How would you split holiday cost?

[Dinoswearunderpants]

I've booked a holiday for myself, sister and my son to go to Greece. Her husband has said he'd pay 'some' money towards the holiday as her birthday present but I'm not sure what a fair split would be.

The holiday total was £1880. This included a free child's place so effectively my son is free.

However, I'm willing to pay more towards the holiday as if I had decided to book just myself and son, the cost would have been £1750 (no free child's place for one adult).

What do you think is a reasonable amount for my sisters husband to pay? I'm thinking £500.

Money is much tighter for them as my sister doesn't work (she's disabled) but her husband regularly goes on holiday without her.

Asking for £600 - or £500 as you suggest - is fair, on the basis that her excursions/treats outside of the all-inclusive deal were covered, within reason.

I think a lot of this is about principal,

yes the Op is not out of pocket re the difference between her and her child v her, her sister and her child - was it £130 ish

it is the fact that he gets to holiday frequently

without his wife !!!

and ' we ' don't know how much actual spending money he would give esp as it is an A I holiday

and it is getting put as being her birthday present !

Because it wasn’t going to be paid for by family income in the first place?

The op was booking a holiday for herself and asked her sister if she wanted to come too. If they had planned it together etc. then sure. But that’s not really what’s happened here is it

I think it would be fair for your sister to pay a third, but if you can afford to cover the whole thing for her, or just to ask for the £500 you've suggested, I think that would be a very nice thing for you to do.

Yes absolutely and if I were paying, I would be clear it is a birthday present from me, not from him. He would most certainly not be getting any credit if I were footing the bill for the whole trip

No one else bothered by the fact money is 'tight' yet he goes on holiday without her 🤔🙄

No one else bothered by the fact money is 'tight' yet he goes on holiday without her

Several people have mentioned it.

Why doesn’t he take her? Does he find it difficult? Do you have to step in when he’s away to help your sister?

Id ask for the £500 and have a blast.

Definitely get some cash off him as sounds like he has right reign over the household.

I feel sorry for the sister who is getting ummed and ahhhhed and discussed without her even knowing. Like has anyone actually asked what the sister actually wants to do or how she feels? I very much doubt it.

I was just thinking £500 before you said it ... sounds about right and a good deal for her.

If you and DS were going anyway, I’d just charge her the difference. £130.

If it's coming from her money (assuming she isn't working due to disability and so has DLA/PIP) then I'd say the difference in price between just you and ds going vs the 3 of you going is fair. But if it's his dollar then £500 at least!

Same. I would mention to the husband that your sister might need £x spending/excursion money too.

I'd hazard a guess that it's because your brother-in-law is a cunt. And that's not a word I use often.

Bear in mind that these ‘free’ child’s spaces aren’t really free. They just inflate the adult prices and then pretend you get the child for free.

We’ve booked a week in Spain in August. One Travel agent was offering free child places. Another one wasn’t. Yet the total price they were charging, for the same flights and hotel, were within a few pence of each other.

£593.

Because it’s almost a third, and no-one can argue that a third isn’t a reasonable start point to suggest?

No. Because that’s the cost of a divorce application in the U.K.

It's clearly £130. Asking for £500 is asking your sister to subsidise your holiday.

The only circumstance in which I would ask for more than £130 would be if I thought her husband was financially abusive and wouldn't give her any spending money. Then I'd keep up to £130 (if I needed it) and give her the rest.

Child is half adult price, unless a teen.

Therefore adults cost around £750 each and child costs £350 (approx figures).

On this basis, , £500 seems fair, as you were going anyway.

I think £500 is fair

I would split it three ways (so £600) and IF you can afford it I would then use that money to take her away on a mini break later this year as your birthday present to her.

£500 sounds good to me to

I think it'd be really immoral to pocket £500 when adding your sister to the booking only increased the price by £130. Request the £130 & spending money for her to pocket, not you.

Not at all … there will be an extra person sleeping in the 1 bed accommodation so that will be worse… it’s only fair they pay a decent amount as getting a weeks all inclusive holiday after all.

If husband is seeing this as a birthday present to her, then you asking for more feels a bit like you’re stealing her present, unless you’re planning on giving her the difference? If he pays you £500, he’s unlikely to get her anything else as that’s a decent spend on her. If he pays you £130 he might buy her something else, or give her money to get some new holiday clothes, or extra spending money for when there. It feels really weird to me that you get to profit off whatever you decide your sister’s present should be. The only reason you should ask for more is if you plan on giving your sister the cash directly. Even if you spent it on fun things whilst there, it’ll still seem like it’s come from you rather than it actually being money from him.

Bear in mind that these ‘free’ child’s spaces aren’t really free.

No, this one isn’t. It’s £130. Still a bargain.