To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

[pontipinemum]

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

Wouldn't bother me.
If he was to say something actually vile like ' she's on the loo curling one out' then I'd be pissed off.
But to be honest, on the toilet doesn't mean having a poo. Us women sit to pee too

We say in the loo.

👏 Nothing gets past you!

I say it to v close family because it's funny, imo!

If he's a farmer it could be worse!

I use ‘temporarily indisposed’

At least they seem to have lost 'comfort station' for a loo in a public space.

When I first met my now late OH he would say he was off to point Percy at the porcelain.

"OP can't come to the phone right now, can I take a message," seems sufficient. It's what was common here (US) when landline phones were the norm. If it was your cell, he should let it to to voicemail.

Ohhhhh…I was like ‘YABVU, I’ve said this thousands of times in my life’ and then saw your comment, @WaitingForMojo. Fascinated to know if this is a NW thing!

I mean, whether you’re in the loo or on the loo, they’re both just nicer ways of saying, “Give ‘er a minute, she’s taking a slash.” 😂

This! I was always brought up with ‘in the toilet’ and we would always (privately) cringe and laugh when an acquaintance of ours used the phrase ‘on the toilet’ to indicate the location (activity?Yuck!) of her grown up son!
When I met my DH a few years later, I cringed again when I heard his DM use the same phrase. Call me a snob, but it sounds so ignorant. She has no self-awareness about it and will say it to anyone eg ‘Sorry, I couldn’t answer the door sooner:I was on the toilet’ (Eugh!). The fact that she’s so aspirational and judgmental in other ways makes it particularly ironic.

I'm Irish and I've never heard that @pontipinemum.
Both my parents were from rural backgrounds and never used it.
Yes it's a bit graphic.

I can’t stand it. My parents-in-law say it very loudly in front of lots of people.
where is Anele22?

She’s ON the toilet!

Nobody needs to know.

I think that’s a bit of a precious reaction — on the toilet is a very normal phrase and I don’t get why it’s offensive that someone might be on the toilet / using the bathroom / using the restroom - whatever you want to call it. Big deal.

“She’s at the loo” gives me an immediate picture of someone standing next to a toilet unsure what to do 😂😂😂

So vivid! He’s a veritable Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

Cumbrian here, bathrooms are usually where you go to use the loo so we usually say, I’m going for a wee/pee or going to the loo/lav/bog. Never heard anyone say I’m going to the bathroom, they are in the bathroom. Get the piss taken, pun intended, and asked who you thought you were. Why are people such wet wipes over this stuff? Seriously not arsed at all. Tell me you’re going for a shit or shout you’re doing a shit whilst having one and I’d respect you more!

My husband’s from Notts and he says ‘on’. I didn’t like it to start with, but 38 years later we are both going for a wee …

I think that Hyacinth would say lavatory, as per the National Trust!

I ring my elderly dad every day and if it takes a while for him to pick up he invariably says “I was just on the toilet”. I keep suggesting that he may like to come up with another greeting because it’s not always me on the end of the line 🤣

I absolutely hate the use of bathroom instead of loo/toilet. I don't think it matters if he says on the toilet. I'd say 'in the loo' though.

I'd prefer "in the bathroom" but our only loo is in the bathroom with a bath in.

I entirely agree......I would say "in the loo" or "having a pee" or "spending a penny" depending to whom I was speaking....

Learned this the hard way with my son.

Go and wash your hands.
Where?
In the toilet!

Did not think for a second he’d walk pass the sink and actually wash them in the toilet.

could be worse, you could be dropping the kids off at the pool.