Baked 23 cookies, dh ate 8 of them

[27Bumblebees]

I baked some cookies after dinner, like I do most weekends so the kids had some slightly less unhealthy snacks to go in their lunch boxes and to just have in the house. At the end of the night I went to put them in a container from the cooling rack and only 14 remained. I had one, so dh took 8 of them in the two hours since I cooked them! What kind of shitty self control is that.

I feel more pissed off that I took a little bit of time to do something nice (mainly for the kids, we're adults, we don't need bloody biscuits), and he's just gone for it with no respect for anyone else. Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

He ate 1/3 of the baking intended for others. Yanbu it's rude he should have asked!

@Crepester

I see cookie gate is still rolling on 👀😂

Bit rich seeing as you’re one of the main reasons it’s still rolling on 😂

To be clear , I did also state husband baking them is an option too

To be clear, you didn’t originally state this. And your earnest participation in this thread, as you’ve pointed out repeatedly, was triggered by my quoting you early on - but I was quoting your first, breezy and irritating suggestion that OP just crack on and make more because it’s soooo not a bit deal or something. So you’re essentially back-tracking here.

The heart of this matter is very simple; it turns on that crucial issue of whether someone (in this case OP) is justified in being annoyed at someone (her DH) inconveniencing her by being greedy. Doesn’t matter how small the irritation- the principle is there. Also doesn’t matter how easy it is for you to bake more cookies (even if it’s soooooo easy). (Is it still easy if you’ve run out of time or you’ve just used the last of the butter/sugar/whatever? I’m guessing so).

Anyway I think DH did apologise.

Well, not in any convincing way; this is from the OP:

Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

But I should clarify that the post I originally quoted of @Crepester was not in fact her first post. It was just the first one of hers that had caught my eye. She’d already had quite a few unsupportive things to say by then 😂

🤣

Phew - thank goodness for that!

He's a growing lad. 🤣

Seriously tho, I'd LTB.

😂

Are half of Mumsnet the secret love children of Mary Berry?

Nope. I don’t bake except a special occasion. The ingredients are criminal . I occasionally pick up warm Ben’s Cookies as a treat but I just buy one for each person ( quite big) and everyone likes a different flavour so there is no drama over sharing them out.

Honestly, I'm in awe of some of the posters on here.

I have visions of gingham aprons and all these houses with fancy pies and puddings cooling on the window sills circa 1950's.

Not on this thread, no. I can tell they don’t bake by how much they are minimising OP’s efforts and questioning why she made 23.

Yep, I doubt many of them bake half as much as they say they do.

Not me.

I actually am not too impressed by baking.

It’s a lovely thing to do once in a while, perhaps in the school holidays when it’s nice to bake something traditional for the time of year, or for a DC’s birthday. But I honestly think the time would be better spent having a family walk and stopping for a smoothie at the park cafe. It’s mostly butter, sugar, white flour. I know people throw a few oats or sultanas in here and there ; but there really are better ways to feed a family on a regular basis .

I am at a loss as to why OP is asking about this. Food is for eating. I'd be miffed if DH had taken a slice of the Christmas cake I had baked and was putting aside to marsipan (but he would never have done that) but some biscuits? There were fifteen left, so one a day if 3 DCs (she does not say) and why would DCs want any more than one biscuit in a healthy lunch? It's a bit mean not to let anyone else eat the biscuits! He could have asked, but why? My DH used to take out of the fridge anything he thought I had left to die in there, to turn into a miraculous soup (often removing items earmarked for that night's dinner). I did not make a song and dance about it; he liked making soups, I can use something else etc. It's a marriage not a workplace. A bit OTT IMHO.

it’s a bit mean not to let anyone else eat the biscuits!

Interesting take on the situation. Let’s look at who’s doing the ‘not letting’ here. DH has not let anyone have the 8 he’s swiftly stuck inside his digestive system. Meanwhile OP hasn’t ever tried to stop him from having any, just feels that taking a third has created a bit of a scarcity. For a start, by your analysis, OP only gets to have one. If anyone is ‘not letting’, it’s DH.

Actually OP gets zero? Although I seem to remember she did have one at the outset. Anyway, it’s 1 or 0 for OP. Point remains.

Well it was me who said 23 for 5 people was an odd number. And no I don't bake. Really CBA wasting my time doing that

I love making bread so kill me but mines in a bread maker so no kneading involved. Can’t make anything else though now the husband can and his clootie dumpling is to die for

@Grammarnut

Food is for eating.

Yes, that’s right. So does that mean all food is fair game for anyone at any time? So the DH would have been completely justified in scoffing the food that had actually been packed in the kids’ lunchboxes if he fancied it? Because food is for eating after all.

Honestly, don’t people think before they type?

She later posted that he often gorges on ice cream and other stuff at night and feels shit about it and she has to listen to it so he obviously does have some kind of binge eating/disordered eating problem

@kkloo oh come off it. I don't think that we need to invent a medical diagnosis for every greedy bastard

I do bake most weeks but I try not to eat it myself and my partner does yoga/ sport/ DIY every day so burns trough calories like a beast.

That's sad, you should enjoy some of what you've made

At this point it’s giving obsession. Why on earth are you quoting me when I was replying to OP who’s tagged me in a post the previous day? I deliberately didn’t comment on your posts to (try) avoid a repeat of the other day when our circular & heated discussion that was going nowhere and overtaking the thread. I’d already said on Tuesday, I’d nothing more to say to you and yet here you are again.

And it’s not “a bit rich” to comment that it’s still going on, it’s an observation . I’d not been on the thread for a day and there were over 25 new messages.

Secondly, in my post saying I’d just easily make a new batch, I also stated sometimes in that situation I’d get my man to make a new batch as well! Even if I hadn’t though it’s AIBU, not everyone will agree with OP - such as me and others. I didn’t verbally attack or call her names, I expressed an opinion (that I still hold) in a reasonably measured way that she was BU on an AIBU!

But as I’ve said atp, I’ve zero interest in if OP or her partner bakes another cookie again. I’m more curious as to why you are continually trying to engage me into an argument?!