To find many People on Mumsnet are fake!

[leavingabusetoday]

im writing here litreally from observation of a few threads.
One the other day was about a song lyrics which was wrong being about anal sex and some of the posters made out the word sex was crude.
on one today about a women with a hangover all the comments was on 7 year old shouldn’t have been left till 10am.
there was one about a women missing a wedding with a newborn and many people were commenting saying the dad should come back that night (because imagine a women having to look after kids on her own for one night)

i read Mumsnet regularly and I find nearly every other poster to act as if they are middle class have a husband who works a good job. Have never left a child unsupervised for half a hour up to the age 10….

i don’t know if it’s me (I’m a single mum council flat which is temporary) but it seems everyone on here acts as if they live comfortably large houses if you read a thread in houses everyone’s got a en-suite I got 3 people in one room 🤣 and I’m not jelous I had a horrible life that I’ve left now have a degree and nearly a home of my own and I’m really happy just wondered if it’s fake Reply’s , fake OPs or that genuinely the demographic of users.

In the past there have been some proven liars, it was so funny..someone asked people to post pictures of their bedrooms for design inspo. One prolific poster who boasted constantly about being rich, put up a picture of a huge palatial bedroom. Someone did a Google image search and found it was a photo of a hotel room in Paris, from their website! Sadly some posters do lie and live in a fantasy world, perhaps because their reality is not so great.

I've fudged my situation to avoid being found on here.

I've given advice that I know I probably wouldn't do but genuinely think it's the best option.

Heaps are fake. Any post that involves someone accidentally seeing a bunch of messages on someone’s phone or accidentally finding folders on someone’s laptop ring bullshit to me

I think its the demographic of users tend to be more middle class. I prefer MN to similar sites because I feel like the advice isn't sugar coated (even though there are some dickheads).

Just for reference, I'm working class, we do have an ensuite but we're renting so that probably doesn't really count! We're finally on the verge of buying. I'm a SAHM and my husband is a civil servant.

I'm only educated to GCSE, I dropped out of A Levels and I've never had a job that's been much above minimum wage, I've never even been able to keep a job, I have ADHD and it's definitely hindered me. So I'm not your typical mumsnet high earner. Far from it!

P.S I was on the thread about the newborn and the Dad definitely should have come home that night 😆

It's not unreasonable - every family I know is on significantly more. My kids are much older so thankfully I don't pay for childcare but pay for school fees x 2.

to OP no I've never left a child under 10 at home alone.

Not mean. Not fake

Just being an arse hole on purpose.

I'd be more honest on an anonymous forum than perhaps the times (daily) I can't say what I think

I’m real, I don’t lie on here, what would be the point.

What the fact that people 'accidently' find them? Or no one EVER finds files on phones??

I can assure you a good pal accidently found a whole load of grim stuff on her husbands unlocked phone... I was there...

She picked up 'her' ringing handset... Her and her partner had identical handsets...

Do you mean you can't place them? That this can't possibly have happened in their life cos that is not how I led to believe ?

MN has always had a lot of higher earners/middle class types. Its a very skewed demographic.

Yeah the 175k salary discussion almost floored me... 4k childcare a month 😮 I understand its horses for courses but I earn 24k a year up north 🤣🤣

Ive never lied on here. I live in south east commuter belt, i took that thread as 175k between two salaries based op saying "we" a lot but tbh i know lots of people where i live on 175k or more. Most have mortgages of at least what OP quoted, if not more. I did think the childcare bill was probably based on choosing an expensive nursery over a cheaper childminder though.

And im sorry OP but where i live, every single house has a small ensuite! Estate built in the 80s, the non estate houses round here are actually bigger and some will have two ensuites. Or more.

Some posts seem made up to me especially ones that reveal a bit more gradually in response to posters pointing out inconsistencies.

Could it be possible that some inadequate or lazy writers/journalists could be looking for ideas to write about?

Who know though? There’s nowt so funny as folk, as my mum used to say 🤷‍♀️

This. The net has always had an element of fantasy-land on it.🤷‍♀️

The ones I suspect to be fake are those who claim to be a highly successful lawyer/doctor/business person etc with multiple dcs but can spend every hour for days on end posting on MN, The Oxbridge threads are something to behold.

Please ignore the MN snobs! I promise you we're not all living off our husbands in big houses on the outskirts of London with tens of thousands in the bank, assuming everyone else is the same.

Even before the internet there have been people who love to talk bullshit and people who act fake. Now we get to come across people like that from all over the world in one social media platform.

Sorry! I just thought your degree might have been fake. My bad….

I think this thread shows that some posters struggle to comprehend that people live differently.

There was an example up thread where the poster lived in London and joked that people (fake) post about their rural life.

I live 10-15 minutes drive from the nearest shop. DC's school has 100 pupils and is over 3 miles away. Our house is tiny (no en-suite) and one downstairs bathroom. If we didn't have a car we'd be screwed!

I grew up rurally but lived in cities for 15 years. I'm not rich but university education did bring opportunities.

I would hate people to live identical lives. I don't look down on anyone. Most people have more money than I do!

They could well be Dyslexic

I do think that a lot of threads at the moment are just flat-out not real. They are started by spammers (wanting to build up a posting history to make any future spam threads harder to spot), by people playing around with AI, or by people with a political agenda wanting to shit-stir or (more recently) electioneer.

I used to eye-roll a bit at posters who complained about the high number of fake threads, but either I have become less naive or the number of fake threads has shot up.

AI is a game changer for trolls, I think. The situations posted about can be so random and/or detailed that it is tempting to think that no one could be bothered to invent them so they must be real.

It is really soul destroying to be caught up in this fakery.

@ValueAddedTaxonomy I get what you’re saying. Sometimes I think that I can spot Chat GPT or a made up story but then I get invested in a thread that seems genuine. And when I come back to find out if the Op has updated I discover the thread has been deleted because the Op was a previously banned poster. I feel a little bit disappointed.

People with high outgoings are allowed to feel the pinch and talk about it. That’s the problem. It’s naive to just say ‘well, downsize, suck it up til your kids are older and basically shut up’. Someone is allowed to feel anxious about it.

There is an awful lot of inverted snobbery on mumsnet. And, judging from those posts, those people tend to have narrow view of other people's lives who, they perceive, are living 'above' their own.

I can't bear the threads where someone is made to feel bad or out-of-touch, for posting that they're feeling the pinch on a 'high salary'. Out of touch with who?!

Cries of 'it's not real life'. It's my real life!

I'm on £80k, husband on £100k. Life in middle class south east, commute to London. Two kids in state school. We're comfortable but not rolling in it. Sorry I don't live in a council flat or have a wage of £21k at the age of 40 (doesn't mean I can't appreciate someone's life like that, though).

Also, why lie on an anonymous forum?