Would this text off your husband put you off

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’I’ve just shit my pants, literally’

He messaged me this today from work.
He’s not been feeling well recently and complains of a funny tummy in front of our Dd, 6.

Aibu to feel totally put off by this and to just not want to know? Or am I just a cold, uncaring person?!

YoureALizardHarry11 · Yesterday 20:14
No, I would be sympathetic. The fact he felt comfortable to tell you that is a good sign, OP. It means he feels he can say things without judgement”

Well, poor bloke clearly can’t.

Yes, OP, you do sound uncaring.

Thankyou for your imput but I'm not goading anyone

No, I’m saying she is goading you.

I find it sad that some couples can't be honest with each other. Your OH should be the one person that you can tell anything.

I would want to know if it happened to my DH and I would be concerned about him and sympathetic.

We would definitely laugh about it later though. I have IBS and have had some pretty close shaves although thankfully only messed myself once at home and we laugh it

I mean - he's not well clearly - would it bother me? No - why would it?I would probably say something like - 'yikes thats not good!'. If he can't share stuff like that with you - who do you expect him to share it with if he felt the need to share it?

Wow some replies here. Poor man, he must be pretty unwell in the gut department. No of course it wouldn't put me off! I'd be worried. You should be able to share this type of thing. What if it was you, OP?

Erm, no, why would it? I'd probably laugh, then ask him if he is OK. If he is ill, I'd be asking him to come home early from work

I'm so sorry

I think the fact he text it out of nowhere would probably irritate me at first as seems a bit too much info and not something i'd tell him via text if i did it. If he waited until he saw me then told me, I'd laugh it off

@CrunchyCarrot As I said, it has happened to me, luckily I was just at home and could easily clean everything away and shower quickly etc. it didn’t even cross my mind to tell him or text him 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would just be concerned and hope he's okay. Wouldn't think anything else!

I’ve done this while getting ready for work when pregnant and miserable with all day morning sickness. My Dh helped me get cleaned up. So I’d be nice.

Bloody hell, you're really not head over heels in love with him, are you?

@EnglishBluebell Are most people with their other halves? No one I know is

But not that unwell to fire off a text? Tell you something if I'm deathly with D&V or whatever the last thing I do is text grim details about it to people.

So by that logic, if someone has cancer and is going through chemo for example, but they are still able to send a text, then they're not ill?

This is the second time this week that a man's illness is seen as a non-issue here.

To be fair, he saw it as a non-issue himself by the time he got home.

Op sorry I was expecting something really off putting... and what's wrong if he mentioned having a funny tummy in front of your child??

I think if you're married, you're supposed to be, yeah 😬

@Upallnight2 I don’t know anyone still head over heels in love in their marriage…sadly

If this was my other half I'd be genuinely concerned, ask him if he's ok and if he needed picking up; or demanding he come home and book a GP appointment.
Shitting yourself as an adult is not normal.