To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

[pontipinemum]

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

No need to announce your purpose or destination! The trick is to be vague, not specific. You know they know, and they know that you know that they know . . .

‘She can’t come to the phone just at the moment’ is sufficient. You could be washing your hair, in the middle of baking, or wrangling a sheep - not just using the toilet!

‘Excuse me a moment’ is absolutely enough in any situation from visiting elderly great-aunts to inter-company meetings and conferences, and especially in m/f situations, such as today when I met my opposite number in a different organisation. Works well in other circumstances, eg when cornered by a crashing bore at a party

(‘Popping to the loo’ is quite acceptable between friends and family of course!)

And don’t tell me you’ve had the runs or been sick. ‘Bit of an upset tum’ covers all bases . . .

😂😂OK I have a toddler who I am hoping to start training this summer I must remember to be explicit in what I want him to do!

YANBU. ‘On the toilet’ not necessary’ and sounds faintly scatalogical 😊‘In the bathroom’ much more acceptable.

Everyone round here (NE) would say she’s on the loo, or she’s on the bog. lol. They might said she’s gone to the loo. Or she’s in the loo. No one uses the word bathroom unless you’re a younger generation who’s watched a lot of American tv. And I’ve never really thought about the use of the word ON being graphic.

I’m the same. I never use those words, it’s always an upset stomach. I hate phrases with the word toilet in it, I’ll say loo or bathroom. Toilet just makes me think of some of the horrible smelly public loos.

Oh well, my 6year old grandson has a recent aversion of going to the loo on his own. I have not the faintest idea why, but when he needs to go he announces "I need to wee, are you coming?" #alwayslookonthebrightside

Totally normal here in Birmingham too.

I'd hate it too, depending on the circumstances being suitably vague is the best policy. To be fair, my partner doesn't really have the opportunity as I'll only wee if anyone is present in the house so not in there long.

If I say I'm in the bathroom then that invites attempts to get through the door because of 'look at my picture' or 'he hit me!'
I have reached the stage where I hear the footsteps coming up the stairs and I'm yelling out "I'm on the toilet" in the vain hope that I will at least be able to have 5 minutes of peace!
If you can't say you're on the loo in front of your family, how are you gonna cope when you need them to wipe yer bum in years to come 😅😉

It isn't regional to say toilet...l live in the North and we say "loo"...?

My ds1 used to shout "mummy's on the toilet" through the letterbox if I was upstairs when someone knocked on the door. Whether I was actually on the toilet or not. I asked him not to so he cheerfully told some Jehovah's witnesses through the letterbox that I was in bed! Even more embarrassing.

Many years ago my daughter answered the phone to my bank manager and told him I was on the toilet.I pointed out to her that was a bit too much information! He and I had a little chuckle about it later.

If he's aware you don't like it, he should stop doing it. It doesn't matter what his view is

Are you middle class then? 😁

I would hate it! Far too graphic and no one’s business! In the bathroom or on the loo or better yet “ busy for a few minutes”

Agree OP. Better to say ‘she’s not around at the moment but will ring you back soon’. Or ‘She’s not here. Can I take a message?’
How does he know you are on the toilet anyway? You might be brushing your teeth, washing your hands, cleaning the floor etc.Saying you are on the toilet might imply you need to spend a long time in there - no need for all that detail! Or he could just put the phone outside the toilet door allowing you to grab it and speak anyway.

Totally agree, I don't want anyone to know I'm on the loo, it's personal

My uncle used to say he was going to the library when he went to the toilet. As he brought a thick book in with him.

It always made me feel a bit sick

It kind of depends!
my mother calls ‘she’s on the toilet’ fine!
my boss - not fine!!

Why the fuck would you want to take a phone call while having a shit? No need for detail, “on the toilet” is too graphic but audio of the event is fine?

we all use the toilet, everyone knows everyone else uses the toilet, so why is it such a big deal that someone knows?

if you’re at work or out, or otherwise in company, do you never go to the toilet in case they realise you go to the toilet? If you’re out shopping do you just slope off, or ask them to wait while you pop to the loo?

how does it work living life trying to hide your bodily functions?

TBF he doesn't do it to annoy me just says it unintentionally

At work you can just say you're going to the loo, nicer than saying toilet imo.

I agree with OP.

Pp says they don’t want anyone knowing they go to the toilet.

Totally agree, I don't want anyone to know I'm on the loo, it's personal

how does that work.

Gone to powder your nose 😁 that’s what people used to say decades ago but of course that could also mean something very different.

Hahahaa definitely not a good one to use these days..