Advice - school run sick husband

[Blueberryancakes]

Need some advice please.

I start work at 8am.

Husband works from home so will do the school run just before he starts work.

He’s been sick in the night and feels dreadful. I’ve been up half the night with him. He can’t do the school run.

I’ve got no one to ask to do it.

Im going to have to call my boss and tell him I’ve got to do the school run so won’t be in until 9:30am.

Im panicking I’m going to be in trouble for being late. Can my boss refuse me coming in late?

When I had flu, I would do the school run, go back to bed and set the alarm in time to go back and pick them up. But don’t you have any friends who could help out?

@PermanentTemporary I assume OP and DH share the school run with her working hours, it just happens this is a day her DH would do it.

Was there no-one who could walk with your 6yo?

When people suggest a child could walk alone, I think it makes a difference whether that is the norm where you live, so there is safety in numbers aspect, other road users etc expect children to not have adults supervising them and I assume the route to school is a safe route to walk (not main A road with no pavement)

I hope you don't have a partner who gets ill. OP's husband sounds very ill.

You've probably sorted it by now but if she was 9 I'd have just sent her in, in a cab. I think she could probably manage that as a one off

So she has never walked to school alone before - it’s a 30 min walk so was going to start walking her half way in year 6. Then when she was confident with that then let her walk to school.
she’s only just turned 9 and in year 4.

My boss was ok. I had nothing to panic about .

Yes I do have a couple of friends at the school but both use breakfast club due to work.

If 9:30 is when you can get in then that’s when you can get in. You get dependants leave (unpaid I think) so if your boss gets funny then say you’ll take 1hr 30 of these.

Those saying the husband should do it, it sounds like he’s too ill too and OP is the best judge of that atm.

Your manager will be fine at least your going your just going to be late, just think in a few days when you and the kids catch what your husband has you won't be going in at all.

Glad it's all sorted OP. Good idea to join the whatsapp - you need local parent friends to rely on for this kind of emergencies. We used to help each other out and it makes such a difference. Hope your DH feels better soon.

@Rocknrollstar that wasn’t proper flu then if you were able to do the school run. People often describe a horrible heavy cold as flu.

I’ve had it once and it took me about 30 minutes to walk downstairs to the toilet and back up to bed again. I was only in my 30s and fit, I felt about 125. Awful. Absolutely no way could I have left the house to do a school run.

When I was in your husband’s condition I had sepsis. I think that’s the priority here.

Glad you got it all sorted OP and I hope your DH feels better soon

@Mouk

He needs to suck it up, bring the kids to school and then go home and get back into bed. It's flu not V&D. I'm sure you've battled on through when sick.

Not V&D? OP literally says "He’s been sick in the night and feels dreadful."

I've had flu. It wasn't like a bad cold or even an awful cold. I physically couldn't get out of bed. And if I had somehow managed to do so, being in charge of children whether walking (again would not have been physically possible) or even worse, driving, would have been so selfish and stupid I wouldn't have considered it for a second.

I’ve checked signs for sepsis - I don’t think it’s that - but I know things can change with sepsis.

Sepsis scares the life out of me - my mum has nearly died twice from it

Same here. If someone had put thousands of pounds in cash downstairs when I had flu and said I could keep it if I could get it, I'm not sure I could have physically gotten out of bed and all the way down the stairs to get it. Same with glandular fever. Everyone experiences illnesses differently so to dismiss flu in the way some posters have is bizarre.

You can actually. My husband passed his diagnosised flu. I only managed to do the school run because of cold and flu tablets. Then spent three hours trying to get warm wearing a coat in bed.

I never get how people have a kid get to age 9 and not know the other school parents. Is it an urban thing with maybe much bigger schools? My eldest is 7 and i can easily think of 15 sets of parents in his class i could ask to walk mine in of a morning. People will literally just put out a cry for help "can anyone have tom & sarah from 7.30 this morning & take to school" or "i'm stuck on the train, can anyone pick up olly for me? I'll be back by 4". Ive lost track of the times Ive done a favour like this for a neighbour. Sometimes its not even a kid in my DC class, my neighbours girls are each one year below my two but I've walked them a couple times.

Some of the comments are ridiculous, sometimes men and women can surprisingly be unwell enough to not be able to do a school run whether it’s a long trip or a few minutes. I hope he feels better soon!

probably abit late now with the timing so I hope your daughter got to school ok and everything’s alright xx

And when I had flu it took me half an hour to walk from the bedroom to the toilet and I physically would not have been able to drive a car.

If you were doing the school run I suggest you either didn't have flu or had it very mildly.

You have been fortunate enough to never be really sick then. Trust me, if you're THAT ill, it's bloody impossible to make it to the loo without passing out, never mind getting into a car and driving kids to school.

Instead of condemning anyone, thank your lucky stars that you've never had to experience what it's like to be horrifically ill.

@WithACatLikeTread

You can actually. My husband passed his diagnosised flu. I only managed to do the school run because of cold and flu tablets. Then spent three hours trying to get warm wearing a coat in bed.

This is such a strange way of thinking. "You can actually." No, you did. You have no idea if that is because your flu was less severe than someone else's, or because your medication worked etc.

When I had glandular fever I lost an incredibly scary amount of weight because I literally couldn't bear to swallow the pain was so bad. A friend had it too and while the pain was awful, she could bear eating.

Maybe her pain threshold is different to mine, maybe my symptoms were worse. Who knows. But if she had said "You can eat, I did" when she has no idea whether our throats were equally sore, I would have thought she was pretty silly.

😒 What? You'd stick your child in a car with a complete stranger with no background check? I mean yes a DBS is only as good as the day it was done but still it's something.

Isn’t flu like COVID, vast spectrum of symptoms and how badly it affects you. I’m guessing those who managed the school run were not as badly impacted as those who couldn’t get out of bed (although very kind of them to spread it around!)

Everyone who says they did the school run, ran a marathon, climbed a mountain etc with flu need a day to experience what it's like to be severely ill with proper flu. That would be a horrible eye opener.

Most people never experience severe flu in their life, or only once or twice.

What decide just today, you're walking to school now, off you go. Yes I know it's a 45 min walk, but you'll be fine, no prep or anything

Our school doesn't allow children to walk home alone until year 6, so not always that easy!

It is the dismissive you didn't have flu because you could do this or that thinking that annoys me. Pretty sure if it wasn't for the fact that my husband was more ill than me and no family nearby to help that I would have laid down all day. It certainly felt an awful illness but there was no choice.