Would your husband…

[Sunflower8710]

I had accidentally put something in the dustbin today, needed it before bed (11:30) I told my husband who told me to go get it. It’s pitch black, almost midnight and the bin is at the end of the drive.

Would your husband ask you to go retrieve the item or would he go get it?

Frogpole "Why are you lot sicking your Chihuahuas on people"

Doing what? 😕

DH would be fast asleep. I’d get it myself.

Mine would get it but I wouldn't ask him to

I wouldn’t even ask DH. I’d get it myself.

Well, if I were the one who had made the error then I wouldn't be asking him - obviously! We are each responsible for ourselves.
And I don't buy this "little woman" stuff that says we're not capable of going out in the dark. Women are just as capable as men in this regard.

Oh yeah that but as well!

But he had told us all off and told us how to behave, so there must be a valid reason he wrote that nonsense as well!

DH would get it. I wouldn't even need to ask. We have rats in our area (thanks to next door for putting food out for local foxes) and I'm terrified of them so don't tend to go out at night when they're more likely to be awake.
Even if we didn't he'd still be more than likely to go and get it.

My DH would definitely go and get it

If I were up two flights of stairs in the bedroom and he was still downstairs, I'd ask him to do it and he would (although with a 70% chance of Not Seeing It, based on recent forays into the shed for something from the chest freezer...)

If I were still downstairs I'd get it myself.

I'm wondering where the hell StarTrek is living that a trip outside to the bins is scary. In a flats complex with sex offenders living on the first floor? War zone? Country lane with a 10 minute hike to the bins down unlit roads with traffic? I accept not everyone is in a safe built up area, but so scared of the dark as to not leave your own house seems excessive.

I’m now 100% imagining Mumsnet posters living in Downton Abbey where the driveway is 2 miles long and dodgy commoners abound.
I couldn’t live somewhere where I couldn’t go to the end of my own drive. How do you get home from going out, be that in taxis or on public transport? How do/will your 16 year olds do so?
To answer the q, my DH would if I asked but he’d think it strange and I wouldn’t ask in the first place.

Oh no.

Another single post and the poster disappears.

Why do people start these threads as a kind of 'poll' then don't engage?

Happens so much now.

So you expect your dh to do something you don’t want to, which was your mistake ?
can you imagine if this was the other way around

Mine would get it for me as he knows how much of an anxious panicked I am.

My husband would definitely go and get it himself if I asked or even mentioned it. He's old school.
However I would NoT have asked . It's my mistake? I would especially not have asked because I know he would go and feel it's unfair to take advantage of that as it's my own fault.
The fact that you make a post about it feels like you think he SHOULD go, which sounds very entitled. You made a mistake and instead of being grateful or even feeling slightly guilty that another human being was put out because of you, you feel like they're in the wrong for not wanting to fix your mistake!

If I had a valid reason not to be able to do it, then I would have asked him to, and he would have done it.

But unless I had a reason other than 'it's late and dark' then I wouldn't have asked. I would have just done it.

This with bells on.

Nothing wrong with being aware of dangers - like not walking along with headphones on at night: the world is full of dangers for women. But expecting him to go when you've screwed up or because the bins are a man's job is embarrassing. Do without or go together.

I know a couple in their 40s who split their house jobs into pink jobs and blue jobs. The blue jobs - for the man - include changing the toilet roll. Their daughters are going to grow up pretty incapable.

I think I need a discount on council tax then lol

I see op hasn't come back, but in case she ever does.... why should your DH go get something out of the bin that you put in there? And that you now need?

succinctly put @StormingNorman

You wouldn’t go to the end of your driveway at night?

Either you’re unbelievably timid or living somewhere extremely dangerous. Whichever it is, change it.

Too ladylike to change a loo roll…I’m getting visions of David Walliams in a dress 🤣😂🤣

I thought they were joking when they told me! - then I realised they were serious (facepalm). Maybe I should have done the impression instead :-D

I would never ask anyone else to pick something out of a bin that I put there in error.
Regardless of where the bin was located.
Presuming you had a torch?

He'd get it for me ❤️

The OP was murdered while retrieving the item from the bin.

That'll show us!