Mum screaming F you at another car outside nursery

[unicornlady]

I was just picking up my child when I saw another mum exit the nursery with her child.

They were going to a car parked on the road and there was an altercation with another car. The mum was putting her child into her seat and a woman in a car that was passing them, started shouting at the mum for putting her child in her seat in the road.

The mum then proceeded to shout 'F You ' twice to the lady, who then drove off. The mum then looked and me and said sorry and drove off.

AIBU to think this is totally unacceptable outside of a nursery ? Thankfully my child didn't hear, but her child did !

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Please don't do this, it would be ludicrous! In the nicest possible way, you need to get a grip OP.

lol is it an exclusive residential street ? Is the Bouquet residence nearby?

I was effin and jeffin for ages at some silly cunt that actually reversed in to my daughter.

I wouldn't care who you told.

@MaryFuckingFerguson please tell me you name changed just for this thread?

I hate to tell you OP that your kid is going to hear swearing, you can’t police the entire world. They’re also going to say fuck when they’re actually trying to say frog or some other completely innocent word. And you just need to style it out rather than having another mum reporting you to nursery.

What do you think complaining to the nursery is going to do? 😅

I just think some people have had a blessed existence if they think a kid hearing swearing is the worst thing they can be exposed to 😢
I've heard some horrible things on the course of my career that kids have experienced day in day out and honestly this doesn't even register

You do that.....

It'll achieve nothing.

lol. No.

Curb fan 😬

We have actually had letters from nursery about this sort of thing, reminding all parents that these sorts of altercations effect their children and to mind their language and behaviour outside nursery so presumably people have complained - so you definitely wouldn't be the first. (We also had an email about someone spitting and were reminded not to spit in the street ....)
I don't see why you shouldn't mention it, but I'd be sure to highlight both parents were out of line here.

Stop being such a pearl clutching weirdo.

Never mind the nursery, I’d be straight on to the chair of the parish council, probably log it with the local bobby and maybe put a quick note to the coast guard too. Can’t be too careful.

Who knows what the consequences might be next time someone accidentally hears a swear word. There could be anarchy. Total chaos. Insubordination. Frogs raining from the sky.

I imagine the op was a hall monitor in her earlier years.

I'm not the calmest of drivers when someone cuts me up and I have sworn at drivers before with my children in the car (who tell me off quite rightly). I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel like the best parent in the world right now anyway and could have been having a bad day. Either way, it's nothing to do with the nursery is it?

It's not great but she was probably having a really fucking shit day

Either put your big girl pants on and address the mother directly, or don't.

She may well, as I have, had an utter fuckwank of a day. Another driver being a cunt would've finished me.

I would bet money that she was mortified afterwards. You crack on and complain though. Remember though, it might be you next time.

See I'm sure my oldest son used to use 'fork' funny for years to get away with saying fuck , maybe .Mind you he used to say baff funny as well , it wasn't how any of us pronounce it 😂.Oh just to add he was a pad brat so maybe it was part of it .

Don’t bloody report her fgs you tell tale!! Yeh it was inappropriate but you have literally zero idea what is going on for her. Plus what do you want the nursery to do? Put her in the naughty corner??

If I see someone putting their child in a car seat and the doors open....if I can, I just wait or drive slowly pass.

What is the point of complaining? She apologised to you, therefore she knows it was inappropriate. Nothing to be gained from complaining.

No of course she doesn't...

It's the naughty step she wants....

Op I would leave it alone, she's maybe had an awful day, is at her wits end, was distracted and didn't think through her parking or was seriously under pressure to get dc and being yelled at in front of her children pushed her over the edge. If it's a regular occurrence then that's one thing but for a one off I'd give her a bit of grace and cut her some slack. Next time you have an awful day and lose your temper I imagine you'd hope someone would do you the same courtesy.

What an awful woman.

Imagine mouthing off at a mother getting her kids in the car.

Our nursery has on street parking. Most families have more than one DC and so have to put one in on the roadside. Fortunately I've never seen anyone being anything other than careful and patient.

Don't really blame the mum for losing her rag, pickup is awful with tired parents and overtired children. Absolute last thing she needed.

Oh for fucks sake 🤣

Get over yourself.

Why is everyone so pressed about swear words still?

Your child will hear them. If you don’t like it, teach them not to use them.

I personally have bigger things to worry about

I wouldn’t swear in front of nursery (unless some fucking twat pissed me off telling me how I should/shouldn’t strap my child in the car seat - usually parking outside nursery is quite limited and stressful so you take what you can get, there isn’t usually time for a 3 point turn to ensure you’re in the “right way”) - but I would be pretty affronted if the nursery thought they could dictate how I spoke off of their property! It’s none of their business, and tbh it’s none of your business.

you cannot control things people do or say around your child in these scenarios