To think you shouldn't say she's ON the toilet

[pontipinemum]

I hate when DH says 'she's on the toilet' instead of 'she's in the bathroom' or 'she'll be back in a min, she's gone to the loo' or similar

I've heard him say it a good few times most recently over the weekend. I do tell him I don't like it, he doesn't see why.

This is meant in a light hearted way! It does not occupy much of my brain

YABU - It's a perfectly normal thing to say
YANBU - Bit graphic

I'd tend to say she's in the loo/ gone to the loo.

I think 'she's on the toilet' is a bit graphic but it's also regional.

Why would anyone think you're just standing in the bathroom like an inanimate object? Way more disturbing than you actually having a shit.

Shock horror we have bodily functions, who cares. We know what you're doing in the toilet no matter how frilly and fluffy you want to say it.

Ha ha this has reminded me that 5yo DS started saying “she’s in this pose” to say that someone had gone to the loo and it turned out his teacher had told him that the polite phrase was “she’s indisposed”.

My DH says his boss always uses the phrase "Just dropping the kids off at the pool" when announcing a toilet visit... 😅

Ha ha, your reply made me LOL 😆

Yes we definitely say this here. Wouldn't know how else to say it 😁
Not keen on the American coy way of using "bathroom" and "powder room"
You aren't taking a bath in there when you use a restaurant... and isn't a bath called a Tub anyway? 🤨

I was making a bit of a joke (a bad one) about being an inanimate object

Thanks hunzo I know it's been difficult trying to live like this. I'll get those ducks lined up this evening 😂Think I'll get the 'free solicitor hour'

baths are increasingly being replaced by showers.

i was in the US recently. Two weeks and never saw a bath in any of the “bathrooms”.

i have never been to a public bathroom with a bath in it! I have also never wanted to spend more time than necessary in a public restroom. I am certainly not going to sit down and have a rest in there.

My ex used to say he was going to shake hands with Nelson.
Im much more genteel and say I’m going for a wee.

Sorry haven’t read all the answers but has anyone mentioned this:

What does he say if it is a man? If he is just having a wee he would not be “on” the toilet. If he says a man is “on” the toilet, then it’s clear that means doing a poo. But how would he know what the man was doing?

I know what you are saying but he could be saying much worse! It's hard for him to remember to not say what he has said for his whole life I guess?

It grinds on me when people call it 'the bathroom' when they need a toilet. I think it's quite American too but restaurants, pubs, shopping centres etc don't have bathrooms. They have toilets!

She's gone to the toilet.
She's at the toilet.
She's at the loo.
She's gone to the lavvy.

All fine by me.
She's gone to the bathroom I would not like as it is too American.. American's don't use the word toilet.

I’m amazed so many people think this is ok! It’s just such an uncouth turn of phrase! Very unnecessary and I would also ask DH not to say it. I’m the least prissy person in the world but YANBU

"She's/he's on the bog" is how it is said in our house!

lol, do you not see the irony of your comment?

The correct phrase is "She's on the throne".

Really?

I've always said bathroom and I'm from Manchester. My mum and grandparents are from Scotland though- maybe it's more common there?
In our house, the loo is now known as "The Depository"

The toilet is surely the actual commode itself, though?

Americans tend to use the word "restroom", or "men's"/ "ladies'" in bars, restaurants, etc., for the room where the toilets/ urinals are located.

It's called "the bathroom" in people's homes, and every family has their own phrases for what goes on in there.

Going potty/ taking a dump/ dropping a deuce/ seeing an old friend off to the coast/ befouling the facilities...

Not in my house we haven't.

Who uses landlines these days??

I find it way worse when people, think it's a localism round me, say "she's having a toilet." Wtf is that!!

'S/he is in the tinder box room' is our normal response (although it slightly depends on who's calling!)

We do....we have zero phone signal and extremely patchy Wi-Fi.