Will I throw this one back ... social media activity

[gona]

I'm chatting to a man on WhatsApp. Busy schedules have not all owed us to meet for the last couple of weeks but we have plans for next week to meet up.
Before I meet any date I do my best to find out as much about
then as I can via people and sm.

He is as true as his word regarding his plans and commitments and I can see this via social media.

I have been catfished once and if I had done my research on others I would have saved my self a lot of stress. This is why I do this.

This man has given me no reason to believe he isn't who he says he s but I had a look on his socials.

They are chock full of sports, footie, current affairs reposts. Nothing sinister but there are, out of hundreds of likes, a couple of posts/ photos of curvy women. Nothing very revealing or sexual, just women with large breasts. Possibly three likes photos out of hundreds.
Is this a red flag ? Would you throw him back?
I'm
Out of this scene for a very long time so appreciate your views. Thanks.

Surely not something you have to think about @ThisOldThang given you’re married

Thankfully I don't need to worry about such people.

"If I i ever find myself single again, I must remember to set up a social media feed that's full of red flags, so that I can filter out the sort of person that goes looking through social media feeds looking for red flags."

Of course you have to do a proper look on social media, everyone I know who is online dating does this. I help my friends do it all the time!! It's not like meeting a friend's friend in the old days, where there was some vague interpersonal connection, this guy could be anyone and there are no mutual friends to "warn" you if he's racist or whatever. And if his profile is public, he clearly does not give a shit.

I don't know if I would be put off by just 3 likes. But I would keep it at the back of my mind and be a but more tuned to any misogynist remarks etc. Sometimes, especially if you watch a lot of sport, Instagram will show you other stuff you may be interested in and you mindlessly like them (rather than sit there purposely looking for photos only naked women for hours).

although given the whinge you have about your wife, and all you do despite you working full time and her part time, who knows in the near future….

Bahahahahaha!

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What are you talking about that poster hasn't said any of those things?

on another thread i was on 😕

I mean it shows he's a red blooded male perhaps?

I'd be relieved. Especially if you have big boobs like you'd said, so urs not some kind of paranoia that he has a "type"

I'd give him a chance in person before writing him off as a weirdo because he's liked a couple of attractive big breastfed women.

Men are just human like the rest of us. 😅

Meet him in the flesh the old fashioned way and see how you feel, nothing to lose

Yes, I thought it was a bit cheeky of the poster to assume you’d ‘spent hours’ looking on his social media. The suggestion was that you are a bit obsessive and have loads of time to waste. It doesn’t take long to have a look at someone’s Facebook or similar.

That's exactly the type of creepy weirdness that most men will want to avoid.

I would see this as a red flag. My ex did this and I convinced myself I was being overanxious. I was always uncomfortable about it, but quieted my discomfort and wrote off my gut instinct.. mainly due to feedback like what your getting from some posters here - that I was crazy.

He turned out to be a man who used prostitutes and cheated. I think it really signifies someone who objectifies women. And your gut is telling you something - so trust it.

Matthew Hussey once said, why would you want to commit time do a guy a commits his spare time to that? There are plenty of blokes out there with more more emotional intelligence/ respect for women / better hobbies. Go find them.

I don’t think there’s any issue with this at all and his ‘likes’ are indicative of absolutely nothing whatsoever . For me though you’d be a massive red flag. You come across as very intense. IRA sympathisers and police haters are not even comparable to a person who finds women attractive liking pictures of attractive women . You seem very uptight

It's pretty standard advice to have a look at someone's socials when OLD. The OP does not say she spent hours. Why claim she is doing anything unusual?

He just sounds basic. Not a pervert or anything but dull and low end. Your instinct is telling you something and it isn't necessarily that he's awful, just unrefined. Find someone who will keep you interested. You're not going to want to stay up talking all night to this man, I suspect

Yes, WHY just why? You can enjoy the pictures but to publicly reaffirm your enjoyment with a "like" baffles me.

When peoples social media profiles are public why do it? I wouldn't bother wasting time on him frankly.

I'd picture him on a date, sitting at a restaurant table, scrolling his phone.. Enough to put me off for good. Nah loser!

I mean, no guy with an ounce of class is going to be liking photos of beautiful busty women on social media. It's not classy, it's not respectful. As a pp said it's basic behaviour and I would not be interested in someone like that.

Yeah it's so basic isn't it, like "ugg ugg" 😂

I don't thinknits a good look. I mean, it's not hard to save looking at women for other accounts and apps, doing it on fb which is family friendly is a bit of a sign it's so normalised he thinks it's acceptable. My cousin used to post women pics and his mum was so embarrassed she told him she wouldn't be his friend on there if he continued. No one wants to see what a 20st 40yo gets his rockers off to when he's just had a baby.

I'd be more worried about you fb stalking him to have been able to see out of 'hundreds' of likes there are about 3 of big breasted women!!

Don't blame you for being cautious and checking. I'd meet him before you decide.

@MightyGoldBear Omg seriously? How is liking around 3 photos of good looking women (we don't know in what context he has liked them or who they are) suggestive of him viewing women as objects? I think 99% of men (and a lot of women, (shock horror) watch porn at some point too, whether they admit to it or not!!

Some of my male friends sm is downright bizarre, sometimes smutty and bears no resemblance to their real lives. They’re really lovely solid safe people. Liking a photo is no red flag to me.
A lot of my female friends sm however leave me wondering ‘who’s that?’!!!! Rare to find a true photo without being heavily filtered. I don’t recognise them.
Nothing at all wrong with checking someone out on a public platform. It shows common sense. Employers do it.
Go check this guy out - he might be the person you are looking for.

Yeah I’m sorry but you sound like the weirdo here 🤣 stop creeping through peoples things and get to know the guy in person. I can see why you’re single if you are constantly picking people apart like this.

Agree, we are all grown ups we all know that men like looking at naked women. But for me it screams thick as pigshit - like buying the Sun.

Ah ok, so if I liked a pic of male celeb or model shirtless/open-shirted that would make me classless ??

The point is moot anyway as I don't do socials but if I did I would and not give a shiny one.