How would you split holiday cost?

[Dinoswearunderpants]

I've booked a holiday for myself, sister and my son to go to Greece. Her husband has said he'd pay 'some' money towards the holiday as her birthday present but I'm not sure what a fair split would be.

The holiday total was £1880. This included a free child's place so effectively my son is free.

However, I'm willing to pay more towards the holiday as if I had decided to book just myself and son, the cost would have been £1750 (no free child's place for one adult).

What do you think is a reasonable amount for my sisters husband to pay? I'm thinking £500.

Money is much tighter for them as my sister doesn't work (she's disabled) but her husband regularly goes on holiday without her.

I'd do this. A three way split would sound fair to most reasonable people so it shouldn't be an issue asking him to pay £600.

Oops, so it is. Then the hotel room split into thirds, auntie paying 1/3rd.

This!!
I'd pay for the holiday, as you more or less would be anyway and tell her hubby to give her that as spending money to treat herself

She is a full extra person sharing accommodation that would otherwise be only used by you and your son.

On that basis I would tell your brother in law that the cost of her holiday is £940.

Obviously not that tight if her husband can often afford to holiday without her.

Given the updates I’d say 600, and about time he shelled out for his wife instead of just for himself.

If I was desperate for a holiday and someone told me they had one booked and could add me on for £130, I would offer to pay a fair share of the total. Because I can't get a holiday for £130, can I? I'm only getting the chance to go because they are going, so why wouldn't I offer to help spread the cost of it.

BIL sounds like a selfish prick who is financially abusing his wife.

This^ the child's place is not in reality free, it's a commercial trick.
And then do a trip/tour while there or go shopping with her before the holiday and buy something together .
Dont leave it to BIL to treat her , it seems their set up is a bit unfair.

If it's HIS birthday present to her then of course he can bloody well hand over £500!

Other use it's YOUR birthday present to her.

What a tight and selfish git he is.

People saying that she is ripping her sister off, no she isnt. She offered to take her sister on holiday, which is actually what the useless selfish pig of a BIL should be doing but doesnt. What he does is go away with his mates but then say "Oh money is tight" when it is anything for his wife. I suspect he only offered to pay towards it because the OP covering it, when he should have but didnt, shamed him.

So, he wants to pay towards? Good. Start with half and allow him to haggle you down to a third. As I originally said, I would use that to spend on another break for the two of you on his dollar but other PP have made a good point that he may be financially abusing her so she maybe could do with it as a secret fund. So take the money he is offering that he should be spending on his wife as well as himself and discuss with her the best thing to do with it.

And use that week to talk to her and help her make her situation better, because her husband is a piece of shit.

I would tell him that between his holidays on his own he can buy your sister a thoughtful present.
I think he wants to get away dipping in 100 pounds and them tell her that he paid for her share and look like a prince.
I may be completely wrong, but I get some fishy smell about his offer to pay for something that is already book, it wasn't his present, he did no planning at all and may be even partly/completely paid.

Did her husband know about it before you booked, and offer to put something towards it? If so, you should have agreed on his contribution beforehand.

I'd just work out how much extra it's cost to have your sister added to the trip, and ask him to cover that (or half of that if the idea was for you to treat your sister to a holiday).

£500 would make you one cf!! It has only cost an extra £130 fir her to come.She will think you only invited her to save yourself £370!

FFS does no one actually bother to read and comprehend anymore.

THE SISTER IS NOT PAYING!!

Her selfish husband who says "money is tight" when the sister wants to do something regularly goes on holiday without her and OFFERED TO PAY TOWARDS IT as the sisters birthday present.....probably because it meant no effort on his part but moving on..... Previously to this the OP invited her with no expectation of reimbursement.

I couldnt agree more.

He thinks he can tell all his mates he "treated the missus to a holiday with her sister for her birthday" when the truth is he dropped just enough to cover dinner one night and the OP paid the rest.

Either he pays a significant amount so he can claim bragging rights or he actually puts some effort in to get her a decent present (which he almost certainly wont bother doing). If the OP plays this right she could get some serious money for her sister from the tight selfish , but crucially...LAZY, bastard.

Your updates reveal the money is not tight, it's the husband who is a tight prick when it comes to spending money on his disabled wife. Tell him the cost is 800 and treat your sis

If her sister wanted to go on the same all inclusive holiday without her sister and nephew then it'd cost the BIL £900 + single person supplementary fee. The OP is not disingenuous at all, she's actually really generous.

@Dinoswearunderpants I think splitting it 3 way and you paying 2 thirds is more than fair but if you can and want to, pay more? X

I agree he should pay. Is he financially abusing your sister?

I'd probably actually put the 500 aside and find ways to treat my sister with it, or give it to her in vouchers for things for herself if he controls the purse strings. As long as she could not let him know and he wouldn't coerse her to handing it over.

Considering that he said it afterwards I'd just see what he offered and be happy with anything. It wasn't his idea right? And you planned to pay it all?

It sounds like when your sister's husband wants something or to go somewhere, the money is there but nothing is "there" for your sister's wants.

If that IS the case, then he is a twat waffle.

I think 500 is still a great deal for an AI. Does that include the travel costs?

But perhaps she'd have chosen a different holiday if she was planning it herself!

Either way, show me an abroad AI holiday in a decent place for less than £500. She's not choosing because it's a surprise from her partner, if he chooses should he pay for the OP??

The sister might not have wanted to go on this holiday. I don't think the OP is being generous. She said she was happy to go on her own with her child. That would be £130 cheaper than the holiday with her sister.

I think the OP has a nerve asking for anything more than £130. And asking for £130 is being petty.

You shouldn’t take any money towards it. It’s costing you effectively the same amount now she’s going which is presumably why you added her.
her husband saying he will pay as a birthday gift is a bit crap because she was going anyway. Just let her have a gift from him. Cash. Whatever. Don’t take it as a contribution towards the trip that would have cost you the same amount anyway. That’s really shitty to do that.

Just tell him the total cost for 3 and let him decide how much to pay. No need to mention free child places as they aren't really free.