To not want him to "finish" inside me...

[fairyliquidbubbles]

Apologies for the un-minced wording here but here goes:

Since becoming a mum a year ago, I have found it very inconvenient for my husband to "finish" inside me after sex.

Generally we have sex right before sleep and it just seems to be dripping out for ages afterward making my underwear and pajamas wet and uncomfortable. Not to mention the bedsheets. All just feels messy and leaves me feeling unhygienic.

Equally I don't particularly enjoy the other options. Aka him finishing "on" me.

I not sure I experienced these feelings/ distaste towards the above, pre baby.

Wondered if anyone else feels like this? Any tips / tricks/ hacks?

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Same issue. Leaks for hours afterwards. These are kind of pricy though so not bought them but would sort it.

I put a pair of period knickers on, and go straight to sleep 😄

I remember someone on a Facebook group mentioning how she’d always feel it coming out the next day on the bus to work 🤣
I think just ask him to pull out just before?

It's a spray bottle of water with a mini hose type thing that bends upwards. It's usually for post partum. Saved me with my third degree tear. I was told to spray the area with clean water after pee or poo and then pat gently dry/air dry. It's so your not dragging loo roll over stitches/leaving bacteria over a big wound

Oh lord that thread was classic!

I appreciate this very much isn't what the thread is about, but bidets aren't easy to install, and should only be installed by someone qualified, or dangerous bacteria could get into the water system.

Why can't he pull out before he comes and finish in his hand? And why are you asking us instead of discussing this with your DH?

God I can't imagine using a tampon to keep all that stuck inside you all night is good for you.

Small towel down and he can pull out and finish onto that and it'll catch other fluids too.

Fucking no bastard way a bloke gets to come in me and then go off to sleep soundly and restfully at his ease, while I get up to shower/pee/wash, put a pie of pants in with a tena lady/big roll/pad, or insert a tampon, running the risk of thrush and cystitis. Don't know why but it's really annoyed me how many of you are adapting and taking all the repetitive clean -up functions on yourselves without thinking that there's anything wrong with it !

Condoms definitely make things less messy, or failing that have sex on his side of the bed so at least you don't have to sleep on the wet patch.

What’s your answer then?

Sex blanket 😂🤣😂 this thread is amazing.

Bathroom and really bear down like you constipated!

Maybe have sex earlier then shower after?

I agree it's ages coming out.

We’ve been socialised to put men first, ourselves last.

Condom is easier for him to remove than it is for you to clean yourself. So tell him he needs to use one from now on. If he says no, then no sex.

This thread is making me worry that my fanny is some sort of black hole. Whilst I’ve experienced a slight dribble or wet patch, it’s never been to the extent of being problematic.

I’m worried now…

Sorry but this made me laugh so hard I spat Diet Coke across the bed! So I’m going to be sleeping in an entirely different sort of wet patch!

See, this is why people make fun of Mumsnet.

SMH....

Which bit are you / they making fun of?

It's recommended to have a wee straight away after sex to avoid cystitis, I usually do and clean up then.

Sleeping with a tampon in is not a risk I'd be willing to take.

Well, you learn something new every day! Thanks for explaining, I'd never heard of it.

I think it’s one of those nose things that go up your nostril.

To answer your question, no of course YANBU, it's your body.

I usually go for a wee after and have a little clean up while I'm there, a little extra push while weeing gets it all out but if you're having a major issue then condoms are definitely your friend.

Ok....when people are saying he can 'finish in his hand' what does that mean? Jizzing into his actual hand!? Tell me I've got the wrong end of the stick here....

Yes, ejaculating into his hand is what my ex bf used to do. That's way better than jizzing all over me, that is just NASTY