Baked 23 cookies, dh ate 8 of them

[27Bumblebees]

I baked some cookies after dinner, like I do most weekends so the kids had some slightly less unhealthy snacks to go in their lunch boxes and to just have in the house. At the end of the night I went to put them in a container from the cooling rack and only 14 remained. I had one, so dh took 8 of them in the two hours since I cooked them! What kind of shitty self control is that.

I feel more pissed off that I took a little bit of time to do something nice (mainly for the kids, we're adults, we don't need bloody biscuits), and he's just gone for it with no respect for anyone else. Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

My hand has to go up on this one. Not normally do I have a control issue , but I do find freshly baked things hard to resist. It almost seems a shame not to because they taste so much better before they cool. Who has tried Ben’s cookies? They keep them coming fresh and only put them to the side long enough that people won’t burn their mouth.

It would probably annoy me OP, only I cannot rail against your DH when I know the same could have happened to me… Needless to say, we bake infrequently .

And 14 will get the dcs through the week. Just get a locked tin for next week. My MIL uses those big money tins/ cash kitties with locks.

@Mrsredlipstick

thats quite the binge your son had. The loaf of bread alone 🤯

It’s not all about what he wants- presumably the other adult in the house is free to eat what she wants without a mumsnet post being created…

Mad that portion size can whip up such a frenzy! It’s only biscuits!

I’m an adult and I still need biscuits.

"slightly less unhealthy "
Than what? Whale blubber deep fried in lard?

@IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos

At the end of the day, if I make food, it's made to be eaten. In this house, there's not massive rules around how or when that happens.

And if you’d, say, made cakes specifically for a school bake sale, it’d be ok for DH to grab a massive handfulbecause food is ‘made to be eaten’? Or a birthday cake - is that still fair game because it’s food ‘made to be eaten’?

No? Well, in this case the cookies were made for a specific primary purpose. I’m amazed that so many people think it’s ok to ride rough-shod over other people’s plans and efforts. How disrespectful.

I suspect what’s happened on this thread, though, is that people have jumped in to defend the DH because they’re triggered by the idea of someone judging their cookie-eating, forgetting that it’s not about the actual eating but about respect for another person. You can eat as many cookies as you like if you’ve baked or bought them! Once they realise this, they’ve fallen back on that weakest of non-arguments beloved of teenagers- it’s no big deal.

How you operate on the small stuff gives plenty of indication about how you feel towards those around you.

@BernardBlacksBreakfastWine

Well, in this case the cookies were made for a specific primary purpose

Yes. For lunch boxes and some for the house. If DH eats the ones for the house, then the ones left are for lunches.

And I have never made cake where there isn't enough of them for a handful to go missing. Because I also enjoy eating the things we bake.

On that note I'm off to make cake with my little one. Best hope it doesn't all get eaten, because it's primary purpose is to make cake with a child.

If DH eats the ones for the house, then the ones left are for lunches.

So DH gets to eat all the ones for the house?

This contradicts your subsequent statement: I also enjoy eating the things we bake. If DH eats them all, you won’t be able to, will you?

Look, I suspect you know you’re trying to defend the indefensible here; it’s clearly not ok for one greedy member of the house to snaffle all the available treats (carefully baked by someone else!) before anyone else gets a look in! It’s the sort of thing toddlers learn at nursery - sharing!

There are regularly threads bemoaning the tendency for men to be given preferential treatment around food - the infamous ‘penis portions’. No wonder they get away with it when there’s an army of women defending their entitled attitude!

Sometimes I eat all the "for the house" things. Sometimes DH does. Sometimes the toddler shoves them in her mouth (and the dog). Mostly we share. But it's baked goods, made for people in the house to eat. So I, personally can't get worked up about the fact that they've been eaten.

You put more importance on it if you want. But I just can't.

The thing is, does every little human misdemeanour by a partner have to end up on MN, therefore turning it into a heinous crime? If a partner put every little thing a person does on a forum we’d all come across as nasty, selfish, thoughtless pieces of work who needed to be left pronto.

Well, if you want to question the whole notion of MN, that’s a different issue altogether!

The fact is, people do use MN to get little gripes off their chests.

What could have happened here is OP has a moan, other people sympathise maybe, or share similar tales of annoying incidents, everyone feels a bit of solidarity and maybe OP feels heard.

