What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

Are you 100% certain that your dh wasn't playing you up?

My ex was apparently irrefutable to women. Even the hairdresser in a relationship came onto him.

I never witnessed any of this either my own eyes funny enough.

Collecting as many numbers as possible or they thought you were swingers?

Good for your @5128gap

And it definitely happened @Sunnyandsilly

Super blunt:
She's a single Mum who's probably had one or more crappy relationships. She decided to make a play for a much older man as she knows they will be more likely to treat her better than men her own age. He will also likely have a higher status job and more assets than guys around her age.
That he looks good for his age means two things: The first, obviously, is that he is attractive. The second, that he hasn't gone to seed in a long-term relationship or with middle-age, so he won't with her. (I have a theory that older men and women who make the BEST of themselves - attract attention generally, even from younger people)
Finally, because he is happily paired up, it shows that another woman wants him - so he should be decent.
I also think she lacks morals, but that's a more personal take!

Most of us have social media for that. You don't nessarily need someone's number to stay in touch.

Just to add, If I was in my thirties with kids and single, an older guy would be a good match as guys a similar age are likely to have kids already or be aiming to start a family.
I'd assume any kids he had would be grown up and independent.
I sound very calculating (I'm really not) but I would NEVER target an attached man.

Gosh mumsnet is so misinformed when it comes to OnlyFans it’s embarrassing.

@Alltheshoes74

Wow OP, this is outrageous!!!!

Ignore those making excuses for her - I 100% believe it, I had a friend just like her (note the word 'had'), who loved the chase of married men. She'd get a massive confidence boost chasing married or taken men, and them choosing her over their current partners. Alcohol can make people very brazen!

There is also the possibility she does some sex work and thought he might be interested in being a client.

Really? It's not a word I've heard used - at least openly - in many years. That's even accounting for the fact that misogynistic attitudes to women have gone backwards in recent decades rather than progressing.

Is that the 'vocabulary' of the last century? Or the one before that?

I have my own thoughts on why she did it but that's not for on here as I'm sure I'd be crucified or accused of being delusional.

She thought you are as good if better looking than her, even though you're older than her, was jealous, and wanted to prove she could pull your man?

She commented on your clothing/accessories, was jealous of your standard of living and wanted to pull your husband to get one up on you, or to try to get stuff like that for herself (thinking he's v comfortably off)?

I think your DH is bullshitting you. It never happened

Wondering why she asked him for his number and didn't just give him hers? This would have been normal back in the day to indicate an interest in someone - maybe things have changed?

Age means nothing if attractive, especially if they're not looking for a relationship. Young men too also try it on with attractive women old enough to be their mother. As the old saying goes 'The older the fiddle the better the tune' 🤣

I wouldn't like that, but just brush it off @Alltheshoes74

I doubt he was horrified. He'll be bragging about it to all his mates 😂

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OP

What action did you take??

How is her being a "single mum" relevant?

some women do this to inflame a relationship between a couple, to get joy from causing disruption.

I think DH has some questions to answer here. Lots of red flags. I would do some digging OP. It’s usually the man who instigated cheating.

Maybe she wanted the number for you both to babysit for her if she’s a single mum…

I’m kidding, I think it’s very likely it did happen. Some people, not just women, will flirt with someone even in their partners presence. I’ve had men do it with me around my DH, and last week an older woman flirted with my DH in front of me! So it isn’t just younger women doing it with older men.

The OP probably just said this so people know she’s single.

You've missed the part where the OP was sat right next to him for the whole interaction then, I take it?

Apparantly single mums in their 30s have a history of failed relationships and know that men their dad's age will treat them better. Especially those men who are already married and will trade in their middleaged wives for them. Apparantly these guys are considered a real prize amongst single mums who roam cocktail bars in a tireless quest to steal one from his wife. It's all here on the thread, so do keep up!