Would your husband…

[Sunflower8710]

I had accidentally put something in the dustbin today, needed it before bed (11:30) I told my husband who told me to go get it. It’s pitch black, almost midnight and the bin is at the end of the drive.

Would your husband ask you to go retrieve the item or would he go get it?

I think the issue is more that it is an icky job and (as a man) I would expect to be called on to do icky jobs. My Dad never cleaned the toilet, but as Gen X, it has always been one of my jobs as an icky one.
That said, I can imagine if I was ordered out to get it in these circumstances, I confess I might be annoyed. A "sorry but I need you to do this for me" approach would be appreciated (sorry for my delicate male ego!).

Your wife or partner doesnt know how to clean a toilet?

@Frogpole · Today 07:46

Good grief, do women really despise each other this much? Why are you lot sicking your Chihuahuas on people like @Startrekkeruniverse (who I've never talked to and isn't known to me, for clarity)? Why are so many of you seething in uncontrollable rage because someone has a different life experience or opinion than your own?

What's the obsession with tearing each other down, and this race to the bottom competition of "durr, my husband hasn't emptied the bin since the battle of Hastings so you should delete your post!!!ONE!1!ELeVEN!!1".

For reference, if Mrs Frogpole put something in the bin then realised she needed it there wouldn't be a moment's though or discussion, I'd just go and get it - not that she's incapable or even phased about getting her hands dirty, it's just not a very nice job and I'd rather do it myself so she doesn't have to. When we've heard a noise in the night I go and look to see what it is.. because I couldn't just lay there waiting to see if anything bad happens to her, and also because there's a 18" difference in height between us and a 150lb weight difference, at which point it's just a matter of utility.

Whilst I'm sure that makes me guilty of itsism and means I'm an ismist, you really shouldn't be act

You OK hun?

What is 'sicking your chihuahua?' Is it a euphemism???

And what does "ONE!1!ELeVEN!!1" mean?

Also, your are 18 INCHES taller than your wife? 😆 I gots to know, what are your heights??? Coz I don't know ANY couple with a foot and a half height difference between them! And an ELEVEN stone weight difference?! Are you sure you're not a bear, and she's a lamb?

What is 'sicking your chihuahua?' Is it a euphemism?

"Siccing", I guess.

Who DOES that though? 😆 Do people use their chihuahua to attack others? I don't even know anyone who has a chihuahua! Or is using the word chihuahua a euphemism too?! I have so many questions about @Frogpole 's weird outburst! 😂

@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway lots of questions about his rant, ranting about pthers ranting and @Frogpole hasn't returned to answer them!

He could of course be riding on his steed to lay his coat across a puddle for his wife to walk across.

I think the issue is more that it is an icky job and (as a man) I would expect to be called on to do icky jobs. My Dad never cleaned the toilet, but as Gen X, it has always been one of my jobs as an icky one.

I have absolutely read it all now.

An "icky job"😂😂😂

I mean I clean the toilet but it's not an "icky job" as everyone cleans after use if necessary.

What difference does it make as long as you get the thing back. Either of us would pop out and get it, it's not something we'd really get into a discussion about.
Do you live somewhere that dangerous you can't go to the end of your drive after dark?

If I mentioned it he would get it without me having to ask him. Which can sometimes be a bit frustrating if I’m fine to go myself 😂

I have a good friend who has a chihuahua, and I have never sseen anything less capable of attacking anything bigger than an ant.

It depends on if he was going past the bin for any reason at that moment. Otherwise, I can’t see why it would be easier or less hazardous for him to get my item I put in the bin than it would be for me. At most, I might drip over a sheep in the dark or fall in a pothole in the drive but that’s about it.

He wasn't asking you to do anything. You wanted the thing and for some reason you seem to have expected him to go and get it. Why?! Why does the fact that it was midnight make any difference? Are you scared of the dark? Or does he have super night vision?

Depends what it is, why it's in the bin and why I need it. I'm capable of fetching it myself.

I am sure they (including old housemates could), just like they could take their own hair from the plug hole! :D

If one of us would still up, we would get it for the other person. I have an average sized driveway in a really well lit part of the street so it wouldn’t be too much of a pain or scary. If he remembered and we were both in bed he would get it for himself and if I remembered I would probably just go and get it without waking him up.

Are you scared of the dark?

My impression is that MN has really changed over the last ten years or so.
Once, MN would have called the husband a monster.
Now, it has swung the other way. As a man, there are job I would expect to be mine, and a job like this is one of them.

Er...how long is this drive?

My husband would do it if I asked him but going to the end of the driveway in our well lit suburban street really isn't a risk that requires management. Do you live somewhere more remote with a much longer route to the bins?

My husband would do anything if I asked him. But I wouldn’t dream of asking him to retrieve something from the bin. I am more than capable of doing such a thing myself.

Are you afraid of the dark or are you feeble?

It is the sort of thing that I, as a man, would not find a strange request from a woman housemate or partner. It would annoy me if I was ask presumptuously rather than politely.
That said, when a partner or housemate does this sort of thing for themselves, I would not be aware of it.
Equally, many of your friends would not admit they rely on their man for such things.

He’d ask me to get it I’m sure.

Mine would probably get it for me, however if you put it in the bin, YOU should get it out. Why the heck should he, and not you?

@Sunflower8710 obviously you think he should have gone and got it and he didn't or didn't without you asking/begging/crying.

What is the point to this question as this is not about an item thrown away in error?

My husband would definitely be annoyed if I asked him to get it for me, but if I really felt I couldn't manage it, he'd get it for me.

However, I'd feel quite silly asking him to fetch something from the outdoor bins for me just because it was dark outside.

I’m bemused why anyone would ask their partner unless they had mobility issues. Don’t be so wet - I thought women wanted equality 🙄