Instead we get swathes of posters saying:

• you should be grateful he likes your cookies
• leave the poor bloke alone
• your cookies sound tiny/horrible/unhealthy
• stop being so uptight

So then it’s no wonder some of us feel compelled to break it down into basic principles of human behaviour and stick up for OP.

Yep, I was triggered by my cookie eating. Won’t bother with them cold, but warm from the oven …

I thought that was the whole purpose of these forums!

Only if its a husband though. A dear, darling husband.

And you sound massively uptight and angry, on a thread over cookies -perhaps projecting about some other issue?

I was not laughing at their efforts to bake. As I said before I even thanked them for the recipe. And again - I also stated the husband could bake more too as an option.

No it's not a big deal, and it's not like starting a silly mn thread is turning it into one. It was on my mind so I wrote about it, I'm not planning to LTB, I'm not calling it abuse or anything more than it was, and I hoped my responses showed I didn't take myself too seriously! Gees chill your beans.

You can’t have it both ways - telling us to let OP decide if it’s a big issue or not but then ignoring these are OP’s words above . Early on in the thread she herself said it wasn’t a big deal and was telling others to chill.

If they backtracked later about how seriously they took it I wasn’t aware and frankly don’t care. It was a fast moving thread and haven’t RTFT.

I dropped a few comments expressing my opinion on what was supposedly a “silly” thread then moved on and had only popped back on at end of day when I saw OP had just updated which is when I saw you’d quoted me!

You’re going on about “the principle” of the thing but personally I’m really not going to take someone eating a few too many cookies in these circumstances as some evidence of gross selfishness or some kind of bad “behaviour” If that’s not your outlook that’s fine- do you.

And there definitely were people being judgmental about the amount of cookies the man ate (eight, not a dozen) irrespective of who they were for.

I don’t know when the thread about 8 cookies (not a dozen!) took quite such an angry frothy turn 😆

It's a bit passive aggressive to quote someone's words, say they're wrong but not actually attribute their words to them

Exactly this @IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos if it was a more neutral post fair enough but not so much when someone is expressing quite such a hostile sentiment towards those words they’re quoting. If OP hadn’t quoted it I wouldn’t even have seen it.

Because I'd be telling him that, rather than whinging on MN that he'd eaten 8 small cookies. That's why it's different.

yep, and this too. Sums my feelings up.

8 in 2 HOURS?! I can eat 8 in 30 minutes. YABU and a bit silly OP.

Not really sure what you’re trying to achieve here.

You’ve called me uptight and then suggested I’m ‘projecting’ about some other issue. Well, if we’re going to do ‘making up stuff based on a couple of posts’ I’d suggest that you might be someone who regularly and huffily calls people angry and uptight if they dare to stand up for themselves and demand basic courtesy and respect.

Because that’s really what this is about. Just basic, everyday respect of people around us. I’ve repeatedly said that it’s not about the eating (so your attempt to imply I’ve said otherwise will yield no evidence no matter how hard you look).

If one person puts effort into a task and another person selfishly takes advantage of that effort, without asking and to the detriment of other people in the household, that’s not on.

I do demand (and give) basic standards of respect from those around me. If you think that makes me ‘angry’, it might be time for a little examination of your own standards.

But what does sometimes make me angry is swathes of unpleasant posters falling over each other to find fault with an OP. Especially when they’re spouting nonsense and seemingly don’t understand basic standards of courtesy and respect.

Divorce seems the only way I’m afraid

He ate a biscuit you baked. He loved it. He scoffed a load of them.

Why is this a drama in your life?

Most people love cooking or baking when it is really appreciated by their families.

Why are you so nasty?

It's never about the biscuit. Why do you really resent your husband?

Divorce him ! A biscuit too far!

Ffs 😂😂😂😂call Mary Berry for her advice on how to make bigger batches; stop being so fecking up tight & make more whilst your doing it make some sodding cake too; failing that buy some & don't be so tight about it, there are bigger problems in the world; your biscuits are pretty ridiculous in the grand scheme of things

Bring back @Crepester . All is forgiven. These latest posters are just a new low.

🙀

I admire his restraint. My husband would probably have eaten them all.

Just wanted to say thank you to OP. This thread inspired me yesterday to bake gingerbread men with my 6 year old and I think we had 4 each which made his (and my) day!