To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

[pontipinemum]

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

Agree with you OP! No need for that level of detail…

But any euphemism means the same thing so ?

Is your dh from the North West of England? I’ve heard this there, and it does jar, but I think it might be regional?

It wouldn't bother me, though I don't say it myself!

It creates a picture you don't really need to see.

Using the bathroom

is my go to

I've rarely heard that version and would probably say "she's at the loo", but it wouldn't bother me. I dislike "in the bathroom" more because it sounds like that coy Americanism, and all my life the toilet and the bathroom were separate rooms.

@WaitingForMojo no, we are both Irish but different regions here and town v country. He's a farmer so probably more of a to the point sort of person!

I agree with you OP, it presents more of an unwelcome visual image than 'gone to the bathroom' does!

Raised in the south and it's very normal there.

So long as you're not saying she's on the shitter, I dont think there's a problem with it.

That's what I think. It's an imagine you just don't need out there. 'She's in the loo' well she's just washing her hands or standing there like an inanimate object for a few minutes. She's on the loo, well, OK

Totally usual thing to say I think…. I’m in Devon.

It wouldn't bother me at all (I'm Irish too but not a farmer )

@Catsmere I would associate 'restroom' with Americans. I thought they usually got confused when directed to the bathroom because they wanted the toilet not a bath

The loo is the equipment you're using, if you're in it, then you're using it wrong. It is only a bathroom if there's a bath in it!

It’s generally considered polite not to mention loo trips directly; hence you’d say “excuse me” not “I’m going to the loo” in any sort of formal setting. So yes - more “U” (a la Nancy Mitford) to say “she’s indisposed for the moment”. But depends who’s on the other end of the comment. Okay in a family context, but not more formally, probably.

I agree OP, a little TMI.
Mind you, my DH could well say 'she's on the bog'...

Gone to the bathroom / toilet / loo is much better than announcing you are “on the toilet”.

Unless you’re three and it’s a big achievement, no-one needs to be told you’re on the toilet.

@TheYearOfSmallThings what can I say, I'm from D4 where we don't even fart let alone sit on a loo 😂(I am far far far from D4 I'm a bog head from a small midlands town)

I don’t like it either , and I wince every time my husband says he’s going to “use the bathroom “ , it feels too graphic ! Actually, most of the time I don’t know why he needs to announce it at all, just go !

I dont like it because I'm a very visual thinker so it conjures up a mental image I'd rather not have.

For the same reason, I feel really uncomfortable when someone says (outside of a clinical conversation) that they have diarrhoea or worse, 'the runs'. An upset stomach, food poisoning, ate something that disagreed with me, are all preferable to me.

I'm very aware I'm a bit unreasonable though.

I'm trying to remember if I heard any American friends say restroom when I visited, but if talking about their homes it was definitely bathroom (confusing, as you said). I associate restroom with public loos which may have room for couches, say what used to be known as the Ladies' Lounge in big department stores.

I really don't see the issue 🤷‍♀️

Snerk - that means my current place has no bathroom, 'cos it doesn't have a bath! 😄

Actually when I hear "she's on the loo" I picture one of my cats standing on the lid.

In the jacks so surely 😂