To stay at home every weekend ?

[Woolygreyowl]

Is this weird / wrong?

Dc are at nursery / school all week. Each has one extra curricular activity a week. We walk (3 year old still uses buggy) but that’s still plenty of fresh air.

Every weekend we stay at home - the dc have toys / arts and crafts / the garden. It’s time to relax and do things at our own pace. They have a nice time and so do we. MIL has heavily criticised my parenting and SIL (who is a childcare practitioner don’t you know 🙄) thinks I’m affecting their ‘social and emotional development’ (?wtf!) because we are at home every weekend??!

Sorry - should have added this cropped up as SIL asks frequently can we go over to hers or take MIL out and about

MIL & SIL can jog on. Your family, do what suits you.

Your weekends sound good. Can I join in? 😉

Sounds lovely to me if you enjoy it. Why not?

Thankyou ! Honestly after a week of school nursery work etc it’s perfect ! We do see SIL and MIL during the week as well so it’s not like we aren’t seeing them so I’m struggling as to why they think this so bad for the dc !!

I couldn’t do that every weekend, sorry! Each to their own but personally my 2.8 year old really enjoys a change of scenery or a trip out somewhere. He is very social and just enjoys being out and about and seeing new faces. He would climb the walls if we stayed on our home lot every single weekend!

Exactly what loads of kids do actually need. They need downtime with their own family, and friends when older. Overstimulating and overexposure to excessive 'input' is what sees them losing it in nursery and at school come Monday. Enjoy.

Dh did say to SIL ‘what rubbish they aren’t locked in one room with the curtains shut and tv on - they are in and out of the garden and playing !’ I also heard him say ‘I’m here too yet this is all directed at Woolygreyowl ??’

do what makes you happy…it’s horses for course isn’t it….personally love to be out and about at the weekends….but if it’s not your thing great

Sounds like all the excursions for MIL fall to your SIL - is that right or does your husband take her out?

Every weekend? Yeah, YABU. And your 3 year old is too old to be in a pushchair, he should be walking with you.

I wouldn't want to stay in all weekend every weekend. Do you go out to places like soft play, museums, out for food, shopping etc?

All weekend, every weekend I personally couldn’t do. We tend to have one home/garden day but 1 parent will usually nip out so any of the DC are welcome to join if they want to.

If they’re only doing 1 activity plus school all week it does sound a bit limited. Do they see friends, go swimming, bowling etc during the week?

Each to their own, I do enjoy a chilled weekend at home but don’t you sometimes have invites out, parties etc? Do you actively decline all invitations and never make plans to catch up with friends?

It wouldn’t be for me but each to their own

It sounds monumentally boring to me, and as though you'll turn out the kind of Mumsnetters who find leaving the house unless strictly necessary absolutely draining, and who get into their pyjamas at 6 pm as soon as they're in the door from work, but you do you, I suppose.

Exactly my kind of weekend!

Not my cup of tea, we're at home this weekend because we're going on holiday Sunday night so packing, tidying etc, I'm bored and want to go out, DH went to the gym this morning and I'm booked into a class tomorrow morning but other than that we've got things to do here. We have a big garden and DS has plenty of toys and books, but I much prefer walks on the beach, museums, theatres, cycling, spending time with friends and family, we live in a seaside town so there's often things going on, there was a music festival last weekend with sea shanty singers etc and there's a historical event in a local property in a few weeks, lots of it doesn't cost much if anything, they learn so much from exposure to different environments

He’s not quite there yet due to ASD and hypermobility but we are working on it

We see her once or twice a week usually, she just wants to be seen as the head of the family , to be taken out for coffee and cake every weekend to garden centres etc

In half term or holidays yes but weekends because dh is home we just prefer to have weekends like this

People can’t fathom that you like your own company or being with your own family because they can’t imagine feeling like that. They run on the company of other people and therefore you must be broken!

We love being at home. To me a home is your bit of land that you make as nice as possible for the people living on it. It’s there to live in and enjoy with your family.

And why on earth would you want to waste your weekend with people who judge your life choices and parenting? Boring.

I don’t think it’s wrong but I think wonder if you’re all missing out on all the activities out there. Your DC will be fine learning wise and socially as they have nursery and activities at home but what about seeing more of the world than nursery and home? Farms, wildlife, even just the fun of different play equipment

Sounds perfect! I hate being on the go every weekend, it begins to bore me.

when I was a kid most weekends we stayed at home unless it was the twice a month grocery shop. Me and my sister either entertained ourselves or went outside to play. I did the same with my DD, spent a few hrs running errands then back home. Once she was old enough she was playing with friends, and I would do things (or nothing) around the house.

It’s my worst nightmare staying in every weekend. But each to their own. Nobody else’s business.