Salt burn makes me worry for poor kids at ‘posh’ unis.

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Im beginning to think certain Universities have much wealthier students on average and a kid from a poorer background would have a hard time perhaps ? Oliver in Saltburn was almost ostracised. Dc is looking at Exeter and Bath as favs. Not going to have any of the spending money, nice things from home the private school kids there will have I’m guessing. Will they have a hard time and be excluded in any way do you think. Horrible to think that as pretty shy and socially awkward anyway 🥹.

I don’t. Would be nice though I suppose. I think there are people in both town and country side on low incomes to be fair.

why did you PM to ask if i knew you then?

why did you refer to “our farm” on another thread then?

2 weeks ago you owned a farm 🤔

and why would you Pm to ask if i knew you otherwise?

sold a couple of weeks ago?

Oliver was a total weirdo though.

odd

I was 6 years old at the time. A million years ago 🤣. Pmd cos I think you’ve mistaken me for someone else and I was gonna let you know that by giving you a bit more context. This isn’t the point of the thread though. I had some hang ups about poorer kid being left out and not being as sophisticated, confident or worldly but everyone’s been very reassuring that it’s misplaced. We only want our children to be happy if possible don’t we after all.

ah family money 😆

joke!!

Not so. Let’s leave it there shall we. You don’t know my personal history. Hope you have a lovely day.

you too ☀️

Was it one of the self catering halls? Do you mind mentioning which one? My child is thinking of self catering at Exeter. Is the food any good?

If you're basing your worries on what happens in the film, you should be more worried about the rich kids 😂

If you replied to this post then this thank you is for you. I really appreciate you taking the time to add your thoughts. It’s been fascinating. I’ve learned a great deal. Overall they have been very reassuring - with a few interesting and helpful caveats along the way.
What has been really noteworthy I think too is the number of responses. People appear to care about this. Everyone wants kids from all walks of life to accept each other readily and learn from the experience. The sub text in all the posts was that this is the ideal. If we are a representative sample of the parents sending kids to Uni then they will at least have had the right values instilled at home. I guess we just have to let them go boldly and make the best of themselves - and hopefully bring out the best in others by doing so. Good luck to everyone starting new university careers. Good luck to all us mums watching from the sidelines too xxx

I thought that too on reading this thread. 😀
Wasn’t Oliver a dreadful character !

My daughter is state school educated and now at Oxford. From a school that rarely sends anyone there. She is having an amazing time there. Most of her friends are very rich and privately educated but it hasn’t mattered.

Don't feel concerned.

Its a movie that bears no resemblance to reality whatsoever. If there's elitism at Oxbridge, its academic not social - and has been that way for decades.

I went to Cambridge c.15 years ago and really don’t recognise the social elitism shown in films etc. from my experience.

I barely ever had a conversation about what school someone went to and couldn’t have said for sure for most people. The only people whom I heard talk about this were those who were proud of having gone to a failing state school or as part of diversity schemes. Most students were quite left wing - perhaps in a slightly champagne socialist idealistic way but it certainly precluded boasting about your family’s yacht / country pile / helicopter etc. Added to this there are a lot of international students and a lot who are neurodiverse or just quirky.

I maybe just didn’t move in the right circles but think the Saltburn type experience will be easily avoided at most universities.

Plus a lot of students from private schools or relatively privileged backgrounds are very normal and will have had all sorts of life experience between them.