Page 4 | A man called me an 'ugly fat c***' and it has really impacted me

FunkyMonks · 22/05/2024 10:45

What an arsehole and I agree he just spat words that most idiotic men say to women as a way to hurt us or humiliate us and I agree the only person that made themselves look like an arse was that tit head you can't reserve public parking spaces 😂😂 it's first come first serve you done nothing wrong pay no attention.

Also OP you were better off doing as you done ignoring and walking away had you spoken back or filmed him as a pp suggested he could have attacked you he's already shown himself to be unhinged with the aggression he showed at you just parking in a spot.

Sadly these days even strange men have no qualms attacking strangers physically so you done the best thing walking away.

Inspireme2 · 22/05/2024 10:54

It is degrading and upsetting how a single stranger can upset us.
He is an unhappy, sad little man who probably feels empowered by Bullying Woman.
Spitting on your car is revolting.
Take no notice or value what this person says it is not worthy of a Bully.

Goldenbear · 22/05/2024 10:54

Zombella · 22/05/2024 09:35

If you looked like Kate Middleton that man would still have called you a fat ugly cunt. It's a standard term of abuse used by pathetic inadequate men like that. Don't let it get to you 💐

I agree with this OP, nasty men don’t need any real accuracy with their name calling, it is an expression of hate. I dropped my DD at piano lessons in the middle of the day and I was on an empty pavement until a man went past me and called me a ‘slut’, seemingly out of nowhere, I wasn’t anywhere near him and was wearing pretty boring t shirt and linen trousers (not that that should matter). I did say to him, “I beg your pardon?” As I was affronted but also he wasn’t very fit looking so I knew I could run if necessary. He then turned and followed me shouting, “slut, slut..” I was so annoyed that he thought he could speak to me like that, however I was meeting my DH and when he realised that he quickly backed off. I told DH, the guy was quite far away and DH shouted across the road at him, something like, “wth, who the hell do you think you are” but he’d turned into a road and disappeared.

Goldenbear · 22/05/2024 10:57

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/05/2024 10:26

55-60 years old acting like that and people go on about the behavior or the youths of today. He’s nothing but a fucking big bullying twat who I guarantee wouldn’t open his mouth to a bloke! He’s got the audacity to call you fat and ugly.!! He sounds absolutely repulsive to me and I don’t just mean in looks. He’s uncouth.💐 I too pity his wife poor lady

Yes, that’s what I thought with my name caller, he was in his late 50s.

VoteHappy · 22/05/2024 11:00

He was talking about himself.
This is what abusive people do, dump their internalised vitriol and anger onto other people.
Appalling behaviour
Mentally toss it back to him, don't internalise it yourself.
Doing that is like bullying yourself, think kind loving things about yourself that you would say to a friend and pity this sad, angry man.

ThisNoisyTealLurker · 22/05/2024 11:00

I had a fairly similar situation a few years ago and to be honest it still feels shit. That said, this incident is all about HIM not you. A man looking to cause maximum hurt to a woman is ALWAYS going to include how she looks as it's a universal thing that they believe a woman cares deeply about her personal appearance. It wouldn't matter if you looked like a supermodel, there would be something, big nose, looking like a tart, always something.
This 'man' clearly had no way to control his emotions and for that you could pity him...and his poor wife!

GordonBlue · 22/05/2024 11:03

OP look at how this man behaved. Is this a person whose judgement you would trust? On anything? Of course not. So you can safely disregard his opinion of you.

I'm sorry you had this experience. You were literally in the wrong place at the wrong time and it is no reflection on you whatsoever.

He is a dangerous and unstable individual who hopefully you will never see again. Shame about the people around him.

rwalker · 22/05/2024 11:04

It’s not personal he would of said that to anyone

if you would of witnessed him doing this to someone would you of thought
the woman was a fat ugly cunt or would you of thought what a nasty bullying arsehole/cunt

honestly the only person people would of been judging would of been him

FiveGuyPastry · 22/05/2024 11:06

Aggressively verbally abusing a woman on her own in a car park.

Wow, what a guy…..

Theredoubtableskins · 22/05/2024 11:06

I wish women were protected by hate crime legislation. The things he yelled at you were directly linked to you being a woman. It should be a hate crime.

Itiswhysofew · 22/05/2024 11:09

Roughly 20 years ago, I was called a fat bastard by a young, aggressive, male driver. He looked demonic shouting at me. I didn't give way to him, as he probably thought I should have, in his sense of entitlement. It shocked me and I was hurt by it. I wasn't fat.

Another time, a young, male driver chased me for not giving way to him. He gave me loads of abuse & I was terrified. I did manage to lose him. He had a female passenger, who was probably terrified.

Some people lose absolute control when cars are involved. I think it's a huge problem.

Carly944 · 22/05/2024 11:09

Implodedsuddenly · 22/05/2024 09:29

At the weekend, I pulled into a free parking space near our local beach. Suddenly this 55-60 year old man started banging on my car window saying his wife was going to park there and was just turning round (she was nowhere to be seen).
I ignored him and locked my doors as I was genuinely frightened of him - he was a huge muscly guy, in a vest top, and didn't look like a nice character.

