To not want him to "finish" inside me...

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Apologies for the un-minced wording here but here goes:

Since becoming a mum a year ago, I have found it very inconvenient for my husband to "finish" inside me after sex.

Generally we have sex right before sleep and it just seems to be dripping out for ages afterward making my underwear and pajamas wet and uncomfortable. Not to mention the bedsheets. All just feels messy and leaves me feeling unhygienic.

Equally I don't particularly enjoy the other options. Aka him finishing "on" me.

I not sure I experienced these feelings/ distaste towards the above, pre baby.

Wondered if anyone else feels like this? Any tips / tricks/ hacks?

But do you not need to go to the toilet anyway after? Usually it all comes out then no?

Condom? His problem then? Unless you are wanting another Child? I which case there isn’t much else you can do

I do go to the toilet but seems to continue for ages after

Okay

It's quite insane this option never crossed my mind. Hmm that is an option. I feel it would seem strange for me to request him to wear one- can't put my finger on why

Condoms?

Swallow?

Nope!!! 😂

I don’t do this but I’ve heard of some people putting a towel on the bed so rather than him finishing in or on you he can just pull out and finish on the towel. Might create a lot of washing though. A condom might be less hassle.

Just tell him you find it hard sleeping after. It’s not an unreasonable request in a supportive relationship

Why not just ask him to wear a condom as you're finding the mess annoying - or you insert a Femidom?

Can't he finish on himself and then clean himself up?

🤔

Go for a pee straight after, wash yourself and put a pad on.

Shove a Tena Lady down your knickers?

Light flow period pants for bed?

I'm betting it's you who has to do all the laundry? If it were him having to change the bedsheets etc every single time I bet he'd be changing his tune.

wtf?

I just shove some tissue in my pants!

Are you sure it's semen, not your urine or some sort of discharge? There isn't that much semen per ejaculation, whatever the porn movies say.......

Put a towel down and ask him to pull out?

Annoying as it is that’s why I just jump into the shower afterwards and we don’t do it just before bed for that reason.

OP said it literally gets everywhere.....I doubt she enjoys lying in wet sheets etc? But she'll be the one having to deal with the clean up.

@YouJustDoYou how much do you think there is to "go everywhere", I sincerely hope OP makes zero "mess" during sex, also that her DH insists she doesn't come on his cock.

Naaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh.

Condom surely

A while ago - not sure where I heard this, maybe MN - someone said they use a tampon after sex. That's what I now do as I also hate the dribbly mess afterwards (and yes, I go to the loo and also shower and it still seems to leak out for ages - maybe depends on the 'shape' of your vagina?!!
Anyway I use a tampon and remove it in the morning and job done.