To not make my son have his vaccine?

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Hello all
So my 13 year old (ADHD and Autistic) was recently supposed to have his HPV vaccine in school. He point blank refused so it was rescheduled for the may half term at the local clinic. However, he is still very much refusing to have the vaccine. I've explained what its for and how serious cancer is (not that he needs me to tbh). But he is so stubborn its unreal. How would other parents deal with this? Both my children have always been up to date on their vaccines and I want him to take his health seriously. That being said it is his body and I cant physically force him.

I have a friend who had to have her son sedated for any medical procedure including vaccination.
The lengths she has to go to try and coordinate this herself is ridiculous. Two or three different nhs departments that won't coordinate. If she gets the sedation they won't vaccinate/don't have the vaccine. And the vaccine team won't liase with the sedation people.

You can get the sedative prescribed, and take it just before the vaccination - no it isn't always straightforward - we have had instances when the vaccine was withheld after the sedative was taken... but it is an option, if the young person actually WANTS to have had the vaccine

Quite, you don’t. So let him live with the consequences.

It isn’t ‘letting’ him live with the consequences, that implies the op can do anything about it. He just will live with the consequences.

Thankyou for clarification I thought you meant the OP. I think time is what’s needed for my dc too (I hope !) I keep reminding them about it and offering opportunities to rebook 🤞

Thank you for your input.

You can't force him to an invasive medical procedure which isn't even for his own benefit!

Roughly around the same time we started giving children autonomy over their own bodies. Do keep up.

Does he believe children die from measles!

I have a severely immunosuppressed child. Measles and maybe other illness could kill them. Your husband and you by default are purely selfish

It will apply to anyone who has sex with men though. And for lesbians it’s worth knowing that a dental dam may not be adequate protection. I raised it because I thought barrier protection would suffice (and was far too old for the HPV jab) and I contracted HPV, and then I got cancer. Which was successfully treated but still not something I would want anyone else to experience if it was avoidable. I just think maybe it’s an area where some of us don’t really know? Maybe I’m just old and out of touch 😂

I did the first MMR but not the second, because I concluded the booster wasn't worth the risks over benefits

I didn't get my kids the covid vaccine for the same reason

What are the risks of the booster that outweigh the benefits?

You know what they are

I don’t. That’s why I asked.

@SwingTheMonkey brain damage. I felt the first vaccine was necessary, giving 80- 95 per cent immunity to measles

(Across populations)

It’s interesting that there seems to be a link between ASD and needle phobia. I have a needle phobia and it is mortifying, and I discovered as an adult that I am autistic (when getting offspring diagnosed). Said offspring is also phobic.

Take all forceful pressure off and go the bribery route, hard.
Offer a few things and then say to him it's completely up to him but to let you know if he decides he wants it booked and then you'll arrange bribery trip/item for once its done.

Incidentally, if this helps anyone, for my needle phobia, when I need to have an injection / bloods taken, I use Emla cream, and take Valium (prescribed whenever I have an injection). I also have headphones and listen to really loud music. It really helps. With those I can force myself to stay still rather than running away / biting people (I did say the phobia was mortifying, it makes me act in absurd ways)

It is for his own benefit. The impact of supporting a partner though cancer is huge.

Yeah, they'll just give it to female partners with the associated cancer risk, but 🙄who cares so long as the boys are OK...

Your DH is a blithering idiot and you knowingly put your children's lives at risk.

Disgusting.

Probably is something people don’t know… we had it drummed into us at school although I’m too old for the school vaccine too.

You can't force him to an invasive medical procedure which isn't even for his own benefit!

If it's the Gardasil vaccine it will help protect him from HPV-caused mouth, throat, penile and anal cancers, as well as genital warts. But I agree that he should not be forced into it.