling really - do people like PP want actual change or do they just want to feel superior?

She's voting this way as labour are making private schools pay vat. Her husband who also pays said fees is still voting Labour.... says everything about their personalities really.

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:14

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:08

Clearly not, the one thing Labour supporters seem to have is iron clad naivety, perhaps they genuinely don’t know about the serious crime squad and massive networks operating via illegal immigration. They are laughing at the U.K. authorities already - if Labour get in it will be a great day for them, a soft touch government without a plan - perfect.

a soft touch government without a plan

That's a pretty good description of the last 14 years tbf.

They pay lip service to policies and don't deliver anything. They're ordinary motivation is funneling as much money to themselves and their friends. The only reason they fear losing is because they fear losing access to that gravy train. There's not an actual politician amongst them, they are fucking hedge fund bros who are betting against Britain and raking it in

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:15

therealcookiemonster · 01/06/2024 18:11

if you don't understand why asylum seekers may want to come here, you wont find your answers with facts but rather try to find some empathy in your heart.

I actually feel sick reading some of your responses. they are repulsive

Or you could look at the benefits system
Or free housing
Or free healthcare
Or free schooling

The list goes on without the need to look anywhere but the ballooning welfare state….

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:16

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:14

a soft touch government without a plan

That's a pretty good description of the last 14 years tbf.

They pay lip service to policies and don't deliver anything. They're ordinary motivation is funneling as much money to themselves and their friends. The only reason they fear losing is because they fear losing access to that gravy train. There's not an actual politician amongst them, they are fucking hedge fund bros who are betting against Britain and raking it in

The conservatives are fighting all the way for a decent deterrent and a points based system, despite Labour hindering them at every turn.

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:18

The conservatives are fighting all the way for a decent deterrent

lol

inamarina · 01/06/2024 18:19

Scavernick · 01/06/2024 11:10

This is appalling and yet it is allowed to stand on MN as usual. Newsflash! Not all people of colour are left wing and neither do they have to be. And they are even capable of having their own thoughts and have their own minds! FFS.

I agree. How can someone (who quite possibly considers themselves very progressive and not at all racist) imply that people of colour can only hold certain views because “Torys have form for putting brown people in place to say things a white person could never get away with saying”.
So brown people can’t possibly think for themselves?
I’m white, but not British, and I would absolutely hate it to be patronised in this way, as a poor silly foreigner who doesn’t know any better 🙄

EasternStandard · 01/06/2024 18:19

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:18

The conservatives are fighting all the way for a decent deterrent

lol

Do you want a deterrent?

newnamethanks · 01/06/2024 18:20

Well, regardless of stratification, DP's not wrong is he?

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:21

newnamethanks · 01/06/2024 18:20

Well, regardless of stratification, DP's not wrong is he?

That’s offensive typical foul Labour narrative, it’s gutter level. Doing nothing for their cause.

Mummy2024 · 01/06/2024 18:21

Whoswhoof · 01/06/2024 17:01

No. Because I don’t appreciate white people telling me how or when I should be offended as an ethnic minority. Take for example, singing along to lyrics that use the N word. That’s for me to decide if I’m offended, not white people putting a blanket ban on people signing lyrics.

it’s ironic really.

This makes absolutely no sense to what I have written? I didn't ask if you were or were not offended by anything. And what have I said that you should or shouldn't be offended by? You were the one that was offensive about white people.

I asked were you being offensive to white people? By saying "leftie mostly white people" and you've turned it into being about you 😆

You also made clear you were raising your heritage to let everyone know you couldn't possibly be racist. I was letting you know that your skin colour has absolutely no bearing on whether you are racist. People of all colours face racism and can be guilty of it. Just as you have you have been with your "lefty white people" stereotyping.

Am I not allowed to be offended by that? Because of my skin colour?

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:24

EasternStandard · 01/06/2024 18:19

Do you want a deterrent?

Unsure

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:26

What is obvious is the base line Labour view that all people of colour need to be saved, they can’t see their sickening white saviour mentality as being extremely offensive.

Anyone can vote for whoever they like, whoever they identify with, and share the same values and ideals whether you personally agree or not - one of the reasons why Rishi Sunak appeals to so many. Ambitious, successful, intelligent people of any colour will choose the conservatives because they share the same ideology and values of working hard, independence and personal responsibility. I don’t know why that is so hard for pp to understand.

newnamethanks · 01/06/2024 18:27

@Polishedshoesalways OP's DP, not mine, as made clear in her post. If you have a problem with him or her take it up with him/them.

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:29

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:24

Unsure

That’s a no.

They prefer for the country to be swamped by illegal economic migrants (we are almost there already) the infrastructure to collapse ( NHS and GP service already has) and no housing whatsoever ( there already!)

Our country is already under severe pressure and strain. We are going to crash and burn with no deterrent fgs.

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:32

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:29

That’s a no.

