What is wrong with some women!

[Alltheshoes74]

Went out for a few cocktails with my husband Saturday evening, we were sat at the bar having a lovely time. I went to the loo and got chatting to some girls in there. Later in the evening they passed us and said hi and stopped for a chat. One was local and one was not - the local girl was mid 30's, single mum. We are older - she could be my husbands daughter! I didn't notice anything odd then as we left it turns out she asked my husband for his number!! What on earth! I mean his ego is now bursting out but we were amazed at the absolute brazenness of it all. Am still horrified that someone would do that - even when i was young and single I'd never dream of doing that.

Some women have no respect for other women or men. They are out for what they can get. I hope that your dh said no I’m happily married.

Because OP still hasn't told us exactly what was said to give her this perception, despite being asked to elaborate by several pp.

Also, asking to stay in touch with people whose company you enjoyed isn't necessarily “being a twat“

I think its a bit of a stretch to title this 'what's wrong with some women' on the basis of what is a vanishingly rare occurance, involving just one women. I'm willing to stick my neck out here and say that with the exception of the rich and/or powerful/famous, the average middle aged man will go the entire rest of his life without ever being asked by a woman his daughters age for his number. So, what is wrong with this woman? My monies on a bet to see if he'd bite. Maybe testing a theory that married men aren't faithful, a joke, or for her own ego to prove she can.

The fact she asked my husband on the sly whilst he was sat next to me would definitely suggest she didn't want to keep in touch with us as a couple - you'd ask the wife not the husband surely. It was most certainly an invite to hook up request. And yes, he told her he was happily married and not interested.

Right, I'm sure her intentions were pure, whispering to the bloke ]. Unless the bloke in question has form for gaslighting and was trying to make you jealous?

I think as dating has become more dehumanising this creeps into other people's Iives a bit too sometimes. She must have a miserable time to be reduced to that.

No, that's not him at all - he's not that kind of man, he was as horrified that she'd done it as I was

I have honestly had a young drunk girl kiss a guy I was dating on the lips in front of me, it wasn't because she fancied him, some odd dominance behaviour.

You still haven't told us what she said, OP. It may be that you're completely right, but without that detail I can't answer your question 'Am I being unreasonable?'

When you say she did it on the sly, did she wait till you'd gone? Whisper to him? Say "I want to see you alone" to him? Because if she asked in a normal voice while you were sat there it seems to be the opposite of "on the sly", no?

Yeah, I’m not sure either, did he ask for hers? Or make it up? I think the likelihood of that happening is limited to be honest. Much more likely he asked for hers, or he was trying to make you jealous and totally made it up.

So he’s both horrified and gloating with an inflated ego?

You weren't there.
You went to the loo and in that time an attraction was established and you only have your husband's side of the story. He's told you to make you feel a certain way and you are taking that out on the woman, despite not hearing her side.

You sound like a certain type of woman yourself.

Op deep deep down they are all that kind of man 😂

Perhaps she was asking your husband for your number and he didn’t like saying.

That’s weird. Agree that either your husband is making it up or there would definitely be an angle he’s not worked out in his own head. Yep she absolutely could have an onlyfans and is trying to get men to look her up!

I thought his ego was bursting? Come now. Horrified? If your husband is that attractive he will be no stranger to female attention and have had experience of deflecting it without being rendered horror struck, surely. If he's telling you he was horrified I think he's saying what he thinks you want to hear.

@Pixiesgirl

Why do people by default doubt the op's perceptions? She was literally there.

But she didn't perceive anything. It was related it to her. It's not her perceptions about this that some people are doubting as, at the time, her perception was everything was OK.

I'm finding it hard to believe that not only would someone do this literally right under someone's nose, but that the wife was completely oblivious and didn't hear or notice anything - no awkwardness or odd body language or DH's altered demeanor (which could have been shocked/angry/offended/overjoyed/something out of the ordinary). If this happened to me and OH I would have defintely picked up that something was amiss.

Yep, @Mothership4two I'm having difficulty accepting the DH's version too.

OH IS a bit dim in this area, but in this scenario he would likely assume she was asking for our number and probably brought me into the conversation.

Quite a few posters on here seem to be enjoying trying to gaslight the OP!

It does seem strange behaviour from the woman. Most of them especially if they know the man’s married steer well clear, even flirting, as they know that he’s off limits, more so stay away if the wife is about.

It does sound like something a married man might say to his wife to get her jealous or prove he’s “still got it”. Whatever “it” is 🤣!

You mean for a threesome or something?!

Didn't happen.

😂

We don't even know what the woman said let alone whether anything sexual was suggested.