To think he's said this in case he doesn't want to eat with me?

[Ceeeeee]

I made a profile on an app and some guy's asked me out for a bite to eat. I said yes, and we've agreed to meet this weekend.
Now he's said shall we have a short walk first before the food to 'see how we feel'?

That's obviously code for, I'll see if I fancy you and if not I don't have to eat with you. It wasn't a fancy sit down meal, just a quick bite to eat like. Should I still go ahead? I don't know why, this has put me off slightly.
It was only some waffle place, I wouldn't go for a formal meal for a first date either. Should I still go?

Personally I couldn't date someone that was nervous they couldn't eat in front of people

I kinda don't want to, I know I'm being a bit petty, but if I say no to the walk there will probably be no date?

I’d think he’s either seeing if he fancies you enough to invest in a waffle or hope to get you straight back for a shag. Either are a bit low budget for me. I hate walking though.
Reply and say maybe if you need to check me out before a coffee, well I’ve been thinking the same…

I could understand him not wanting to do a whole formal meal type of thing but a bloody waffle! At least with a waffle, once you’ve finished you can leave if you don’t like him. What do you do on an aimless walk? Keep walking awkwardly with no end in site. That’s a no for me.

Exactly! It's not a fucking 4 course dinner. Can't be arsed paying £5.99 for a waffle.

It's a bit odd. If he doesn't want to eat why not just have a drink in town instead of wandering around aimlessly. Maybe he's skint, or a really tight bastard

He can't be arsed* i mean. I'm gonna write back saying I'd prefer a drink to some aimless walk.

In fact, there are many explanations as to why he wants to walk round town and sll of them would make me want to bin him off

I’ve got the ick on your behalf. That would just turn me right off!

Exactly. It is the difference between meeting in a crowded place and being vulnerable.

I would hate this for a date, it sounds awful.

I know it just feels like too much of a test.

I’d be pretty annoyed if someone invited me out for “a bite to eat”, I accepted and then he said that. You don’t invite someone and then change the invitation.

I always plan the sort of date I have an early out. Nothing worse than immediately knowing you don't fancy someone and having to talk to them for hours

I’m sorry but “let’s go for a walk first to see how we feel” is beyond awkward. He should have just asked you for coffee or a drink like all normal people who don’t want to commit to a meal on a first date! Aimless walk is a bit rubbish but what’s worse is the fact that he spelled out why!

He sounds a bit halfhearted! I might say yes to the walk as long as it can be a walk round the Tate. If he's interesting you can move on to lunch or drinks, if he's not so interesting you can at least enjoy the art, if it pours with rain you'll be under cover, if he says no way to an art gallery you'll know he's a philistine. Worst case scenario you'll get a few thousand steps in.

But I like art so YMMV.

Bin him off OP, you deserve better.

It also doesnt sound safe. Decline.

Whatever about not wanting to eat in front of somebody you've just met, i wouldn't agree to go for a walk with somebody i'd never met before.

It’s a no from me. It also feels like he has downgraded you from a waffle date to a walk date…

YANBU unless you're going to that place on the corner by Chavasse Park, in which case they have so many menu options it takes the length of an average four course dinner to choose one

No way would I have food on a first date. Eating in front of someone you don't know is just cringe. Have a short walk and grab a coffee.

Don't bother, you are worth more !

tho going for a waffle is an interesting one, what time of day was this going to be ?

If you go to a busy place it will be too many people and difficult to hear each other.
if you go to a quiet lonely place it will be unsafe on a first date.
I love walking but no way I would agree to this. Meeting for drinks in a semi busy place I know well would be my answer.

It's zero effort. Someone who can't even be bothered to have a coffee with you, who doesn't think a first date is worth £3 sounds dull!

Also, I'd find an aimless walk really awkward to get out of. Do you trail down one more rainy street before saying, 'This isn't working.' If you don't find him attractive on sight, do you just say, 'Well it was nice meeting you but I don't fancy that walk'?

DS OLDs. He says they usually chat for a while online to see what they have in common, then they go to a gallery or a gig they wanted to go to anyway so they at least have enjoyed that shared experience. Then go for a coffee or drink afterwards and if that goes well, they take it from there. That's hardly a massive effort but it's loads more fun.