They prefer for the country to be swamped by illegal economic migrants (we are almost there already) the infrastructure to collapse ( NHS and GP service already has) and no housing whatsoever ( there already!)

Our country is already under severe pressure and strain. We are going to crash and burn with no deterrent fgs.

If I meant no I'd have said it.

MrsSunshine2b · 01/06/2024 18:32

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:00

The tories wont be physically sifting through applications themselves! It is the civil service that will be working under any party - so if they are rubbish now, they will be rubbish under Labour too.

So how are you going to deter hundreds of thousands of illegal migrants under just a points system?! Anyone that can legally live here will apply via the usual channels, but that isn’t the issue is it, it’s the shit load of gangsters, people traffickers and migrants looking to make some hard cash - they are the problem fgs, and funding serious crime in your town right now. Labour intend to do nothing about the real issue!

Edited

The issue isn't the competency of CS, it's that there's not enough to get the job done. The Tories have been hellbent on underfunding all public services for 15 years, and now the jobs the public service used to do aren't getting done.

Labour certainly has a plan to deter traffickers:

  • "Creating a new Border Security Commander – a former police, military or intelligence chief – and reporting directly to the Home Secretary, the new Command will direct work across key intelligence and enforcement agencies with a single aim of ensuring a strong, protected border.
  • Hiring hundreds of additional specialist investigators, intelligence agents and cross-border police officers, who will support the Border Security Command unit and work across the UK and Europe, split across multiple agencies, including the National Crime Agency, MI5, Border Force, CPS International and Immigration Enforcement."

Whether any of these plans will work remains to be seen.

However, the Conservative Party website only seems to have Rwanda (which is already a dead duck) and the vague promise to "Stop the Boats".

Their policy so far appears to be:

  1. Let immigration skyrocket with no controls,
  2. But be really cruel to migrants who are already here,
  3. And make sure that it costs the tax payer as much as possible every step of the way.

Frankly, I don't see how Labour could possibly do worse.

EasternStandard · 01/06/2024 18:35

MrsSunshine2b · 01/06/2024 18:32

The issue isn't the competency of CS, it's that there's not enough to get the job done. The Tories have been hellbent on underfunding all public services for 15 years, and now the jobs the public service used to do aren't getting done.

Labour certainly has a plan to deter traffickers:

  • "Creating a new Border Security Commander – a former police, military or intelligence chief – and reporting directly to the Home Secretary, the new Command will direct work across key intelligence and enforcement agencies with a single aim of ensuring a strong, protected border.
  • Hiring hundreds of additional specialist investigators, intelligence agents and cross-border police officers, who will support the Border Security Command unit and work across the UK and Europe, split across multiple agencies, including the National Crime Agency, MI5, Border Force, CPS International and Immigration Enforcement."

Whether any of these plans will work remains to be seen.

However, the Conservative Party website only seems to have Rwanda (which is already a dead duck) and the vague promise to "Stop the Boats".

Their policy so far appears to be:

  1. Let immigration skyrocket with no controls,
  2. But be really cruel to migrants who are already here,
  3. And make sure that it costs the tax payer as much as possible every step of the way.

Frankly, I don't see how Labour could possibly do worse.

You really believe in the border security idea?

Can you work through how it actually happens

We do what exactly?

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:37

MrsSunshine2b · 01/06/2024 18:32

The issue isn't the competency of CS, it's that there's not enough to get the job done. The Tories have been hellbent on underfunding all public services for 15 years, and now the jobs the public service used to do aren't getting done.

Labour certainly has a plan to deter traffickers:

  • "Creating a new Border Security Commander – a former police, military or intelligence chief – and reporting directly to the Home Secretary, the new Command will direct work across key intelligence and enforcement agencies with a single aim of ensuring a strong, protected border.
  • Hiring hundreds of additional specialist investigators, intelligence agents and cross-border police officers, who will support the Border Security Command unit and work across the UK and Europe, split across multiple agencies, including the National Crime Agency, MI5, Border Force, CPS International and Immigration Enforcement."

Whether any of these plans will work remains to be seen.

However, the Conservative Party website only seems to have Rwanda (which is already a dead duck) and the vague promise to "Stop the Boats".

Their policy so far appears to be:

  1. Let immigration skyrocket with no controls,
  2. But be really cruel to migrants who are already here,
  3. And make sure that it costs the tax payer as much as possible every step of the way.

Frankly, I don't see how Labour could possibly do worse.

You are deluded, the ‘solutions’ you suggested will cost tens of millions. Is that the magical money tree again that Labour seem to rely so heavily on.

Polishedshoesalways · 01/06/2024 18:40

OneTC · 01/06/2024 18:32

If I meant no I'd have said it.

Well to be fair you are saying precious little on the subject so who knows 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️
I notice most Labour people do not like to discuss what actually happens WITHOUT a deterrent…

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