Would this text off your husband put you off

[Whattochoosetowatch]

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’I’ve just shit my pants, literally’

He messaged me this today from work.
He’s not been feeling well recently and complains of a funny tummy in front of our Dd, 6.

Aibu to feel totally put off by this and to just not want to know? Or am I just a cold, uncaring person?!

I just really don’t want to know these things or hear constant trumping or to be told ‘Oh I’m got a funny tummy’ before he heads to the loo.

I get the feeling he's somewhat erm 'performative' with his bowel habits 💩

That would get wearing.

😂😂😂😂

Why would you be washing them?

In that situation 🙄🙄🙄

I'd just feel bad for him.
No one wants to shit themselves (well, almost no one).
DH and I go to the bathroom to release gas, very ladylike and gentlemanly of us.
I've been throwing up and pooped myself at the same time and he's just been so sympathetic and helped me clean up.

He's probably just like oh no this is embarrassing I could do with some support I know I'll message the person I trust most in life.

Still confused. Either he washes it (or bins it) or he expects someone else to. We've already clarified that at no point has he expected OP to wash them.

This. Heaven forbid you grow old together and all the indignities that age and illness can bring. I married my DH in sickness and in health and love the bones of him, so no, this wouldn't put me off.

YANBU, I would just ignore him if he makes toilet humour.

No response will piss off him more than anything else.

It wouldn’t surprise me if he just dumps in the washing pile, so many threads from women with partners who think it’s the woman’s job to clean up their shit.

I’d ignore her, she’s goading you.

You know your husband OP. It depends how he meant it. If he's feeling embarrassed and looking for support then of course it's OK, it's really not a nice thing to be dealing with. If it's toilet humour then that's puerile and not attractive.

There is absolutely NOTHING to suggest that is the situation in OP's post. I really doubt someone would expect someone else to clean up their shit unless there was some sort of agreed caring set up.

That probably sums it up

This 😂

If he can’t text his own wife this then who can he? You’re taking this very seriously

He’s unwell so no

'If I had a stomach bug and shat myself at work, it would be noteworthy enough to talk about with my partner, yes'

Surely if you had a stomach bug bad enough that you 'shat yourself at work' you'd actually be off sick, at home near the bog? Who tf goes to work with a stomach bug anyway. If he was ill he wouldn't have been able to go. Sounds like he enjoys his 'funny tummy' stories.

You do sound uncaring. He is obviously unwell and embarrassed. If something like this happened to me, I'd expect my spouse to be sympathetic and work out what to do next in terms of doctor, diet changes etc.

Is it really beyond people’s comprehension that someone may have felt fine when they left for work, but developed a stomach bug at some point during the working day?

Have you ever had a stomach bug? They don't usually time themselves to start out of office hours

My husband once texted me to say he'd shit himself on the M6. I cried laughing and called him soon after to discuss. He'd texted me because he knew it'd make me laugh. It's one of those things I like to remember when I need cheering up 😳

He's not been feeling well. It's there in the op.

Why text and not just actually leave?!

Again, I think he's likes his 'funny tummy' stories a bit too much.

I'd feel empathetic and want to make sure he was ok! And I'd be glad I was someone he could be open and vulnerable with. The whole point of a life partner in my opinion is trust and care. I'd be thinking "I bet he feels awful and embarrassed, I hope he's alright".

Me too. As his wife my DH’s health is my concern and mine is his.

Thank you ...I'm not co fused either ...your 💯 right with this post