To be irritated that my dh couldn’t just buy the kids a souvenir each

[Shitvenir]

Instead of a random plush to share?

He’s been away with work for a week. One FaceTime in all that time. Most of my text’s unanswered (I only sent 3 a day tops). It wasn’t his idea to bring something back for them, I suggested it might be nice so they knew he was thinking of them. A bag of sweets they wouldn’t get at home or something small, even a bloody pen each surely would be nicer than a stuffed animal that neither of them can have in their bed without the other being upset? I just wanted him to be a bit thoughtful.

I always bring something small back for the kids when I travel abroad (a few times a year). But 3 messages a day is massively needy. When he doesn’t reply the first time, take a hint! I would be annoyed if my husband was bombarding me with messages while away. Checking in in the evening is fine.

Oh and YANBU to be annoyed. At least he could've got a bag of sweets as those they could share!

He bought snowy back...that's just any soft toy...it's snowy...wow lucky kids....be expensive to and sounds like a grab at the airport with limited time. Yabu. It's snowy....

Yanbu op.

A cuddly toy doesn't share well.

My DH would bring a little something each and some local sweets.

😂 do you want it?

The one present is crap - does your h have siblings ? In which case he should have known to buy 2.

Did the time zone he was in match yours ? What I mean is if he got a good morning in the middle of the working day then I wouldn’t expect a reply until afterwards.

My ex worked abroad a lot and he called around 5:30pm our time and briefly spoke to us (5 mins?). There was usually a short slot of free time between work and going out to dinner so it worked well. I only texted when it was urgent tbh.

Yes please...huge tintin fan....

Different for everyone (as this thread has pointed out) but I find when DH is away is texts way more- yes he’s working then has dinners/ networking in the evenings but he’s free from looking after the kids, doing meals, baths, bedtimes etc and he admits if has more time to faff .. only annoying thing is he usually calls/ text when I’m sorting the kids dinner or their bath.

with 2 young kids I wouldn’t be happy with him not replying to texts, unless he has a job where he literally can’t get away or look at a phone

Yes, he has 2 siblings! Only an hour ahead and he won’t have been working constantly. There was a couple of work meals I think but definitely down time too.

I couldn’t tell!

Sorry op from what I've heard from my bil who hates these trips...you no time ..it's crap, you exhausted and working every hour you not sleeping...bil says he give it up to sleep in own bed ..he now slightly more senior so can....it's snowy... seriously snowy...

you could buy here @Londonrach1 🙂

https://thetintinshop.uk.com/shop/mini-standing-snowy-plush/

It sounds like they aren't good at sharing if they can't take turns to have the toy. A share toy means they get something better than overpriced novelty sweets.

This. Can’t imagine my boyfriend (kids not his) getting one something and not the other - he’s checked out of parenting surely a phone x2 a day and regular texts is not too much

Rip it in half and give half to each child. Would make a point.

Ripped off! He paid €24 for it 🤣

I’m not surprised it was expensive, it’s Snowy from TinTin - was your DH in France? Tin tin is big over there.

I’m not the most prolific tester, DH is far more into keeping in touch than me, but even I’d manage 3 a day!

It would have been better to buy two bars of chocolate, than one toy to argue over, OP, YANBU.

Thank you...what gave it away......hides the tintin t shirt....hope my tintin madness made you smile ..tintin is special to me as I'm dyslexic...I couldn't read...until I found tintin...it's simple and easy ...and so much history...there's alot of facts behind the cartoon....first time I realized I had a brain..

They’re good at sharing, honest. One of them gets the duvet tonight and they’ll alternate tomorrow. The other gets the toothbrush.

I just popped out for less than an hour and exchanged more than three texts with my husband in that time.

People on here just like to be dicks for the sake of it. It's pathetic.

I’d be pissed off too. My sister took my kids out for the day and bought them a plush to share. You can’t even share a friggin plush! I’d rather she bought them nothing! In the end I went out and bought an identical one to stop the fights.
If you’re going to get a sharing toy at least make it something shareable like a game FFS

It feels odd he didn't buy 2 gifts. Was the plush toy really fluffy and bulky? maybe he couldn't fit 2 on the plane? It needed a seat? Lol?
Is he usually alright with gifts?
Being abroad for work can be really stressful and he may genuinely have just grabbed something without really thinking. But that to me shows he did try and adhere to your wishes, maybe with limited time or opportunity.
My dad used to bring me godawful tat by the truckload back from Egypt, Texas etc from work trips. They must have thought he was a drug smuggler! How many stone cat statuettes could one 7 yo possibly need?!
I'd just say next time you and him are out shopping just choose two small toys for the kids and all will be forgiven. Hopefully!

Ah, that’s nice.

3 texts is nothing.

Anyway, it’s common sense to get them something each!