To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

[pontipinemum]

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

Indisposed = gone for a shit, back in a bit

Could be worse, I once answered the phone as a child and called for my dad... he must have been really stressed because he didn't normally swear but for some reason, he answered with, "I'm having a shite" which I promptly repeated down the phone.

Didn't go down too well

Now that's classy!

🤣🤣🥹

But by that logic you'd think "she can't because she's shitting" was ok.

Omg someone at work used to say - dropping the kids off at the pool… 🫣🤢

Years ago when I banged my head of the corner of a shelf at work I immediately went to sit down as I felt sick. The closest place was on the toilet (it was in a nursery, and I was next to the toilet area directly from the room) so I sat on the toilet with the seat down.

when they did a report on the incident, they put I had banged my head then went and sat on the toilet instead of went to sit down.

she couldn’t understand why I objected to her writing that.

I agree with you, op. The thing is if he says ‘she’s in the bathroom’ you could be brushing your teeth/washing your hair/applying make-up - any number of wholesome activities! ‘She’s on the toilet’ immediately conjures up a picture of you sitting on the loo!

I always say that DH isn't available at the moment.

I think "on the toilet" is actually a better phrase than "gone to the bathroom" or similar.

If someone is told I'm "on the toilet" they know that I'm occupied with something and am not immediately available. If I've "gone to the bathroom" then it could be for any reason, I could just be looking at myself in the mirror or staring at the frosted glass seeing faces in the pattern of the window, it's not as clear a reason for being unavailable.

It's like if I'm in bed and phone work saying I'm not coming in. "I'm still in bed" is probably a less satisfactory explanation than "I'm in bed with a thumping headache and the room is spinning and I keep throwing up".

Eewwww!

I had a CEO with a PA who if you called and the CEO was 'not at her desk' would happily add 'try in a minute, I think she's on the loo'. You just can't help getting a mental picture you'd really prefer not to have.

A shop I visit has a generic "She'll be with you in a moment, she's just out the back" - which probably means at the loo, but could also mean up a ladder, sorting stuff, doing the accounts or making tea.

It makes it sound like you're having a poo by saying " on" the toilet. But I think it depends who he's saying it to. If it's someone familiar to you or someone he needs to be more formal with. If my family come round and ask where my husband is I might say " he's on the toilet", but if it was anyone else I might say " he's in the bathroom".

I’ve had this same conversation with my children. They all say- “shes just using the toilet” I’m trying to encourage - “he’s not here right now can he call you back?” “She’s away from the phone for a moment” “he’s in the bathroom” at a push.
but everyday I’m told someone is using the toilet.

ha on the toilet is same bad.

I know what u mean but it's better than she's having a shit at least 🤣

I'm with you, it's a bit gross - I'd actually prefer "she's powdering her nose" 😁

Depends who it's being said to. We would say it within the household about each other, "where's dad, oh he's on the toilet again" but not to other people.

I think it's a bit precious to consider it TMI.

We're all human beings. We all have basic bodily functions. Why the need to skirt around it and pretend we don't use the toilet?

For the same reason we don’t mention other universal human activities in RL conversations, I guess! I fully realise that nothing is taboo on MN!

I agree with this - and it's only ever women who are bothered! It's like those people who have to hide in the toilet when they need to fart or burp 🙈

But what is that reason? I genuinely don't understand!

Who is he saying this to?

on the toilet was normal where I grew up (NE England) but it's not something I'd say now.

How does he know you are in the loo - do you announce that you’re going?
Dont tell him in future -say you are sorting the washing , getting your whatever from the bedroom/hal/car so he can’t say it.

She's in the khazi.