Would this text off your husband put you off

[Whattochoosetowatch]

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’I’ve just shit my pants, literally’

He messaged me this today from work.
He’s not been feeling well recently and complains of a funny tummy in front of our Dd, 6.

Aibu to feel totally put off by this and to just not want to know? Or am I just a cold, uncaring person?!

Honestly, DH is probably one of the only people I could actually tell / admit it to.

@Lovinglife57 🤣This is it

Why the fuck is he at work if he's shitting himself? How selfish is that. Or if it's a long standing issue has he been properly looked into? I used to work with a lady who never ate at work because she always got the runs - she thought this was normal. 5 years later she died of bowel cancer age 49. Now I tell everyone to get any change in bowel habits thoroughly investigated.

Op, I think I'm with you in camp minority on this one.

I can't imagine dp texting me this and nor would I text him. We are really open but there are limits.

It’s just normal sharing what’s happened to you? If I shit myself (at work??) that would be the major event of my day, obviously I’d tell my DH about it the same way I’d tell
him if I’d fallen over or had brutal period cramps or whatever. Once I had norovirus and threw up so hard I peed myself, my husband was the one who cleaned the floor, he’s not going to bat an eyelid at a text about poo.

Oh, 100% you!

Your husband has shat himself. There’s not one iota of sympathy in any of your posts, only disgust. Unless he has a history of shitting himself for, well shits & giggles, then you might want to ask yourself what’s wrong with you, because your response doesn’t seem normal.

This. Can't believe some people's views on this site

I take it if you’re sick tomorrow you won’t tell him anything…?

I wouldn’t care, but I know my partner is squeamish about this type of thing so I’d probably text my best friend instead if I felt the need to share something similar. Or I’d text him something very cryptic, about something awful but undisclosable happening.

Yanbu @Whattochoosetowatch
That's gross.

I’m not judging him at all and not disgusted at all. I suppose it just seemed like a strange thing to text and took me by surprise. Now I’m starting to feel bad though and worried it could be more
These are just not things we’ve texted or said to each other before

Nobody …but NOBODY need to tell anyone guess what I shit myself today fuck off with the empathy and compassion who the fuck needs to know some things are just fucking private ffs

I just hope none of the posters that are horrified ever end up with an illness that causes these sorts of problems. Imagine if you needed a colostomy bag, I'd expect your husbands would run for the hills 🤢🙄

Jeez, I had a killer sickness bug just last week along with our 1yr old and I did indeed shit my pants, as did the 1yr old! I was so fucking ill, we were both in a right state. I shit myself sat right next to my husband in fact. I was vomiting also and dh did everything he could to help me out.

It’s happened to me once before about a decade ago too, we laughed about it loads afterwards as we have about this most recent time.

Lo and behold the week after my sickness bug I got a text from dh that he’d shit his pants.
My best friend and her toddler also caught it and she shared a similar story (we’d been to soft play together and assumed we all caught it from there).

Maybe some people feel we overshare but if you can’t be completely open and deathly ill or even fart in front of the person you’ve chosen to spend my life with then surely that ain’t your person.

The level of care my dh has given me during and after birth has been incredible, he’s bathed me after I almost died after our eldest was born and I had zero energy. He’s provided personal care for me when I’ve needed it as have I for him when he was recovering from an operation.
Either of us texting eachother about shitting our pants is just scratching the surface really but hey everyone has their own ways of doing stuff.

Not only would I tell my partner (who would find it funny) I’d also probably tell my group chat because as long as I didn’t feel too ill myself I’d see the funny side too

@Jiski I’m ill quite a lot, there’s not much point in saying anything, I just get on with it or go to bed and struggle until I’m better until the next time

Nobody wants to know if you have shit yourself ffs you could just say I have an upset stomach or something nobody want to picture anyone shitting themselves ffs why why the fuck ….do you text your hubbys saying I just farted and followed through no so why the fuck does anyone need to know

'Sometimes people have accidents, who cares!?'

Hmm, well I would care. I've never 'had an accident' and if my dh shit his pants I'd find it pretty disgusting. Different obviously if he was very ill in hospital or post op or similar but at work? Nope.

'Lo and behold the week after my sickness bug I got a text from dh that he’d shit his pants'

Exactly

The text I’d be ok with. But I get the ick when anyone says ‘funny tummy’ 🤮

Do you think that's the same?

Also, sorry for your shart.

@Janiie Adults don’t tend to shit themselves at work randomly unless they’re ill or have some sort of undiagnosed bowel disease anyway, for a start. I think you need to broaden your mind a bit to be honest.

Good God, if I couldn't text my own husband that I felt so awful I shit myself, so we could both have a good laugh about it later when I felt better, life would be pretty unbearable. He particularly laughed the time it happened to me whilst queuing in the bank, but the time I was laying on the floor of the bathroom with norovirus he was sympathetic.

What makes it off-putting exactly? Everyone shits, and sometimes unpleasant things happen and we should be able to offload, seek comfort and then laugh in solidarity with our partner. The one we share a life with and operate as a team with? Its a bit childish to have an attack of the vapours. Oh mY GoD PoOP. 💩

😂😂 yes!