To be irritated that my dh couldn’t just buy the kids a souvenir each

[Shitvenir]

Instead of a random plush to share?

He’s been away with work for a week. One FaceTime in all that time. Most of my text’s unanswered (I only sent 3 a day tops). It wasn’t his idea to bring something back for them, I suggested it might be nice so they knew he was thinking of them. A bag of sweets they wouldn’t get at home or something small, even a bloody pen each surely would be nicer than a stuffed animal that neither of them can have in their bed without the other being upset? I just wanted him to be a bit thoughtful.

Nooooo....nooooo...

3 texts a day is nothing and I’d be raging if my husband just didn’t reply or didn’t text when away.

But he would never do that because he actually gives a shit about how we’re all doing when he’s not here. It matters to him.

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My partner and I exchange more than 3 texts during a normal work shift for 1 of us! Unless it's a particularly busy shift.
DD and I are away next week on holiday and we will FaceTime most days and text multiple times a day easily

@Shitvenir I recognised it's Snowy.
Tell him he owes the kids a TinTin book - one each but not the same book 😂

I've just checked, so far this year I've sent my DH 31 texts, 6 of which were to tell him I'd had a bad night so not to wake me, most of the others were 'is this the right size' or 'I'm on the way home' type and just one was a picture of his dog with a pink bandage on her foreleg. It's OK though, we live together so are able to talk to each other. If one of us is away we'd maybe check in most days but if I sent him 3 texts he would think something was very wrong

I think the point with the 3 texts a day is that it’s not at all a lot if they are reciprocated, but if OP sent 15 texts through the week and only a couple were answered, surely that’s a big hint to stop sending them?

Regarding the toy, I assume it was intended more of a souvenir of “dad went to Brussels” rather than intended as an actual cuddly toy? Particularly at €25 each.

Oh yay, competitive emotional detachment. I've sent mine more than that since this morning! You might find that thought horrifying but it doesn't mean you're right and I'm wrong. It's just different.

I have that kind of relationship and it's lovely :) we love each other and like chatting.

That's cute - is it TinTin's dog?

But yes a little something each would have been better. I remember my dad always bringing us a little back from work trips abroad. The one I remember was my favourite - a bag of sweets and a paper flag of the country!

I think that's shitty and thoughtless.

Sharing toys was very normal in our family growing up.

I don't think we are emotionally detached particularly, we've been together for 45 years so if we are it's not done us any harm. We both have quite full lives, especially since we retired.

They bloody do share alright? 🤣😫

I think both a present, my DH goes away with work quite a bit a brings back presents for my two are they are teenagers, he bought me some perfume at duty free last time as I think I may have shown how fed up I was with a huge Toblerone.

Congrats. I think we’ve established that people are different.

Dh is actually much more of a texter than me when he’s home.

I'm not understanding the problem then. They get a much better toy this way than splitting the money.

“Do you want a coffee?”

”enjoy your meeting that could have been an email 😂 just off to tescos. Text if you want anything”

”PT done. Knackered 🥵. Can you put kettle on?”

”🙄 yes, I know, it’s not really your colour”

Sooooooooo suffocating.

But 3 messages a day is massively needy. When he doesn’t reply the first time, take a hint! I would be annoyed if my husband was bombarding me with messages while away.

3 messages a day is NOT needy, not is it bombarding your partner.
Especially if you have kids.

Hilarious! Half of my messages are in reply to his. We send each other funny pictures or reminders for things or requests for things at the shop. I sent him a link to a house for sale that we’d been talking about today.

My DH and I actually like talking to each other.

I travel internationally regularly, usually to the other side of the world.
Yes, it busy and not the 'holiday' everyone thinks your on but you do have time to send a few texts home.

Just to give my perspective, I'm travelling for work in a few weeks the agenda is:

Leave my house at 5am Sunday morning
Get to location 2pm local time after about 18 hrs travel all in
Monday at 8am (working breakfast) - 6pm is booked with meetings then a dinner is planned
Tuesday at 8am (working breakfast) - 6pm is booked with meetings then a dinner is planned
Wednesday at 8am (working breakfast) - 6pm is booked with meetings then travel to the airport for an 11pm flight home
Arrive back in the U.K. Thursday late afternoon local time then get the train and a taxi home for early evening.

Unless I buy it in the airport there is no time for souvenir shopping and I'm basically working 15 hr days so very little opportunity to txt/whatsapp.

Lol at the replies.
No, 3 texts a day to your husband when he's away is not needy.
Yes, he should've bought the kids something each. That's rubbish.
Why the he'll didn't he buy 2? Could he get another one and say it got lost among his luggage and he's now going the other one.
My dh went away a couple of yrs ago and he bought the dc back m&ms from the airport. They were really happy with them.

So that’s not even vaguely like OP’s situation then. Clearly if someone is replying, then they welcome the texts. If someone is not replying, then they do not welcome the texts and continuing to send them is needy and a bit PA.

Not sure that is worth £20.

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