Will I throw this one back ... social media activity

[gona]

I'm chatting to a man on WhatsApp. Busy schedules have not all owed us to meet for the last couple of weeks but we have plans for next week to meet up.
Before I meet any date I do my best to find out as much about
then as I can via people and sm.

He is as true as his word regarding his plans and commitments and I can see this via social media.

I have been catfished once and if I had done my research on others I would have saved my self a lot of stress. This is why I do this.

This man has given me no reason to believe he isn't who he says he s but I had a look on his socials.

They are chock full of sports, footie, current affairs reposts. Nothing sinister but there are, out of hundreds of likes, a couple of posts/ photos of curvy women. Nothing very revealing or sexual, just women with large breasts. Possibly three likes photos out of hundreds.
Is this a red flag ? Would you throw him back?
I'm
Out of this scene for a very long time so appreciate your views. Thanks.

@fourelementary

As a single man why would “liking” a photo of an attractive woman be a red flag?

@Disturbia81

Men really don't get it do they.. 😂

I don't "get it" either and I am a woman.

It's a red flag if you are dating obvs and could be off-putting if a 'potential' had an excessive amount of likes or comments on women's SM posts.

@EmilyTjP I actually have big breasts so that's not the issue! How nasty !

I got the impression they weren't normal friends photos, but thirsty photos.

So you also have a limit to what you would accept. OPs and many of us just have it a little stricter

Not personally as I'm married. My comments were aimed at a single man about what (I assume) women may possibly perceive when looking at a potential date's SM. My opinion as I haven't dated in decades... and you know exactly what I meant.

If your limit is less than 1% (and probably much less) of someone's overall feed then that seem (to me) incredibly strict. If the photos were salacious then that puts a different shine on it but that isn't what OP said.

Assuming this man has trawled the internet to w*nk over ordinary photos of women also seens (to me) a tad judgemental. And he is potentially 'liking' photos of women he knows.

@Disturbia81

I got the impression they weren't normal friends photos, but thirsty photos.

Well as OP said they weren't sinister, revealing or sexual, I assumed they were just photos of women. He probably did fancy those 2 or 3 women. He's a single guy. Still don't see what the problem is?

We're talking about two different things then. I didn't think it was liking a few friends photos (who just happen to be curvy) which would be fine if single, and they weren't young strangers he'd added or thirsty photos.
So yeah if it was a mates regular photo it wouldn't be a red flag to me.

The red for me is possibly the not meeting up yet. I did internet dating on and on for 10 years and its a nightmare. So many time wasters, cheaters, catfish and weirdos. Men who have zero interest in meeting but just want to talk!

I wasted so so much time chatting and building up online emotional attachments to men who never had any intention of meeting. My best advice is to do your due diligence and meet quickly. Trust me if someone wants to meet they will and only then can you tell if you click with them etc

Thanks. We both have very genuine reasons for not meeting yet.. Although if it is cancelled for anything less than a v genuine reasoning the next fortnight , I'll leave him off I think.

What? You have got to be joking.

Nope, not one bit.

This

@ForAPicnic You are being deliberately
Obtuse . Just stop and reread if you're not getting it.

How do you know those women aren’t his friends? If they’re not sexual photos, you’re asking if a man having a female friend is ok really….

Crikey.

Looking at what your new date has liked on social media is good practice imo. Gives you a good warning of conspiracy theorists, political nutcases, closet misogynists and sleazes who like 500 onlyfans thirst traps a day.

This doesn't sound like the last one. If it's only 2-3 out of 100s it's hardly a defining personality trait. I've liked several thirst traps in my time - friends who have hit the gym and are looking buff (in a "you go girl/boy" kind of way); singers and actors I like as artists but who have a good look going on, etc.

Fuck me, a single man likes 3 pictures of attractive women.

🙄🙄

Christ is this true, these three pics aren’t of women glamour modelling or porn, they just tend to have large boobs? And it’s 3 out of hundreds?

I'm not online dating but if I was I would deffo check our their social media before meeting if it was public!! I don't see the issue with that whatsoever.

Surely context matter in this.

I am on a I love Italy site - on there there are intermingled with the scenic shots - some of women posing, absolutely nothing to do with Italy but because its a woman posing in Italy its content...

Or are these posts off Pornhub and its women who are being posted as big busted beauties in your area now?

It all depends on what the content is and where its from - did he just like it or repost it? More info needed i think...

It's not that clear what the photos are but I'd be put off if his interests are footy, sports and tits mainly. Not very interesting.

Not onlyfans or porn sites. Regular attractive women with huge following but his few likes are their selfies with cleavage prominent. They don't seem to be his friends per se.

Do most men look at porn in private? I'm very sure they do. But it's just supremely embarrassing to publicly 'like' this stuff, and no self-respecting man I know does it.