Sending your unwell wife downstairs

[Navymamma]

I’ve got a nasty, persistent cough. It’s annoying but I’m unwell. DH is getting audibly annoyed because my cough is keeping him awake. He suggested I put on some Vicks or try sleeping upright. I told him there was no point because I know from experience it doesn’t make a difference. He testily said fine then, do nothing. He’s been so passive aggressive about it, so I said, I’ll just go sleep on the sofa then. He pointed out that I wont be comfortable. I said, well of course I wont be comfortable but it’s obvious you’re annoyed about my cough. He said nothing. I’m now on the sofa uncomfortable while he sleeps upstairs.
AIBU to think a man shouldn’t have his unwell wife sleeping on the sofa so that he can sleep uninterrupted?

It sounds like you're having a tiny tantrum

ibuprofen is not recommended to asthmatics. It can worsen the symptoms.
ive had to use once as a one off even then a very low dose.

ibuprofen is not recommended to asthmatics. It can worsen the symptoms.
ive had to use once as a one off even then a very low dose.

Doesn’t sound like you’re that unwell you can’t handle sleeping on the sofa! Someone else’s cough is bloody annoying! My husband used to get a horrific cough whenever he was poorly, an inhaler sorted him out. Maybe see a Dr.

Sitting upright DOES help with a cough.

Big sad eyes 😂😂😂😂

Get a grip, you’ve invented this problem. He gave you alternatives and you didn’t like them, then told you not to do something but you did it anyway. Then you made your post header a flat out lie to try and garner MN support against your DH.

Same here. The sick person in our household buggers off to the spare room and leaves the other person to actually sleep.

Ear plugs. Silicone ones. Always have some in the medical box for just such situations. Easy fix avoids sulking and sleepless nights.

Haven't rtft, so I'm probably the 49th person to say it, but he didn't send you, you flounced.

Yabu

You may need prednisone tablets. You really need to see your GP.

No absolutely not, your poor DH. You're unwell and grouchy obv (and he will be tired and grouchy too) but you basically sent yourself downstairs. He didn't loudly protest but he still said not to. You've defo brought that on yourself. Please rest in bed today and get yourself well but try not to take it out on him

He didn't send you anywhere!

I'm sure you could've seen a GP in sone form in all this time

tends to rub me up the wrong way when I’m unwell as I’m unfailingly sympathetic when he’s unwell.

In that case treat him how he treats you when he’s sick. Don’t make any more effort than he makes for you.

lol, you sent yourself to the couch.

Haven't you got a spare bedroom?

Some people live in bedsits, let alone a spare room.

Clearly not 🙄

No point two people being exhausted!

I had an awful cough last Spring which was constant and didn’t respond to anything I tried. I tried every syrup, tincture, rub, spray, and pastel I could find! My partner was clearly exhausted, I had time off work as couldn’t be client facing while coughing all the time and WFH isn’t possible in my role - but he had to keep going in to work, on next to no sleep, in a highly skilled job with little margin for error.

I took myself as far away in the house as possible, off my own back. Think he put up a half hearted ‘it’s ok’ but was clearly grateful for the respite.

Oh gosh if only OP had remembered they did, silly silly OP.

Go look for it OP!

You're probably making it worse by taking ibuprofen, asthmatics should not take it!!

Persistent cough? Hardly fucking Ebola is it?

It's a tricky one. If I have a cold and am up in the night coughing or being generally yucky, I go to the spare room. We are lucky to have one.

If DH is coldy he snores and keeps me awake, but he won't move rooms where I think he should. But he is a heavy sleeper and I'm a very light sleeper. He says I can stay when I have a cold as he won't notice, so it's not his problem!

Different when the only option is a sofa, but I would be on it. I can't relax if I'm worrying about waking someone up.

I still think DH should move when it's him though....

Don’t blame him. You have a cough, you should be sleeping upright as it does help whether you want to admit it or not. You’re doing nothing to help yourself so why should he suffer too.

I often get an annoying cough after a cold. In our house it's the person with the cough who moves. No drama, no big sad eyes