Baked 23 cookies, dh ate 8 of them

[27Bumblebees]

I baked some cookies after dinner, like I do most weekends so the kids had some slightly less unhealthy snacks to go in their lunch boxes and to just have in the house. At the end of the night I went to put them in a container from the cooling rack and only 14 remained. I had one, so dh took 8 of them in the two hours since I cooked them! What kind of shitty self control is that.

I feel more pissed off that I took a little bit of time to do something nice (mainly for the kids, we're adults, we don't need bloody biscuits), and he's just gone for it with no respect for anyone else. Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

op and DH

It's sheer greed and selfishness. My ex was the same, he'd eat our LO's selection boxes and be blatant about it. Even a special box of sweets she'd won he guzzled the whole box.
Greed like that isn't on.

I agree. Astonished by the number of women on here that think that this is ok. Just goes to show how low standards are for men's behaviour.

It's not the 1950's where the women is expected to stay in the kitchen baking until her husband's heart is content!

Yeah I know the man knew they were baked for the kids for lunchboxes so eating 8 in rapid succession is complete gluttony.

In future OP I suggest you put the lunchbox ones in a clearly labelled box, leave one for DH and eat the rest yourself.

Just goes to show how low standards are for men's behaviour.

Spot on.

I don’t know why some posters are having a go at you, OP, feigning shock that your DH ate food in his own home and making sarcastic comments. It is gluttony. A one-off can be forgiven but as a habit it is unattractive and disgusting.
My ex was a glutton and eventually it just sickened me: finishing off a whole cake without asking did anyone else want some, eating a whole jar of expensive luxury jam with a spoon straight out of the jar, eating a whole box of chocolate and no one else got any… the sight of him shovelling food in mouthful after mouthful made me want to slap his face.

@Ilovecleaning
I don’t know why some posters are having a go at you

Sadly, some just like having a go wherever possible. Others are sort of showing off/flexing about how easy-going they are or how baking a batch of cookies is nothing to them because they’re so amazing 😂It’s tragic.

Probably also some mothers of spoiled sons who are going to make nightmare husbands for some poor women one day.

Men who behave like this haven't been brought up properly. It's selfish and inconsiderate and I wouldn't put up with it.

‘Adults don’t need biscuits’ ???😂😂😂😂

I would have done the same. lol! Forgive him.

Rtft mate, I expressly took that back! We all need biscuits.

Just bake more next time op, yes I would be annoyed but it's gone now

@27Bumblebees

we're adults, we don't need bloody biscuits

You might not, but we do in this house!!!

Nah I think 90% of things that men do and say are absolute bullshit and that nearly all of them need to be sent to some camps to learn how to behave but I just don't see having a feast on some home baking as a big deal in any way and it is certainly no reflection on the standards I expect from men at all.

She mentioned she bakes cookies almost every weekend but this seems to be the first time he decided to eat more than his fair share or she would surely have said.

She later posted that he often gorges on ice cream and other stuff at night and feels shit about it and she has to listen to it so he obviously does have some kind of binge eating/disordered eating problem as it is so it seems a bit mean to refer to it as 'shitty self control' and assign a meaning to it like he has no respect for anyone else in the family.

If a man posted saying he baked some cookies and his wife ate a third of them because of her 'shitty self control' he'd be torn a new arsehole on here and you know it.

Is this a humble cooking brag? 😂

Recipe please for coconut chocolate oats cookies

@kkloo
If a man posted saying he baked some cookies and his wife ate a third of them because of her 'shitty self control' he'd be torn a new arsehole on here and you know it.

No, we don’t know that at all! You can’t just make stuff up and use it as an argument 😂If anything like that did happen on here, it would only ever be because people like to kick an OP - so the same people who are telling OP to calm down about her cookies because it’s not a big deal would do the absolute same to this fictional man since they’re motivated by a desire to tear down rather than anything else.

ugh I’m sure you think you’re being very virtuous and have the moral high ground and all the rest, but you really don’t.

Your post the other night in particular was bizarre and disproportionally angry considering this threads subject matter and the fact OP herself stated it wasn’t a big deal as per my previous message!