I carried on ignoring him and he suddenly started shouting that I am an 'ugly fat cunt' and 'no man would ever go near you looking like that'. Lots of people saw and heard him, but no one stopped him as I guess they were worrked by him too. As he walked away, his wife parked a few spaces up and he spat on my car. His wife saw but didn't say a word.

I am a very happily married 40 year old woman with 4 children and a good career, but his words have honestly shaken me up and hurt me so deeply. I already have a low self esteem. I was utterly humiliated to have those things said to me. I clearly am fat and gruesome for someone to use it against me.

My husband says the only humiliated person is him and he's utterly disgraceful speaking to a woman like that.

But it's really cut me deep and left me feeling SO terrible about myself.

AIBU to be so upset?

A man called me fat when I was a size 10.

They say things to hurt you.

It doesn't mean they are true!

porridgecake · 22/05/2024 11:10

There has been a recent court case where a nasty road rage man was convicted. I can't remember if he got a prison sentence or not, but his picture was all over the media.

That woman locked her doors and filmed him.
I am so sorry this happened to you. These men are disgusting.

222a · 22/05/2024 11:10

I was called a fucking slut once crossing the road by a guy on a motorised scooter
to this day I have no idea why, some men are awful and really abusive sorry this happened to you OP

Crikeyalmighty · 22/05/2024 11:14

Twitter is full of them OP- usually right wing arseholes who hate on everyone and are tattooed ,mysoginistic ,muscled up Trump types - complete losers - always abusive to perfectly pleasant looking women or liberal minded men- what sad see you next Tuesdays they are

Pottyberry · 22/05/2024 11:15

OP I also echo @Zombella - I bet those words are shouted by him ten times a day, at anyone who annoys him.

It's horrible and unsettling to be verbally abused like this, give yourself time to feel better.

And logically who is speaking the truth? That abusive aggressive knobhead who doesn't know you, or your husband (who sounds a good guy). 💐

Disturbia81 · 22/05/2024 11:30

Hugs these men are miserable all their lives, never forget that. Every waking moment they are angry, moaning, bitter. To have that venom for a stranger especially is not normal.
You have a happy life and are a good person. Try to forget him, his words are nothing in your life.
If that happens again, just ignore him and get out of your car like he doesn't even exist.

Newone2021 · 22/05/2024 11:56

OP it's not about you at all. Try to take comfort in the fact you're not his wife. The best one I've had is 'frigid slag', not sure how I could be both tbh 😅

Brawcolli · 22/05/2024 12:02

DistinguishedSocialCommentator · 22/05/2024 09:45

Hi OP

Sadly, there are many of these types of men and women around these days, ie entitled, inbred, work-shy, pathetic little cowards and that is a fact.

I bet you if it was a man parking up that was big and looked like he took no shit, I bet you the work-shy coward would not have said anything

It is scary, it is upsetting but as another said, would have called you disgusting names even if you looked like a good, looking model.

These parasites infest our towns and cities and are often very healthy as they don't work or work on the side and claim benefits that they are not entitled to - they have an easy life and a history of being a bully, These types may brag about what upset they caused and have a lol. However, inbreds like this do meet their match or worse and often back down or even go to the police for help.

So, get over it, move on and next time someone like this is holding a parking spot for someone that is nowhere to be seen and tell you its their parking space, just move on as these types are human scum

The man was clearly a huge dick, but where did you get work shy and benefit fraud from ops post 😆

GingerPirate · 22/05/2024 12:04

Brawcolli · 22/05/2024 12:02

The man was clearly a huge dick, but where did you get work shy and benefit fraud from ops post 😆

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Also you forgot a small willy, that usually adds to this pathetic behaviour.
Idk about work shy.

GingerPirate · 22/05/2024 12:09

VoteHappy · 22/05/2024 11:00

He was talking about himself.
This is what abusive people do, dump their internalised vitriol and anger onto other people.
Appalling behaviour
Mentally toss it back to him, don't internalise it yourself.
Doing that is like bullying yourself, think kind loving things about yourself that you would say to a friend and pity this sad, angry man.

Very true. Harsh to the others people, but an accurate statement. 😊

Frenchielondon · 22/05/2024 12:10

I understand but honestly don't worry about it, I remember as a teenager in the tube in Paris, a man started abusing me verbally for no reason and calling me a fat ugly b*.

I must have had a BMI of 18 at the time, slender and may I say beautiful.

They say what they know will cut deep, and it has no bearing at all on reality.

I'm sorry this happened to you, I bet you are beautiful inside and out. Oh and also this guy is clearly completely mental, so just think of him as a very disturbed individual and get on with your life.

Disturbia81 · 22/05/2024 12:12

Newone2021 · 22/05/2024 11:56

OP it's not about you at all. Try to take comfort in the fact you're not his wife. The best one I've had is 'frigid slag', not sure how I could be both tbh 😅

FFS they need to make their mind up 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Mummy2024 · 22/05/2024 12:14