How would you split holiday cost?

[Dinoswearunderpants]

I've booked a holiday for myself, sister and my son to go to Greece. Her husband has said he'd pay 'some' money towards the holiday as her birthday present but I'm not sure what a fair split would be.

The holiday total was £1880. This included a free child's place so effectively my son is free.

However, I'm willing to pay more towards the holiday as if I had decided to book just myself and son, the cost would have been £1750 (no free child's place for one adult).

What do you think is a reasonable amount for my sisters husband to pay? I'm thinking £500.

Money is much tighter for them as my sister doesn't work (she's disabled) but her husband regularly goes on holiday without her.

But you are paying £130 extra, to get a “free” child place! Yes your sister should contribute, otherwise there is no point in her going with you

£500 is plenty. You could have not invited her, and it seems without your invite she wouldn't have a holiday.

As an aside, I would not have booked with this company. In this country the company would be breaking equality laws by insisting on couples. The rule discriminates against single parents, crap really. If it is this country then they should be reported, I am willing to do that if you wish to DM me.

Hang on, why did you book this holiday before agreeing who was paying what?

I was initially under the impression that you booked it as you wanted to take your sister away. As you are not only wanting to recoup the entire amount, but also want whatever birthday money the BIL is willing to give, then clearly you were never intending to pay her portion. In that case then, what were you expecting to happen if BIL hadn’t volunteered to put to? Were you going to charge your sister (and if so how much?) were you going to directly approach him and ask for money (and if so how much were you going to ask for?) or were you planning on paying it initially but have now seen an opportunity to use her birthday as profit? I don’t understand how you booked and paid for a holiday that you expected them to pay for without at any point discussing the cost of it in advance.

If the OP went with just her son she would have more space and choice in sleeping arrangements. She is now sharing this with her DS so husband should contribute more than just the difference between two/three person person. £500 is a win win situation. DS gets a lower price holiday (ie less than half price of two adults) and OP benefits from free child space.

were you going to directly approach him and ask for money (and if so how much were you going to ask for?

OP isn’t going in blond, she knows their lifestyle and what the could afford.

Week with friend A - 4* all inclusive as standard
Friend B 3 nights in a B&B with cheap flights

it’s not difficult to gage

But she’s already booked it before broaching the subject and she’s felt the need to ask on here so it’s not that obvious.

Personally, if money is tight for her and if you were going to go anyway I would treat her. Or let her just pay the difference in price to add her....

from comments the OP has made, it sounds like hell would freeze over before he did that

Wow so many replies, sorry I missed this.

Ok so BIL has offered to pay £350. Not the amount I thought he would but there we go.

Just replying as I am in no way trying to rip anyone off. I chose this hotel as it's ideal for my sisters mobility issues. Had she not been coming, I possibly would have chose a different hotel.

This will no doubt be the only holiday she'll have this year and the money towards the holiday will be all her present from BIL.

I've already bought her present but when we're away I'll happily pay for some excursions.

Thanks for your input everyone.

Does your sister have to ask him for his permission to go on holiday because it is his money? It's giving financial abuse

Bit of a tight bastard

You asked your disabled sister to go on holiday with you and it cost an extra £50. Moneys tight for her but her but you are asking for £500??? Am I right. Her husband goes away all the time on his own???? You both sound absolutely horrible. Is she being taken as the babysitter.

I think £350 for a week away is a bargain. We paid £650 each this year.

Perhaps OP you could invite me next time?

What do you think is a reasonable amount for my sisters husband to pay?

This is where its gone wrong. If your sister is disabled and in receipt of benefits, she has her own income. It's her money.

Why do you need to ask her husband?

If she can't access her money, that's a totally different problem.

I can't imagine asking for £500, from my hard up sister's family, for something that only cost me £100.

Read the whole thread.

"The family" isnt hard up, the sister is hard up because her husbands spends a lot on his hobbies and holidays so there is no money spare for the sister. "Money is tight" means "I dont want to spend it on her as I want to spend it on me".

The sister is borderline financially abused. She is certainly kept short.