You’re talking about me getting huffy about people standing up for themselves and asking me what point I’m trying to prove? Look I didn’t say anything to you in the first place. I didn’t draw you into a confrontation. I had left the thread and It was YOU who passive aggressively quoted my words in your long angry rant.

And I can’t speak for every single person who has posted she’s BU, but OP’s hardly under attack people saying effectively - they don’t see it as a big deal and would easily make a new batch or get the person who ate them to do it. There was nothing extreme or cruel or bullying about me saying that.

I bake often, my favourite recipes are very simple - oat cookies , choc chip cookies and banana bread and vanilla sponges. I don’t see it as dismissing or laughing at mine or anyone’s baking efforts to acknowledge when a recipe is quick and easy. It’s a compliment if anything, great taste simple to bake. And it’s not a brag to say you can whip up oat cookies quickly 🙄 it’s literally stating a fact - anyone who knows anything about baking desserts can do this recipe quickly. I used to make there with my 8 year old niece and she practically did it herself except the putting in the oven. It’s not about the baker, it’s about the recipe - it’s easy, fact.

She had an opinion and I, and many others, gave a counter opinion. If you find this thread infuriating that’s on you but let’s be
clear here - she posted in AIBU of all things! strangely enough people will express an opinion on whether she’s…wait for it…BU! We don’t all need to gather around giving “sympathy” to Op because her husband ate 8 cookies out of a batch but crack on.

I haven’t read every comment but nothing I’ve personally said has been out of line for AIBU, it’s you who has waded in over aggressively.

Again you’re ignoring the fact that OP said themselves as I said OP had said they found it a light hearted thread, and it wasn’t a big deal and for others to calm down and that she didn’t take it seriously, so you can’t then complain about others doing similar.

Not to mention ignoring the fact that i also mentioned her husband can make up a new batch too. But these facts don’t fit whatever moral crusade you think you’re on so I guess it’s not convenient to address? And instead it suits you to better to go into monologues about decency and respect while writing angry drivel at posters.

She later posted that he often gorges on ice cream and other stuff at night and feels shit about it and she has to listen to it so he obviously does have some kind of binge eating/disordered eating problem as it is so it seems a bit mean to refer to it as 'shitty self control' and assign a meaning to it like he has no respect for anyone else in the family.

Good point, very interesting additional info. I hadn’t read all of OP’s update or I’ve
missed this somehow so I hadn’t seen the bit about disordered or binge eating until now @kkloo

EDIT: oh I did read that post actually.

Ignore that last sentence but yeah still a good point.

Not to mention ignoring the fact that i also mentioned her husband can make up a new batch too. But these facts don’t fit whatever moral crusade you think you’re on so I guess it’s not convenient to address? And instead it suits you to better to go into monologues about decency and respect while writing angry drivel at posters

The OP said in a PP her husband wouldn't be replacing them. Of course eating a third of the batch would be less annoying if he'd cooked up another to replace what he scoffed.

Perhaps that initial suggestion I posted a couple of days ago, was made before OP said that, but either way it’s irrelevant.

My point of mentioning the above was to clarify : my proposed solution wasn’t “just” for OP to make another batch, and that I had in fact also suggested husband does it.

Because some posters were suggesting I was just enabling misogyny /men not facing consequences by putting the work on the woman.

So I was saying no, actually I’d said he should do it. That’s all.

Edit to add: I think suggesting he bakes with all 3 kids next might be my go to. The 18mo is such a handy and eager assistant in the kitchen.

Just had a quick look at some of OP’s updates above and this is what I seen. No idea if they later said it wasn’t possible but I think I’d posted before that.

It's unlikely the OP would be starting a thread to have a lighthearted vent about it if her husband had apologised right away and offered to make more. She sounds like a level headed person and has said she wouldn't have minded if he'd bought/made his own and eaten a third of them. So the comments many posters were making about her being a killjoy or policing how many biscuits he eats were unnecessary. In fact it sounds like she did do some more baking after, so it's not like she was sulking around for days about it. The husband's behaviour was clearly a little selfish in this scenario.

No, but I'm intrigued now!

For someone accusing other people like @BernardBlacksBreakfastWine of taking the thread too seriously you sure do love posting long monologues.