Which jobs would put you off dating someone?

[BobbyBiscuits]

Of course, everyone has to do something, so this is light-hearted.

But which jobs would be red flags for you and you can't imagine going out with someone who does this?

Mine would be-

Tory MP/aide/minister- or anything to do with the Tory party
Scaffolder
Stripper
Porn star
PT/fitness instructor/gym owner
Nightclub owner/ manager

Interesting to hear yours!

Yep butchers/abattoir workers are #1 no for me, I don’t know how you could be around death so much and be seemingly unaffected by it.

Farmer for similar reasons.

Police officer

Traffic warden

Anything in a sleezy/sex industry

Influencer

I don't think I'd really have a firm line but I'm struggling to imagine even liking a copper never mind going out with one

But systemic issues within an organisation doesn't mean that each individual within the institution espouses those issues. For a start, there are plenty of police officers who are from ethnic minority backgrounds and plenty who are gay. In fact, I would say there are far more gay women working as police officers than there are in most other institutions.

The majority of coppers are perfectly fine, just like the majority of priests don't rape little boys and the majority of journalists don't make things up and the majority of Muslims aren't terrorists and the majority of people who like football aren't hooligans.

Perfectly fine not to want to date a police officer, but it's just silly to suggest that systemic failings in an institution mean that each individual working within it must embody them.

Another vote for Police, due to their reputation/attitude towards women.

Chef

Anything to do with meat sales or the production of meat.
Tory MP or councillor
Anything sleazy

Yes. There are many bemused and disappointed members of the NRLA for sure. But the heart wants what the heart wants, and you can't fan the flames of passion if there's no spark...

But systemic issues within an organisation doesn't mean that each individual within the institution espouses those issues.

It means that enough of them are those things (you can’t ‘espouse an issue’) for it to be systemic. That’s enough reason not to date them for me. If it’s not for you, crack on.

For a start, there are plenty of police officers who are from ethnic minority backgrounds and plenty who are gay.

There really aren’t. So much so that there’s currently a major push to recruit from minority backgrounds. There are certainly some officers from ethnic minority backgrounds and some who are gay. ‘Some’ does not equal ‘plenty’.

In fact, I would say there are far more gay women working as police officers than there are in most other institutions.

What is your basis for this? If you have any sources stating it, do please link them.

The majority of coppers are perfectly fine, just like the majority of priests don't rape little boys and the majority of journalists don't make things up and the majority of Muslims aren't terrorists and the majority of people who like football aren't hooligans.

Indeed. However (apart from the Catholic Church, which I tar with the same tainted brush) inquiry after inquiry hasn’t revealed those institutions to be systemically those things.

Perfectly fine not to want to date a police officer, but it's just silly to suggest that systemic failings in an institution mean that each individual working within it must embody them.

What do you think ‘institutionally racist’ means, exactly? Who do you think is targeting and brutalising young Black men? Individual police officers. Lots and lots of individual police officers. Enough police officers that Black parents have to have ‘the talk’ with their kids, to make sure they are aware they won’t be treated in the same way as their white peers and need to act accordingly.

That is what ‘institutional racism in the police force’ means. You seem to think the police officers are alright, it’s some vague amorphous ‘institution’ that’s the problem. No. That’s not even ‘just silly’, it’s dangerous ignorant racism apologia.

Being a gay woman makes you an automatic goodie?

As well as most of those already mentioned I'm going for
Tory MP
SPAD
Venture Capitalist
Hedge Fund Manager
Investment Banker
Influencer
Basically people who have jobs which in my opinion don't offer much to society yet often earn a ridiculously high salary.

All the Ps for me:

porn
prostitute (and only fans)
police
politician

and then probably butcher, because I am veggie and trader, because all the ones I know are massive dicks.

The funniest thing about this frankly dumb thread, is how there's a silent Venn diagram being created from every post.

The people who wouldn't date nightclub owners, personal trainers, or gym owners... well... would any of those guys even look at you?

The people who say they wouldn't date venture capitalists or hedge fund owners... ditto?

The silent professions which have not yet been named on here, but to which so many people are probably either dating, married to, or dreaming of dating -

• Architect
• Senior project lead (on something inoffensive that brings in £60k+)
• Head of dept (again on something inoffensive, doesn't have to wear suit)
• Finance but not the sharp elbowed sharky stuff, just good old advisory, or consulting
• Consulting in any domain
• Owner of building firm
• Property developer
• Farmer but not too rural right?

The above are all the professions I reckon MN'tters secretly want from a man

Honestly , this forum is just ridiculous at the best of times. 😃

Why on earth would anyone bother to post that they would not date a prostitute, or a pornstar?

Isn't that a bit of a given?

As in, yes, statistically someone dates these professions, but it's a high likelihood many would find this incompatible?

I'm assuming this is aimed at me?

No. But it does make you statistically less of a risk to me, and others (if we're talking about the police comment I made).

awwwww are you married to a policeman ? 😂

Sorry I should have quoted Krafer above.

Thank you for this. Police risk their lives on a daily basis, to protect the public, and yet the public are so fast to tar them all with the same brush, if there are a few a bad apples. They are over worked and under appreciated. Most people have no idea of the horrific things that these people are regularly exposed to. My DH has 3 years left until retirement and he is counting the days. There's only so much evil/death that one person can take, and he will be walking out on his 55th birthday. He will never be able to wipe horrific scenes from his mind, he will have to live with those images for the rest of his life.

You're free to leave at any point

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How many bent coppers do you know personally? Hmm.

‘Institutionally racist’ is not ‘a few bad apples’. That kind of minimising is part of the reason they get to keep being institutionally racist, homophobic and misogynistic.

The majority of police in this country do not ‘risk their lives everyday’, and they do their jobs for a quite decent wage and excellent benefits - not out of some noble desire to ‘protect the public’. Additionally, DH CHOSE to be a police officer. He wasn’t drafted. There was no coercion. And he chose to remain a police officer.

Finance
Corporate law
Teacher
Offshore
Any emergency service
Bailiff
Farmer
Hospital nurse/doctor
Management consultancy
Anything to do with sewage
HR

It's hypocritical to despise abattoir workers or butchers if you eat meat.

If you can't face up to the process, then perhaps give meat a miss?
I don't eat meat, but I have massive respect for people who do a job I'd hate to do.

They're never off duty!

Actor
Butcher
Builder
Psychoanalyst