What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

Well that's quite the drip feed. And you remember they were all wearing rings?

Incidentally OH and I don't wear rings neither does DF, DFIL or my three DBILs.

She was a bitch OP! No doubt about it.

I find behaviour like this disgraceful, horrible and disrespectful!

Being drunk isn’t really an excuse, if she acts like a dick when drunk then she needs to drink less!

Someone is convinced I slept with their boyfriend (moons ago) despite me reassuring them that I’ve never even been alone with the guy!… ever! I still hate the thought that they think that 30 years on…. It isn’t something I’d ever knowingly do, and I’m not a one night stand kind of person anyway.

Of course a younger woman chatting him up is flattering. He can still feel flattered while appreciating how awful it was of her!

You know what you’re right 2 don’t but my husband and another does and it was my husband she approached

This.. young women are not looking at men old enough to be their dad apart from the odd anomaly.
She is just that anomaly. Not a nice woman at all.

I'm sorry that your husband cared so little for his family that he left you and your boys. This woman didn't take him though, your husband is not an object that could be taken, he is a sentient being with free will. He is also a twat of the highest order who has no personal integrity.

This thread was never going to go well 😂 This is MN - no one can have an DH attractive enough to warrant women slyly trying to get his number, especially younger women - everyone will assume it's a lie. If you or your partner are attractive, you must never put that in a thread on MN or there will be a pile on. Men are generally considered to be lying if they say that someone has chatted them up/is after them - they've done something to instigate it. People doing random shit like asking married men for their numbers always have an innocent motive, like wanting to meet up with you both, thinking he's a tradesman etc. This is the parallel universe of MN.

Meanwhile, in the real world, people do weird, inappropriate, bolshy stuff, especially when alcohol is involved. Men do this kind of thing frequently, so it's not beyond the realm of possibility that a woman would too. I believe you and your DP. Some people are just cheeky like that, both sexes!!

Or are with middle-aged men that no other women would be attracted to.

Whispers - the young me was attracted to older men and I’m now married to one. - runs and hides.

I’m sure she just wanted him to mentor her.

I think most women with middle aged men would be realistic enough to know that it's highly unlikely women their daughters age would be attracted to them. Not impossible, but certainly not sufficiently likely that we'd need go round like rottweilers snarling at the thought of anyone younger and more attractive entering their orbit, or frightening ourselves with myths and folk devils of predatory single mums. So much fear of young women on here. Surely when you were young you weren't chasing old married men? And if not, why do you think its so much of a worry these days?

I am an average-ish middle aged man. The first time I had a teenage girl graffiti "XXXX 4 Sweden99" was when I was 45! It was very uncomfortable. Were I to be at a MN meeting, I am pretty sure that no-one would find me special and it is only 1% of women less than half my age that do.
It is clear there is a lot of insecurity on this thread. It happens, it is not that big a deal.

I think she was out to cause trouble, some people, sadly, get off on that type of behaviour, cue 'did you see her face when I asked for his number,' etc.

The people who are saying this is a ‘stealth brag’ or be made it up … seriously? The OP is stating a fact - some woman who is a friend of no woman hit on her husband right beside her … they’ve been happily married for years. Some women are awful! Some women have no morals. Married men have affairs because women like this one facilitate them …

Insecurity; not to mention apparent surprise that there is no 'gendered' code of loyalty and that some people - male and female - behave like dicks.

Well. Colour me shocked.

I'm repeating this (sorry) as she wasn't a teenage girl! That's a completely different scenario.

Yes some teenagers can do daft things and/or be inappropriate now and again - including fancying inappropriate people!

I’d like to know what was said

This would have been brilliant 😅

Yes it would of been brilliant

While it may be highly unrealistic, it actually happened to the writer. Last winter we met a couple whose husband is a big wig at a company we do business with. They married after a brief office affair three years ago- he is twice her age and was a very high income earning executive (upwards one million annual compensation when they met. (He is pot bellied silver haired, sagging face and she is drop dead gorgeous). That does not mean he couldn't be found adorable because presumably we love a person for their personality, right? If that is the case then why do women spend a fortune on hair, skin, fashion to look better, money they could spend on financial security for themselves and their families, if they have one? Any way he dumped his wife, married her and she wanted a larger waterfront home so he purchased one to make his little girl happy. He is now facing embezzlement charges as forensic accountants try to figure out the whole shebang. She has left and is suing for the home (worth millions and demanding he pay the mortgage and the suit is based on reasonable expectations that he would provide for her and not commit criminal acts that put that in danger of not occurring). Will see if she is able to set a new legal precedent concerning intentions.....No one is being paranoid here. The woman asked a married man who is not a contractor or apparently useful to her in business or babysitting for his phone number....Drunk and blind? Find older men hot because some have more financial security? It's not just single parents who want financial security....lots of assumptions made about women being paranoid.

@akasalishsea, It might just be that some women much prefer older men.

Aside from that, some will find wealth the be all and end all. Others will be just calculating and seeking money.

People vary.

@OttersAreMySpiritAnimal @DaisyChain505 but grown men don't need to be taught this shit by a woman! They can work it out for themselves. Just like they can work out how to assemble furniture!

We will never know.

Shame

That's just horrible, I wouldn't be surprised this truly happened and she asked for the number, some women/men have no respect nor moral.

Still, if this happens to me I wouldn't share it with my boyfriend, just to make him feel bad? :/