To think friends decor is gross?

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Stayed at a friends house this weekend with mutual friends and they raved about how nice her living room is and I was baffled.

It’s an extremely dark grey with one wall with equally dark grey wallpaper. Brown sofas and a yellow armchair. Huge jar with pampas grass. Grey carpet with a cream rug. Black plastic tv stand, concrete side tables.

She must think my deco is gross and shit. But I genuinely was so baffled by their reaction.

My first thought, OP, was that the other friends maybe thought the same as you, but pretended to love it. I’m sure we’ve all done that at some time, not just decor but someone’s new dress or hairstyle…. How many of us would be 100% honest, especially if actually asked what we thought?

You sound like a terrible friend, who needs enemy's with friends like you? I hope she reads this and never lets you stay in her house again.

@Engaea of course people are allowed to not like it but it's kinder to keep those thoughts to yourself rather than spitefully putting it on the internet.

I was imagining that sort of styling too. Someone I know did his sitting room in F&B Down Pipe with tan leather sofa/chairs, long before the grey trend was a thing. It looked wonderful.

OP, as others have said, it really isn't pleasant to go online to slag off a "friends" taste, whatever you think about it. What you've written about is fairly distinctive and would you want her to see this and be hurt?

It's not your home so therefore none of your business. How awful of you to come on here and be so mean! My decor is rather quirky but I love it and I'd be so hurt if a 'friend' of mine was doing this behind my back. Just leave her be

I never see this anymore, was very ‘on-trend’ maybe 7/8 years ago but not really now.

OP, you seem to be concluding that, if your friends who admired this friend’s sitting room were sincere, both they and she must think your decor is ‘gross and shit’. Maybe they do, but so what? Are you so entirely unfamiliar with the concept of subjective taste?

'That is why they have menus in restaurants' (c) Donald J Trump

I'm buying a house at the moment and every house I've looked at had grey walls and grey carpet! Please enough with grey it's such a dreary colour

And that is why I never invite adults to my humble abode - my dc friends are welcome anytime, they pour in after school as if it were their own home, but adults? Eh, no.

I can’t say I’ve ever judged friends decor especially if they’ve specially decorated recently.

I mean I might not have liked colours but then they’re probably exactly the same about my taste so it all evens out.

It would be a very sad world if we all liked the same things.

PS OP you remind me of Cathy in Two Doors Down going to Michelle and Alan’s new decorated house and complaining that the living room was “so beige”. (It was lovely actually!). Do watch that on Iplayer if you haven’t already.

Yeah, I agree it is awful decor, but a) you don´t have to live with it b) you didn´t have to pay for it, so in the big scheme of things, who cares?

It very much IS still a thing. I was browsing city apartments this week, and grey crushed velvet is very much still in abundance! Blue velvet is jostling for pole position too though 😂

Cathy is a legend! 😁 Cathy does though have grey walls and pampas grass in HER gaff 🤔😂

"gross' is a very judgemental word.

I would be very hurt if I had hosted someone who spoke about my house like that. They would definitely not be invited again.

Good job you can put what you like in your house once you've bought it then.

Fair enough I just remember when it was the ‘in thing’ a fair few years back when Mrs Hinch had her whole house grey. So many of the grey homes I saw on Insta (including Mr Hinch!) are now all the same identical cream/beige and sage green decor. I think crushed velvet grey and mirrored furniture is now seen as quite dated.

I like cream and beige (most of my house is painted the same malt chocolate colour!). I like reds/orange and golds too. I suppose by sticking with my favourite key colours there'll be periods of time when I can feel I'm on trend 😂

My go to line when I don’t like someone else’s things (if I am asked, coz if I’m not asked I won’t say) is “oh it’s nice but it’s not really my style. But the important thing is that YOU like it”.

We all have different style and tastes and thank goodness for it, or it would be a dull world indeed.

If you don't know that pampas grass was and still is a decor trend, then you probably shouldn't be slagging off your friend's decor...

I'm not seeing the difference to be honest. Are you claiming saying nasty things about friends behind their back to a relative is morally superior to saying nasty things about friends to strangers online?

Swingers?

Let’s hope your friend isn’t on mumsnet!!

who cares what their house looks like, as long as it’s clean and tidy

You can just stop at "it's nice"...

Was convivial company and a comfortable horizontal surface upon which to sleep on offer?

If yes, then surely a display of good taste is a superfluous extra?