Baked 23 cookies, dh ate 8 of them

[27Bumblebees]

I baked some cookies after dinner, like I do most weekends so the kids had some slightly less unhealthy snacks to go in their lunch boxes and to just have in the house. At the end of the night I went to put them in a container from the cooling rack and only 14 remained. I had one, so dh took 8 of them in the two hours since I cooked them! What kind of shitty self control is that.

I feel more pissed off that I took a little bit of time to do something nice (mainly for the kids, we're adults, we don't need bloody biscuits), and he's just gone for it with no respect for anyone else. Only apologised when I called him out for it. Ugh.

Bumping into someone is COMPLETELY different and obviously you should apologise.

Making 23 cookies and your partner eating 8 of them honestly really isnt crazy. Just make some more!!

@Bellaboo01

Just make some more!!

OK, now I know you’re on the wind-up.

In many ways, grabbing more than your fair share of something made at someone else’s effort for an express purpose is worse than carelessly bumping into someone, because it is deliberate. He should therefore apologise for the inconvenience and offer to bake more.

On what planet is the right response to wrecking someone’s stuff to say ‘get/buy/make more’ without at least trying to make it right yourself, or even apologising? You must be joking.

So if someone over indulges and says things like 'oh I ate a bit too much there' or 'oh this ice cream has set off my indigestion' and moans like that, this is now 'disordered eating'!!!!

So let me add that to the never ending list of disorders that are routinely diagnosed on here
disordered eating
narccissim
psychopathy
ASD/ADHD
'MH issues'
Sensory processing
'trauma'

rare and interesting disorders when the most simplistic illness is the most likely and general pathologising of normal emotions and behaviours.

Exactly, I can think of more interesting ways to spend my days off than baking several batches of biscuits. If your husband enjoys them so much and knows you bake most weekends, I'm sure you would have preferred him to just ask if you minded making extra for him before you got started. As it is you ended up spending more time on baking than you'd anticipated, not to mention presumably had the extra hassle of cleaning up twice. It's the rudeness and secrecy of just helping himself to more than his fair share and not acknowledging that he may have inconvenienced you. Hopefully he'll be the one baking the biscuits for you next weekend.

You forgot a few other judgements of behaviour that MN posters excel at identifying : abusive ( can on occasion look just like being unkind, or even just not getting on, to the uninitiated).

Passive- aggressive ( some dish this out so regularly that they just refer to it as “pass-agg”) ( again requires a trained eye or can look like just avoiding conflict or preferring not to be outright rude. I guess the latter two ( being rude and liking conflict) are examples of “ agg-agg” which would appear to be a preferable behaviour, especially as it can wear its cloak of respectability: “ having boundaries.”

Finally gaslighting, which has overflowed its original use and now means just “ telling a lie.” It can include the poster simply not wanting to believe what the “ gaslighter” is saying.

My Ds could've eaten far more in one sitting

We do know that.
Sometimes people say "if a man posted" and say something far fetched 😂but this isn't far fetched at all and trying to pretend otherwise is disingenuous.

You don’t know it. You think it. I don’t agree. So where do we go from here? I guess you’d need some evidence 🤷‍♀️

You really think if a man had baked cookies for kids lunchboxes and his wife ate a third of them that people wouldn't eviscerate his wife?

But 2Old2Tango was talking about greediness, which is not quite the same as ‘how much you can manage’.

There’s a bit of a misunderstanding running through this thread I think. To me it’s not about whether it’s overindulgent or overeating to have 8 cookies in 2 hours, it’s whether it’s greedy and selfish to have 8 out of 23 when there’s another adult and 3 kids in the family.

23 seems an odd number for 5 people tbh

Yep, and when the cookies are baked for a specific purpose (kids' lunchboxes).

Let’s see what we think:

🙄
I don’t think the idea is that the total number baked has to be cleanly divisible by the number of people in the house.

The main purpose was lunchboxes: 3 children, 5 days… 15 cookies. And then the rest shared out in a roughly fair way. It’s not rocket science.

There are some arse-achingly long boring posts on here which are the epitome of ‘bat shittery’. I’m laughing my head off but I am with you all the way, OP. It’s simple. One person in a family of 5 makes cookies. One of the 5 is a greedy bastard and eats a third of them. Simples. 🍪

@Missingpop

you are clearly happy to spend your life in the kitchen baking for your husband. Op isn’t. I’m not either… I’d rather be out with my mates drinking cocktails

Yes, maybe all the 'just bake some more' posters can take OP's address and send some cookies to her husband.

Clearly a pilfering cheat! Obviously not the recipe for a happy relationship. Are you feeding him enough anyway? It might be a cry for help. Get out now and board the doors up (turn the oven off first though!). Go somewhere safe where you can bake in safety until you think you’re ready to try again and take the little ones too (at least those that are left).

Sorted. Missingpop can take ‘some sodding cake’ as well. I think we have ourselves a solution!

Finally, a solution! This is the best idea yet

I heard a story once, of a man who left his flat, got hit by a truck (small injury) and the lady from upstairs in the building offered his wife some red lipstick, to stop him from leaving again (and therefore getting injured). This feels similar 😆

‘Just bake some more’ I was up till midnight last night finishing baking some spinach pies I make for my work lunches. If Dh decided to eat half of them I wouldn’t be responsible for the consequences.

ok legally I would be, but morally - nuh uh.

Spinach pies are not like sweet biscuits 🍪!
Most men would not be tempted by spinach in the same way.
Predation of sweet biscuits 🍪 is much more common.

But you know you’re missing the actual point, right?

I see cookie gate is still rolling on 👀😂

I did say it's not a big deal

glad you’ve acknowledged that was said…@27Bumblebees

, breezily dismissing my irritation as if baking endlessly for my dh is the answer wasn't exactly helpful- I'm a working mum of 3, I don't have that kind of time!

To be clear , I did also state husband baking them is an option too if someone doesn’t like baking another batch. For me , it wouldn’t be an issue at all but I realise everyone is different - hence I’d proposed a couple of solutions of what I might do.

Anyway this has put me in the mood for some quick baking before work 🍪😅I use a super simple recipe from bbc food.( Search bbc oat freezer cookies if you’re interested 😆)