To push ds into claiming

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Ds has just finished uni and never worked through me and ex dp give him £450 a month between us plus I've always bought him the odd thing and gave a bit extra here and there.
Me and his dad are seperated and his dads just received notification that he will now be charged full council tax as ds has finished uni I'm under strain financially. I've told ds he needs to claim universal credit until he finds a job but he keeps saying I want my results first. Am I wrong in pushing him to claim to take some pressure off me and dp. Fwiw he would get around £370 per month as living at home.

Then he needs to get a job where he is and earn some money. Supermarkets/bars etc will be looking for staff

The more you post the more you sound like you are just having a nice Friday afternoon mumsnet wind up

So he gets a job.

the university town near me has bars and shops looking for staff left right and centre because most courses are coming to an end. He can work and job hunt for his dream job.

Are you joking?

He needs to work while he 'sorts his career'.

He has some money by earning it in a temporary job whilst he sorts out his career.

It is going to look much better on that CV with a job on it rather than employer thinking he is a lazy sod living off mummy/daddy or the tax payer (which seems to be the truth!)

He can go and work in an unskilled job while he's sorting his career can't he?

Exactly which is why I mentioned him claiming universal credit also people on here are saying they can get a job same day but it's not always that straight forward. Also ds has said he will take a random job until he finds one in his field

That's not what this is about it's about ds having some money whilst he sorts his career not a lifestyle choice

What a piss take. Tell him to get a summer job.

I think @TeaKitten is spot on.

That's just nasty and uncalled for

He or you or both of you have woefully misunderstood how the graduate employment market works. As PP have said, the graduate job schemes recruit while you are in your final year, and generally the offer is conditional on passing. It's like uni - yo don't wait to have your A level results to apply.

What is his degree? What sort of jobs is he looking for?

Has he had a part time job whilst at school or uni or a summer job or internship? If so can he just go back to that for a bit? If not he has bigger problems then getting his CV sorted and he should just get any job whilst he gains some work experience.

If he signs on the Jobcentre will push him to look for a job, so it might hurry him along a bit if the support from you and his dad isn’t there.
It sounds like he’s quite comfortable for the time being.

If he actually pulls his finger out he could 100% find a menial job quicker than getting access to benefits

One of my DC had a coffee shop job while she was applying for a a grad job in finance. She was worried as she hadn't any actual work experience in the field of finance that she was applying for but in each interview the fact she could talk about her coffee shop seemed to be a really positive thing.

I think grad employers like applicants to show they aren't afraid of hard work.

Well it seems we've failed at parenting despite having bought up a young man who has never been involved in crime and is respectful to people and went to uni and worked hard I find that posters comment very judgemental and random

Not nasty. Truthful. You want him to take money from workers so he doesn't have to bother.

You have failed to install a sense of self reliance, pride in himself and dignity.

In what way is that not an epic failure?

Yes that’s exactly it, graduates don’t get very far without some work experiences. Any work experience is good, something to show you can keep a job, have the right attitude and have gained some transferable skills.

If he tried to claim they will force him to look for a job and accept anything. Which is what he should be doing anyway. So he should do both. Quite ridiculous that he’s never worked given he must be at least 21. Most ppl I know including myself worked in the holidays or had a part time job through Uni.

You certainly should stop bankrolling him to such an extent.

It’s not random, everyone is saying the same - he needs to get a job, any job, not claim benefits. He doesn’t need them and they aren’t there to tide over students once the bank of mum and dad starts to run dry.

Why doesn't he get a bar or restaurant job where he is living now until August? He will be able to earn plenty if he does full time. Bar work will give him time during the day to work on his CV, go to interviews etc. If he moves back home in August, he can look for another bar job closer to home. There is no need for him to be out of work

I give up with people on here tbh he has worked a couple of festivals recently so for those of you who think my ds is a layabout there you go.

I think unfortunately JSA will be a bit like a plaster over a bruise at this point. By the time it takes to get the claim assessed, much of the summer work that would be ideal for a young graduate hoping to start a new career in autumn will be gone. By all means encourage him to apply, but I think focusing all effort on picking up an interim summer job now is the quickest way to alleviate yourselves financial.

(Sorry for posting so much, but worked in EC for many years and it's always gutting watching a young person flounder and miss their opportunities for the year when they've worked so hard on their degree!)

I'll say it again I agree he needs a job but I've seen people applying for all of the jobs mentioned and not get a single response.