Would this text off your husband put you off

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’I’ve just shit my pants, literally’

He messaged me this today from work.
He’s not been feeling well recently and complains of a funny tummy in front of our Dd, 6.

Aibu to feel totally put off by this and to just not want to know? Or am I just a cold, uncaring person?!

I was on crutches for the first time ever as was totally non weight-bearing and like I say I have ibs so he'd offered to help if I hadn't made it etc. He didn't have to though, I managed even after falling off them one morning and having to crawl to bathroom as I couldn't get back up.

Oh bless him! As someone with IBD who has shit my pants on a few occasions and made sure DH knows about it, I would probably laugh. We all shit!!! Hopefully not often in our pants but it does happen.

We all shit but I couldn’t think of anything worse than my partner messaging to say hey darling just for the record I’ve shit myself at work today love you ….er no fuck that I would run for the hills yuk I don’t want to know flush you pants down the shitter and go about your day and be sure not to message me about itv🤢🤢🤢🤢🤮🤮🤮

@Lovinglife57 that's funny coming from the poster who quoted themselves then replied to the quote "your (sic) welcome"

I just going to assume you're really drunk now.

And nobody should be flushing pants down a loo for goodness sake, super fast way to block a system. And bring everything back up with it.

As someone with very dodgy bowels, if I didn't normalise it then it would be awful. Being ashamed of bowel movements and accidents when you have a chronic condition would be horrendous. Maybe I am a bit too down in the depths though as a result 😂

What are you talking about I was messages thanks I said you’re welcome …just for the record I don’t drink never have so who is the drunk one sweetie 🤔

Well, aren't you a charmer? A bit of compassion and empathy wouldn't go amiss, you know.

No it wouldn't. I'd be sending him off to the dr as it would be a very worrying thing to have happened, if he was bedridden with some extreme sickness or something.

I’m replying to op not you and your problems …so if you want to make a thread feel free …sorry about your dodgy bowels by the way

Sorry, I thought you replied to me. Haha I should start a dodgy bowel thread. Come talk here if you have shat yourself 😃

Me or the other one? I've got a cup of tea.

I did but talking about op thread not your personal problem lol anyway yes start a thread but be serious this thread was about a random shit my pants 🤷‍♀️

Not you.

I only said it wouldn't put me off and why 😊

Yes at one point, but my OH says things like this and I got used to it.

A new boyfriend, maybe. But my husband and I are often say revolting things to one another. If you can't be comfy with your spouse who can you be comfy with?

How would you feel if your DH collapsed, had to be rushed to hospital & they needed to know about his health - wouldn't you feel a bit of a tit throwing your arms in the air & going 'no idea! I find it all rather icky'.

It's important to talk about this stuff imo, even just in a joking manner and ESPECIALLY men who are notorious for not getting help when they need it!

No. I’d be concerned. Tell him to go to the doctors, especially if he has recurring issues. Losing control of one’s bowels is a symptom of Bowel cancer (amongst other things).

I'd assume he was telling me because he's got some distress about the incident and I'm a safe person. I'd say something like, "Oh no, poor you," and ask if he needed some help (like fresh clothes). You know - some care and compassion like I'd want if I did something that embarrassing.

I was at a group meeting a few weeks ago and an elderly woman wet herself. I was next to her and didn't make a big deal about it and discreetly helped her get sorted. One day that old lady could be me and I'd appreciate someone with some compassion in an already upsetting situation.

Do you live in Devon OP ?
ie. Contaminated water

Me too.

The only time I've come close to shitting my pants was when I had campylobacter, and I was really bloody ill. I thought I was going to have to sleep on the bog for fear of shitting the bed.

It was a bit of a shock too, as I've got cast iron guts and had never really had an upset stomach, never mind something that gave me a raging fever and uncontrollable, agonising shits.

If I had a stomach bug and shat myself at work, it would be noteworthy enough to talk about with my partner, yes 😂

edited to add - I did actually have a stomach bug recently that made me have accidents if I couldn’t run to toilet in time 😭 luckily I was at home, but hopefully my DH wasn’t too “put off”

So what if he farts at home? Everyone does it..

I find this hilarious just from reading it, but I wouldn't laugh if my actual husband had such bad health that he was pooing his pants. I'd take him to the hospital to get him checked over properly if something more severe than diarrhoea. To be honest I probably wouldn't take him to the hospital