What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

But that's a totally different scenario @akasalishsea and highly unusual one I'd say. Yes some people are attracted to rich people or rather attracted to their wealth (if that is what happened in your case). There are men and women who want a 'sugar daddy' apparently even in this day and age - and I'm sure the same goes for wealthy women. The age of the 'target' is irrelevant (to them). On the whole middle-aged men are safe from marauding young women and the wives worrying about it on here realistically have nothing to worry about - unless they are one of the 'super rich'! And the men who have their 'heads turned' by other women (which is nub of the worry isn't it?) should be the target of any ire IMO.

Women and men spending money on improving their looks is done for all sorts of reasons - not just for some women to bag a partner to provide them with financial security.

I agree @Mothership4two

I wonder, had the young woman in pp scenario received an opportunity for the same lifestyle from a young man whether she'd still have chosen the old one. Because that's the only way we could conclude from that that she is attracted to older men.

I wouldn't share it either best to say nothing !

Seriously, some women prefer much older men.

Very rare though.

Yes. Let's say 1:10.
I am a mediocre man, but have been middle aged and single and had young women be very keen to make my acquaintance. I am not deluded, I was of interest as most men my age were unattractive and most young women do not fancy middle aged men.

Nah much rarer than that. You must be special 😂

Nah why you making up stories for 🤣

Yes, this. Similar has happened to me - much to the ridiculous delight of my husband. Stop gaslighting the OP everyone!

I know girls like this, they stink of desperation with a hint of chlamydia
However they do this because they can not hold onto a relationship and are litterly desperate to feel like they are not hopeless but act In the most hopeless desperate way,
Pity these bitches...they deserve some type of attention

I do not think it is gaslighting, they are just insecure.

I dont know why people are saying this couldn't possibly have happened- plenty of women just arent very nice. Just look at the many threads about CF friends or neighbours that also happen to be female.

I agree it's not super common for young women to chase after older married men but there are women out there who are capable of this and do this kind of stuff. Some people just dont care about others, it's a fact of life.

Its hardly unbelievable that not all women are caring decent people.

Nonsense. Dismissing people as 'insecure' is just a way of belittling those who don't support your own preferred view. In your case, seems to be that as an older man, young women are still attracted to you.
If there's any insecurity at play here it comes from older women getting anxious at the thought that young single mothers preying on their middle aged husbands is something they need to worry about. It may well happen, but generally where the man is wealthy/powerful/indicating he could benefit the young woman/an eager participant. And its extremely rare with a gap that size. One in a hundred, not one in ten according to the stats on age gap relationships.
Those of us who are realistic know that we can safely take our middle aged husbands out without risk they'll be mobbed and snatched away under our noses. Which is the opposite of insecurity surely?

@5128gap, I am not sure it is more reasonable to suggest people are gaslighting (basically emotional abuse) rather than insecure. I would have thought being insecure is more sympathetic.
Clearly, the large majority of women are mainly attracted to partners their own are. A minority are attracted to older men as a preference in itself.
For myself, I am not a particularly attractive man. I wrote myself that I am make it on the back up list when young, not having any issue with women swooning all over men. If I were Brad Pitt, it would all be less surprising to me. That I am decidedly average is the point.

The only stink around here is of the contempt, hostility and hatred for women that's rolling off this post like a miasma.

I don't think there's a need to label people saying that this is an unusual situation and not indicative of a pattern of behaviour in young women as either gaslighters OR insecure. We all speak from our experience and my own experience (which happens to be supported on this occasion by data on the number of much older men/younger women relationships) is that this is so rare, that to worry about it as a pattern, asking 'whats wrong with some women' and making stereotypes about predatory young single mums is about as necessary as worrying because your partner plays the tuba, and some women love brass bands.

Yes it's truly disturbing, especially regarding single mothers.

So woman that go after married men are good ?